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Unemployed and Uninspired…

Ive been unemployed for 7 months now, its been pretty emotional. Self doubt, depression, axiety, and just plain o misery. But I’ve been spending all this time looking for a new job and started to think, whats the purpose?

I dont want to go from a job I hated into another job I hate. So i realize is there something more in life than just getting a job making money buying a house starting a family, etc.

Its hard to contemplate the meaning of life while depressed by the fact that theres no purpose in your life. And the fact that theres no purpose becomes very clear when you employed and have alot of time.

How do you find ones purpose?

How do you be happy?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

What are you looking at for a career? Any ideas at all?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (4 hours, 25 minutes after post)

Survival is the first priority. Forget about “cool jobs” right now. The job market is in the worst shape since 1930. Biggest lesson: you cannot give up. You keep going. I sent out 1,500 resumes before landing my last job. Have a plan. Execute it. There ARE jobs out there . . . but you’ve got to really dig them out. You really need to network, or talk to friends and relatives and associates. Forget job boards like Monster, etc. And forget job fairs. They are both tremendous wastes of time. Go to the Web sites of the companies you are interested in, and post resumes there. And network, network, network! Hope this helps.

P.S. I more than doubled my last salary . . . and I had been very discouraged, too!

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (7 hours, 58 minutes after post)

What do you need right now to survive? What are your skills? You might fins that providing a service is the way to go. Be your own boss. My wife has developed a successful business for herself just handling book keeping and taxes for small businesses that want to focus on their work like hair stylists, plumbers, auto shops. They don’t want to mess with the books. When visits some weekely, some monthly. Don’t give up… think outside the box…

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markNtoronto offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (12 hours, 15 minutes after post)

Thats the problem i guess… what should I do… I find that I dont have a specific passion, say like a musician or a teacher…

Im surviving… as I live at home with my parents and have very little expenses… besides the emotional expense…

The thing is i think its more than just finding a job… I’m worried that I can never be happy or find that job I love that makes you want to get up in the morning…

Yes I thought about starting my own business… million dollar question what to start?

I’m like a jack of all trades, master at none…

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (13 hours, 54 minutes after post)

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (13 hours, 54 minutes after post)
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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (16 hours, 19 minutes after post)

Don’t hold out for the perfect job. Sometimes what motivates you to get up in the morning is knowing you are moving closer to achieving your goals. The “job” might not be perfect, but saving money and gainng independence might be VERY rewarding. One step at a time.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

There are “enjoyable” jobs that pay next to nothing. There are super-paying jobs that make you miserable. You should try to find a balance . . . a livable salary where the “misery index” isn’t terribly high. I almost became a schoolteacher, but was put off by the poverty-level salaries paid in most states. I kind of wish I had done that, though, yeah . . . I wish more than kinda!

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 21 hours after post)

Well the next job I get, Im probably going to take it… I turned down a job because I didnt feel it was right… Sort of regretting it now…

Ive been on a self improvement binge… I listen to alot of audio books… I find that it sort of keeps me motivated… sort allows me to understand myself more…

I guess thats why im here… because I want to help people… and I want to helped

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chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 21 hours after post)

Mark–don’t turn down any more jobs, unless they are immoral, unethical or illegal, or would impair your health. The first priority is to get a job. NO job is going to be perfect. Wish I had been offered a job while I was there! Now I’m “on assignment” to the Middle East. Since I left, the job offers have been rolling in. It figures!

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 21 hours after post)

I totally hear you Chev. I think at that time I wasnt ready to take it as I didnt believe it was my first priority. That finding meaning and purpose was, I’m not closer. But I realize life is imperfect and that I will not have an Epiphany on my purpose like that in a day, month or even year.

How do you stay positive about your life?

I’m constantly afraid that I will wake up oneday and think that I wasted my life… Living by the scripts of society and others, bound by your own insecurities…

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chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

What you must realize, Mark, is that 90 percent of people find their fulfillment and reasons to keep going OUTSIDE of work. Jobs are simply not configured to be entertaining or satisfying, but to get certain specific tasks done. A survey done some years ago revealed that 80 percent of people hated their jobs. So we look for fulfillment and a sense of purpose elsewhere.

Just think about Einstein, Mark. He was a patent clerk before he was a physicist. He used to hide his notes on general relativity when his boss at the patent office walked by. He moved on and found his “niche,” which was in the world of science. He definitely wasn’t feeling fulfillment while working as a patent clerk.

So find some other activities to engage yourself in, and look at a job as a means to securing the things you really want to do. And . . . if you happen to find a job that you really enjoy doing, you will be one of the few who has truly found one of those “glamorous” jobs!

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