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at the end of the day it all comes down to trust. i’ve been through it so many times, and it starts ripping at your relationship. Do you love each other? Is it just a fling? or do you know that this person would never want to hurt you? Chances are its just your mind playing tricks on you, do you have a reason to be insecure?

hey tal ya her and I have been through alot and yes indeed it does rip at me especially, see… we’ve been going out for 3 years 2 days ago….1 1/2 years ago I found her kissing some guy…anyway ya i do know it is trust, and we’ve had our problems in the past but recently we have become more closer.. now she went to Sydney 2 days ago and comes back tomorrow and well she called me to tell me about a guy that her friend introduced her to, which got me jealous but was ok, but than on the phone she would give a different I love you when she was around others than when she was alone. and now she wants to do this and do that which i don’t mind, but than she wants to go to sydney like every 3 months or so, which is ok if we had the money to do so…we have discussed this before only a couple of weeks ago and I even said to her that “what about her, why can’t she come here?” replies were “oh she doesn’t have time” etc…. meh i know its my mind playing around on me but its hard and dunno what to do…

yeah i understand how you feel. i’ve also been cheated on and its very hard to come back from that. maybe she does really love you, she just wants to get out and do other things to. have you told her your feeling insecure?

ya we have discussed and discussed it like heck, and I’m so glad someone knows how i feel, cos i mean i try to chat to mates about it but .. people would say that i need to just pull up my pants and forget about it, than you ask how and they don’t lol… but yes we have discussed and sorted it out than something would come up like a friend of hers telling her he likes her and for some time now a month ago but ya.. I know she really loves me and wouldn’t hurt me again like that.. but again I don’t know???

yeah.. i guess i havnt really completely resolved this problem myself. but! just remember shes with you isnt she? not that other random guy that might like her =)

heya CH..
ya look there’s plenty of reasons why I think she should leave me, but there has been no hint and we do love each other and yes I have had reason to worry like this, its hard because I don’t want the thoughts and feelings.. I want to talk to her about it all today cos the birthday was yesterday, but I’m too scared of hurting her and because she’s in Sydney, I don’t want her to not enjoy the rest of her time… I don’t know if I do talk to her today? or wait til she gets back to discuss this AGAIN…

ya i know aye, she is with me but mmm ya i don’t know lol

maybe you 2 just need 2 spend some time alone together, no phones or anything just the two of you 2 show each other how much you love each other. i find it helps =)

yup thats what i think i will do although she comes back tomorrow morning, I hope we have time for each other that night after work… I hope anyway…

yeah. if you dont just arrange to see her the next day, lol whatever you do dont give up =D goodluck

thank you, you’ve helped alot! thanks

my pleasure =)