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well what I would do is tell her how you feel, because maybe she can help you through this, much as that might be painful.
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9 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)
Sometimes people act in a cruel insenstive way because they are ashamed of the things they have done… I suspect your ex is exactly that… ashamed of her behaviour whilst with you and rather than admit that to you she will put on a front of i don’t care less.
It will seem like the end of the world for you at the moment… trust me it isn’t. There is someone out there who would love to have a boyfriend with your qualities. Your ex is likely to get hurt in her new relationship and in my opinion you shouldn’t lose any sleep over that.
It’s only been a few days and the pain you are feeling is still very raw… But give yourself time to heal and then look to the future. You deserve to be treated so much better than she treated you and you will find a lovely girl who will be blessed to have a boyfriend as nice as you in her life.
first of all dont turn to drugs or alcohol. second: i kno how u feel im a high scool student and i kno that most people would say “get over it there are plenty of fish in the sea” or something like that, but its not that simple. i dont kno much about love, because no-ones ever loved me. but all i can say is hang in there. i know its hard but youve got to try. at one point u will forget about her, but it’ll take awhile. u should just try to ignore the pain. its kinda hard to explain, but read a book, watch a movie or try something to get away and escape reality. i’m sorry if im not being much help. and im sorry about wat happened to u the pain feels endless, but it will go away
Don’t be depressed because of this girl. She is not worth it.
She lied to you, cheated on you, pretty much stabbed you in the back. And now she doesn’t even care about you that much… so why should you care about her so much?
I know it’s hard right now, but that’s because it’s only been a few days.
Just start thinking positively. You’re done having someone stab you in the back. All that sh1t is gone.
Life will get better.
haro is right, why should u love a girl who cheated on u, and lied to u? think about it…
It’s a hard thing ot hear, but you have to accept that its over, that she’s not a part of your life any more. Try not to spend too long dwelling over what she did.
Don’t show her, or the rest of the school, how bad you’re feeling. Just try and avoid her, and try and act like you couldn’t care less if you do see her.
But you don’t need to keep it up all the time. Spend time with your friends - they’re the best people to make you feel better when you’re down, and if you’re close enough to her, you could try talking to your mum - older chick, ya know?
It’ll take time, but you will get over her. I’m not saying that the time that you guys spent together was nothing, cos you did have fun right? But that’s in the past, so that’s where it should stay.
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i know that i should get over it, and she is not a good person to be with, but i still love her. And she knows i’m sad. One of my friends asked her how she would feel if i killed myself and she said she wouldn’t care.
I would move on from her as what she did to you was harsh, you deserve better than that and you know what? with your qualities you will meet someone that loves you for you. I think she is putting on a front by being all happy, really she must be feeling guilty in what happened.
Plus if she does lose here virginity to the new guy and then (as its young love) when things don’t work out for them and they do break up then she will realise how good you were to her.
Plenty more fish in the sea my friend you deserve someone that will treat you much better.
Don’t do any of those things you plan to do. By the way, welcome to the club! We all went through what you are going through, and we are still here. Another milestone for growing up. Forget about her, there are tons of girls to choose from. Time will heal everything. It will be hard first but believe me, you will survive it.
Maybe you need to take a step back. Why do you love her, after what she did to you? Can you think of a reason?
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sk84fallen22 wrote:
i know that i should get over it, and she is not a good person to be with, but i still love her. And she knows i’m sad. One of my friends asked her how she would feel if i killed myself and she said she wouldn’t care.
Dude, she doesn’t give a sh*t about you. And you know it.
Of course that would make anyone sad that their ex would think that way of them. It would make me sad if an acquaintance of mine say that they wouldn’t care.
You just have to get over it. It’s not gonna make you better by being depressed.
That’s a bit harsh. It’s not that easy to get over someone. What le dude should realise is that he WILL get over her. In time.
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greeneyes1 wrote:
That’s a bit harsh. It’s not that easy to get over someone. What le dude should realise is that he WILL get over her. In time.
I’m not saying that it’s easy. Just saying that he really should get over her.
You will. Of course, it doesn’t help that you see her at school every day. It would take a lot of strength and discipline but you will overcome of this.
The best thing you can do is try not to dwell on the past, and try not to see it through rose-tinted glasses, like it was ‘perfect’ before this happened.
And it hurts, it does, but it’ll get less.
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and on friday when i was walking in the hall at school, she was behind me and screams “I HATE YOU!”
Are you sure that those words are directed at you?
If so, that doesn’t sound good at all.
Time will help you heal dude.
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9 months, 1 week ago (18 hours, 53 minutes after post)
Hard to do but you have to ignore her… stay well away from her… She is trying to hurt you because she is ashamed of her behaviour… In the process she will hurt you more and that is not fair….SO STAY AWAY FROM HER! Surround yourself with friends… fill your time with stuff to do… anything but just keep busy… You have had a lucky escape from someone who is seriously damaged and would damage you.
im goin through almost the same thing… my gf told me she loved me 2 days ago like she always does. but then she broke up with me and dated another guy in the same day… shes been with him every day since but she keeps telling me shes just confused and hes just a crush.. which doesnt make sense why she would date a “crush” over me. and she even wants to come over and lay with me and kiss me and blah blah. i love her. but what the **** she cant have me and some other guy… its so hard livin with this she wont make up her mind. and im goin through so much **** with parents and moving its hardest time of my life.
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sk84fallen22 i went through a similar thing, how are you coping now mate?
Dude, I know exactly how you feel: and what I realized is, that if you can’t get over a person that you clearly know doesn’t love you, it means you don’t love yourself. And no, I’m not trying to preach crap..but think about it, you want her in your life b/c she makes you feel like you’re worth something right, like you’re somebody, and that suddnely your life has meaning, right. When you’re alone, and she’s gone, now you feel like you’re life isn’t worth living like you got her reply about killing yourself etc. The problem here is this: you’re using her to value yourself, because YOU aren’t able to value yourself. THAT is not love, THAT is need, there’s a difference, no matter what all the romantic sh$$ out there will portray to you. YOU have to realize that with or without her, you are the best f##### person alive, that your life is the most important thing, that it means something, that there is no one else in the world like you- never has been, never will be, and that you’re adding your uniqueness to the world everyday- so to hell with the girl! Once you overflow with your own self-value, your self-esteem will shoot through the roof, and then watch the magic- then girls will be hovering around you like bees- that’s the paradox: the more attached you become for finding love, the more it slips away- the moment you stop giving a sh##, it chases you around. Then, with your new state of mind, parade right in front of her with all your teeth showing and show her that you don’t give a f%%%%% sh## about her, and THEN you’ll have your revenge, and she’ll feel sorry about what she missed out on- and what she can never have again, but even then, be strong, don’t think about going back to her even if she caves in, b/c like everyone else here told you- she is NOT worth it.
I really hate with a passion girls who everyone thinks as beautiful (and who are stuck-up in their own beauty) who use one man after another to get attention and to feel good about themselves at the man’s expense- hurting some sincere guys in the process- I really hope life will eventually punish them.
But anyway, hope what I posted helps you, it may not look that way right now, but you’ll get over her, trust me.
-Mannpreet
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Yeah meh bro listen up everyting will get better it jus takes time life isnt the end and surly u dont wanna lose grip of doing the unthinkable because life has much more to offer than a girl that hurt you trust me the pain will ease and your heart wil get back up to normal easy easy life wil go on and the princess that you awaits will be waiting so dont worry jah everything gonna be alright cuz dey say dont worry bout ah thing no no no no no every little thing gonna be alright woo hoo woo hoo whoo ho…bless
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I feel you bro. :( i just googled something like this. And every word you said related to me. I feel like ****, havent eaten anything and have tried to hurt myself. i have cried over her so much. i really dont have a point to live anymore. They say that there is many fish in the see but i dont believe that.
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i went out with a girl for 3 years and the same thing happen to me .That was 25 years ago .I never fully got over it.
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