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Hi Rowass.

The only way to have a meaningful relationship is to spend time together. For some people, an online/chat relationship is all they really expect. For most people, like you and me I’d say, it has to mainly be in the real world or it’s a waste of time.

And it’s good to see you, you’ve been gone a long time.

my friend had same situation….
she turned out to be a tease…..
like everthink can happen…but….. doestn look so good

sory to dissapoint u

If she’s in the same town, there shouldn’t be an excuse. How old are you and she, if you don’t mind my asking?

age doesnt mater
just try to find a new girl, but stay friends with her 2, u never know how this can turn around ;)

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Rowass, Gone wrote:
I just hate when people find out how old I am.

That’s okay, I have a son one year younger than you. He’s really smart; I wouldn’t think any less of you for it.

The reason I asked is that if you and she were in your early 20’s there would be no excuse for not hanging out; you would both be able to drive and parents and school activities wouldn’t be a factor. At 14 though you have to work around those things, and just hanging out can be a challenge.

;)

Lemme do a mass invite.

communication is key, you need to ask her point blank if shes really that busy or is she just using you for enjoyment.Dont settle for excuses.if you listen close enough you can tell if its truth or just excuses.if its excuses then shes not being honest,not with you and maybe not even herself.

I say, trust your gut, or your brain, whichever comes first =P

I wouldent count on it

From a girl’s point of view, if I’m making that many excuses and it has been 4 weeks since you’ve seen me than I am only interested in friendship. But I would just tell you that if you asked me. So, suck it up and just ask her what she wants. You may nto like the answer but at least you’ll know what’s going on. I am so glad I’m not a teenager anymore. I would never survive,lol

Ok so here is the advice from two females:

My 13 y/o daughter - maybe she’s not allowed to date yet or maybe she just likes you as a friend, either way you aren’t going to know until you ask her.

My answer (42 y/o female) My daughter is really really smart and I agree. Don’t spin on unknowns, get the answers straight from the source, accept that it maybe what you don’t want to hear and then you can move on with your own life.

Jade wrote:
Ok so here is the advice from two females:

My 13 y/o daughter - maybe she’s not allowed to date yet or maybe she just likes you as a friend, either way you aren’t going to know until you ask her.

My answer (42 y/o female) My daughter is really really smart and I agree. Don’t spin on unknowns, get the answers straight from the source, accept that it maybe what you don’t want to hear and then you can move on with your own life.

i agree with this.
ask why you seem to never be able to go out together

she might jus be wanting too get too know u better! give her a lil room mayb.

Hey Rowass! Normally I would get a good idea why a girl is behaving the way she is. But to be honest, since you’re not giving us too many details about the situation (mostly because you’re pretty much in the dark yourself), it’s very hard to say!

There could be soooo many reasons why she is not meeting with you as much as you would like her to. And there really isn’t any other way to know than by asking her, either face to face or on the phone, preferably.

In any case, if this goes on too long and you feel you are not getting what you expected out of this relationship, at some point, you will have to back off a bit and concentrate on other activities and people. And if you have to do this, don’t despair, maybe a little indifference on your part is what she needs to make her change her behavior towards you. Who knows!

Well, I’m not a chick obviously, so I can’t advise from a female POV, but I say you go up and intiate contact in real life. She is in your school I’d think, try and talk to her there. The more attached she gets with the entirety of you, not just what you type, the more she’ll “find” time to hang out with you out of school….

hmm…do you know any of her friends? cause you could talk to them and see if they find shes always busy too… it kinda depends on the girl though. i mean some girls are just big teases, some just like to lead you on but then theres those who really do like you and may just have a busy schedule. so basically its up to you whether you wanan take the chance or not. ask her out and see what she says?

youre a great guy though. i dont see why she wouldnt like you! youre a really sweet, fun guy =)

btw i dont know if id say this before but….. I MISSS YOUUUUUUU
(if you couldnt tell i was being sarcastic with the first part… im pretty sure i say that about 10 times every time i talk to you LOLL!)

Hey Rowass I agree with those other people who suggested you get a straight answerr from her, ask her why you guys can never haang out and if she does want to or if she dosent like you that way, come on rowass you know you could get any girl you want, after all you know the nante, that gives you instant game my friend.

well she could be busy. but i dont think she can be busy for 4 weeks. stop texting her and see what happens

how has it gone?

and how have you been?

I am excellent. I have been learning more since I have graduated than when I was in school. :)

what have you been up to?

I’m wondering if maybe she is shy about hanging out with a guy she likes. She is 14..some people haven’t had a boyfriend yet at that age. Maybe she is afraid she’ll say or do something ridiculous…so she keeps avoiding hanging out. I’ve seen it happen!

Tears_of_Rain wrote:

Rowass, Gone wrote:

kitt e wrote:
I’m wondering if maybe she is shy about hanging out with a guy she likes. She is 14..some people haven’t had a boyfriend yet at that age. Maybe she is afraid she’ll say or do something ridiculous…so she keeps avoiding hanging out. I’ve seen it happen!

I am in love with that possibility!

Well, you won’t know if it is right until you ask! C’mon Rowass, We all want to know how it ends…so hurry up and ask ;D

i agree! :D

..And if she still talks to you, but acts funny about hanging out..I think you should do sweet things for her from a distance. Like..you said she’s in softball..go to her games! Be in the front row and cheer for her and stuff. Bring her an ice cream cone or something. But stop if she acts weirded out by you! Sometimes that can be too much, but I think it’d be worth a shot…especially since you guys talk & text all the time.

Hmmmm…

Just grow some man fruit, and ask her out.

well she might just be one of those girls that gets guys to like them but doesn’t like the guy back for sport…like catch and release fishing.
or she could really be that busy. I have a friend that I hang out with maybe one time every 6 months or so cause she’s really that busy
the only way to know if she likes you is to make a move

oh, and tell her you like her before you ask if she likes you back, cause if you just ask her without saying you like her first, she might be scared to tell you if she does