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hey,

i love my girlfriend.
but the other day she caught me staring at another girl.
now, i don’t recall this moment.
but nonetheless i am so much trouble
and the girl she said i was drooling over, i have absolutely no respect for,
i need help with telling her that i love her so much, and that i never would dream of hurting her like that
she is so mad at me, and i only want to make things better.
this is really our first big bump in our relationship, and im stuck,
help me please ;(

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mar98 7 #
Dracut, MA, US | 9 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Just tell her you feel awful about it and tell her that you love her
not the other girl. I am sure everything will be okay. She’s not going to leave you.

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fractal.scatter 346 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (7 minutes after post)

You’re a human. More than that, you’re a guy. It’s what guys do I’m afraid. She needs to learn this and not be so jeleous. Having said that, don’t make it totally obvious to her that you’re looking.

But if you don’t rember it then clearly it wasn’t that improtant to you. Maybe she’s just a little insecure at the moment and needs some reassurance from you.

It’s gonna happen again though; whether you love you gorgeous girlfriend to the ends of the Earth, guys will still look at other girls every now and then.

She just needs to learn to accept that it’s her she’s with, not them. That should make her happier.

lollycocktail 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months ago (8 minutes after post)

wow thats a tough one if i saw my guy checkin out another girl id be upset…so what would i neeed to hear to make it better?? well…you should say you think she i beautiful….you love her smile…..your eyes might wander to glance at some girl passing by but they dont compare to her and say that its just a guy habit and she should never take it personally because shes the one you wanna be with…..shes clearly just insecure….:)

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Dr. Ralph 82 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Sounds to me like if you stay with her you will face a lifetime of jealous, controlling behaviour…

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DoubleGin19 88 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (13 minutes after post)

just tell her, you love her more than anything. but at the same time you have a pair of eyes. you will always admit that while you may look/drool over other women, you will never act on it, as you care to much for the girl your with.
its not wrong to look at another girl, and say yes she is attractive. but as long as you dont act on it there is nothing to be sorry for. surely your girlfriend looks at other guys, and says, wooooow hes attractive? …….

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lollycocktail 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months ago (13 minutes after post)

no i dont think so…if it turns into a pattern of her being insanely jealous than ditch her but if shes just insecure and doesnt want you leaving her for sum1 else cut her sum slack

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PheeGee 117 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (21 minutes after post)

Um, like shes never looked at another guy? Everyone does! So long as you stick to the saying “look but dont touch” youve not done anything wrong.

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