My name is Sarah, I’m 14 and I want to commit suicide right now. - Help.com

I’ll take that bet.

You’ve got to remember that life sucks as a teenager, it really does. Its our rite of passage just to survive it. Why do you think your family is so cruel to you? And why did your mother say those thing? Heat of the moment deal?

Ok, she didn’t mean what she said. It was an unfounded moment of rage, very surprising considering the offense.

But think about this, you’re an intelligent young woman, I can see that from your writing at a young age - and you’re a success at school. Your feelings about your friends playing you may be a projection of distrust because of the treatment you get from your family. When you get older, you’ll be able to leave that behind, and you may find your relationship with them improves when you’re not breathing down eachothers necks.

It isn’t easy, it isn’t quick; but light really is at the end of the tunnel.

I hope that you trust me when I say that your family love you more than anything on this Earth. But families are not perfect. They hurt and bully and upset the people they love the most. Sometimes they don’t even know why they are doing it.

Sometimes they get mad at themselves or the things that they do and because you are closest to them its you they gets the blame fot a lot of things. It’s you that feels they are not loved. I know its hard and not fair but it’s just the way a lot of families are.

Mine was like that sometimes too. I felt like my mom and my sister didn’t want me around. When I was 15 something horrible happened and I didn’t see my mom again for another three years and my sister for another two years after that.

I missed them terribly for that time and would have done anything to see them again even though it was a result of something that my mom and sister had done to me.

I’ve tried to commit suicide before. Actually twice before. Most people who want to commit suicide do it because they can’t see a way out of their terrible situation. They can’t live their life the way they have been doing, or can see how they could ever possibly be happy. Most of them don’t want die but they just are not happy living.

Dying is not a solution to being unhappy living. Regret if doing something isn’t nice but at least you have opportunities to sort these things out. If you die you cannot ever regret it. Your family are left to regret it instead but they can never put it right. They live with all of your hurt and pain as well as their own. And as much as you *think* they hate you that’s a wicked thing to do to them.

I understand how you’re feeling. I also understand how your Mom’s feeling having to look after her children whilst your Dad drinks to numb his own pains. She does wish for your life to be happier and in saying what she said I think that’s what she really meant deep down. That she wishes she had never bought you into this situation where you would be so unhappy.

I think this shows she’s aware on some level (in her heart) that you can’t be happy in the situation your family os in at the moment. And she doesn’t know how to change this. Doesn’t know what to do to make it better. And she takes out her frustrations on you. It’s not fair but it’s what happens soemtimes.

It’s good that you have friends. I hope that being with them brings some happiness to you. It’s difficult for you to trust them though and I understand why, but maybe you should give them the benefit of the doubt for the time being. Hang around with them maybe a little more if you can. If they genuinely like you being around (and I’m sure they do), then they would love for you to spend more time hanging out with them. You may even be able to start talking to them about your home life although I doubt you will until you’re able to trust them more. I think you’ll find out that many young guys and gals feel like you do. Hurt like you are hurting now.

I want you to know that I at least want you to be happy. And even though you’ve never met me and I don’t even know who you are; you know for sure that someone out there in the big world cares about you.

I know you’re hurting and feel lost, and it could last a while yet I’m afraid, but I know that you’ll feel better some day. And that on that day you’ll understand what’s happened for the last few years on your life and know that you wont let that happen. That you will enjoy your life and live it just how you want to and that you’ll be so happy. Cause I know you will.

I don’t know whether any of this will change your mind. If you really beleive what I’m saying then I hop it might, but I understand it’s hard for you to trust anyone at the moment.

I want you to be happy. And you will soon. Give your family and especially yourself a chance to prove it.

Take care Sarah. Come talk to us anytime.

Life is worth living. your family might not seem like they like you but the do love you. Hard to believe I know. killing yourself so they can be happy is not the way, you try your best to live up to their expectations, but THEY refuse to see it that way. That is not your fault, its theres, they are sucking away your happiness and probably dont even realize it. Talk to the school counselor or someone else.

xlostintherush wrote:
hahahaha. this is messed up. “okay i’ve decided not to kill myself”
okay, when someone wants to kill themselves, it’s not “okay maybe i will, maybe i won’t” depending on who will give me words of encouragement and who won’t. you were never going to kill yourself and you know it. when someone is suicidal, they’re severely messed up in the head and they don’t decide whether or not to do, they just do it because that’s what their messed up brain makes them do. you’re probably a cute little 14 year old pissed off because mommy and daddy are too busy for you. guess what, it gets worse before it gets better.

I think everyone who answered his post bore that in mind when answering. We all know what teenagers are like in their unhappy situations.

She never said how unhappy she was; maybe it was just a grounding or maybe she is having difficulties at school and forming friendships. Maybe she just feels lonely and wants some attention. I don’t necessarily approve of the way she goes about it, but given her age I’ll put it down to inexperience. Like I said, we all know what teenagers are like.

Comments like that won’t help her confidence and self-esteen, and given we don’t know the exact circumstances surrounding this post, I think they are generally unhelpful and not needed in this context.

sunsetgr wrote:
I don’t want attention. The way I am being raised, I don’t get it and I don’t desire it. I’m an emotional roller coaster, yes I’ll admit it. I can be way up and way down in the same hour. I was very upset at my family that day and now I’m much better. I’ve never been suicidal before, and I wasn’t confident in my decision going into it. I hope you understand I have serious problems with other things and I definetely don’t want attention. i was very embarrassed when posting my question

I know. And it’s good that your were able to talk about it to us :)
Some people ^^ wonder in here days after a post and start making comments like that. And I understand what you mean by not wanting attention. But I didn’t know how to word it you know. These things are difficult to talk about and somtimes you don’t know the right words to express how you’re feeling.

But I’m glad you’re a little happier :)

Are you really 10 Heather? How come you felt like you wanted to kill yourself?

Sometimes thoughts of suicide come and we don’t really know why. I grew up suicidal, with a couple of failed attempts, but I made it, here I am alive, but now my 12 year old daughter wants to end her life. For no reason she knows of exactly and it gives me a new perspective on suicide. It feels as though in our collective consciousness is a thought of why, why is it worth living,and a want to end life. Not just our own as we represent a frequency in the collective consciousness. Though we are beginning to clean up our earth, we have been self destructing, killing ourselves, on the collective level for awhile now. One may see us who struggle with suicide as crazy and sad, but what is the other who is using gas and cutting down trees and creating suicide of the earth? I see that those who are sensitive and can truly see the shadow of the world and feel the pain of the world are faced with what to with that pain. The thought of suicide and ending the pain is always a consideration, but to the very special and unique ones who make it through these thoughts, they become world humanitarians as they have faced the darkest parts of society and have overcome them. They become the most compassionate people in the world. I know this from my own experience and believe it is why my daughter is experiencing this also. I love you, all of you, know that you are loved and angels are with you every day. You feel deeper then most and at some level it hurts you to play these silly games of society. You know there is more to the world then being ranked a 10 and it confuses you to be what the world is telling you are. You are not what the world says, Keep digging within yourselves and find your spirit inside. I bet its completely different then you thought. Possibly weirder and stranger then most you see. Don’t be afraid to be made fun of or teased for becoming yourself. If you are going to live, you might as well be yourself and have fun. Ignore others and their sadness as any who are not showing love are sad inside. Be your self. BE love. :) I believe in YOU…