sister help: Well, my very first post was:

Nellie

Well, my very first post was:

“There is something wrong with my sister.” (Go to my profile and you can read that one if you want)

I came to an agreement with myself, that I was cutting all ties with her. Because I no longer want to deal with her and her trouble making ways. She is miserable with her own life and I will not allow her to try to make my miserable also.
I have not spoken to her since. Yesterday I get a text message from her. Here is the message: Just wanna see how you and the kids been lately. I’m sorry I was being a *****, can you please forgive me for that and put it behind us. I went to the doctor for a check up and the doctor said everything looks good. Wednesday I will get the results, hopefully good news. I will have my internet back on tomorrow. I tried to email you but not sure if you received it. I’ve been changing my b****y ways and I’ve been praying for god to help me with my nerves. If you don’t wanna talk to me it’s ok I won’t bother you and I never meant to say those mean things in that text. Just let me know if you want me to leave you alone.

I really don’t want to talk to her, I do forgive her but I also want to forget her! I want to know how can I word something to her to say that the relationship that we have is gone and will never been anything every again. How can I say we can be social but not friends? I want no part of anything thats dealing with her or her life.

Any advise right now is helpful! Even if its for me to act like nothing has happened advice!

My thing is that my button can only be pushed so many times, and it’s been pushed twice already. I am more mature than her, that beating her *** will actually haunt me for the rest of my life. But her, fighting is an hobby for her, she like to see how far she can go with you. Family or not she’ll start crap with a dog! I would rather say my peace to her and stay away from her so it doesn’t lead to a conflict because it’s only a matter of time before she flares up again. And I am so fed up with her the third time will be nasty!

Just please give advise on what to do, what to say, how to deal with this! PPPLLLEEEAAASSSEE

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plain_puppie #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (9 minutes after post)

give it a shot.

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Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (12 minutes after post)

If you guys were in this situation what would you do?

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Anonymous #
9 months ago (1 hour, 34 minutes after post)

stay away until she grows up more….if she ever will

Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (3 hours, 32 minutes after post)

I want to send her a message, what should I tell her?

Nellie edited this post 9 months ago. Read the previous text »

Well, my very first was about:

There is something wrong with my sister.

I came to an agreement with myself, that I was cutting all ties with her. Because I no longer want to deal with her and her trouble making ways. She is miserable with her own life and I will not allow her to try to make my miserable also.
I have not spoken to her since. Yesterday I get a text message from her. Here is the message: Just wanna see how you and the kids been lately. I’m sorry I was being a *****, can you please forgive me for that and put it behind us. I went to the doctor for a check up and the doctor said everything looks good. Wednesday I will get the results, hopefully good news. I will have my internet back on tomorrow. I tried to email you but not sure if you received it. I’ve been changing my b****y ways and I’ve been praying for god to help me with my nerves. If you don’t wanna talk to me it’s ok I won’t bother you and I never meant to say those mean things in that text. Just let me know if you want me to leave you alone.

I really don’t want to talk to her, I do forgive her but I also want to forget her! I want to know how can I word something to her to say that the relationship that we have is gone and will never been anything every again. How can I say we can be social but not friends? I want no part of anything thats dealing with her or her life.

Any advise right now is helpful! Even if its for me to act like nothing has happened advice!

My thing is that my button can only be pushed so many times, and it’s been pushed twice already. I am more mature than her, that beating her *** will actually haunt me for the rest of my life. But her, fighting is an hobby for her, she like to see how far she can go with you. Family or not she’ll start crap with a dog! I would rather say my peace to her and stay away from her so it doesn’t lead to a conflict because it’s only a matter of time before she flares up again. And I am so fed up with her the third time will be nasty!

Just please give advise on what to do, what to say, how to deal with this! PPPLLLEEEAAASSSEE

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Nellie edited this post 9 months ago. Read the previous text »

Well, my very first post was:

“There is something wrong with my sister.”

I came to an agreement with myself, that I was cutting all ties with her. Because I no longer want to deal with her and her trouble making ways. She is miserable with her own life and I will not allow her to try to make my miserable also.
I have not spoken to her since. Yesterday I get a text message from her. Here is the message: Just wanna see how you and the kids been lately. I’m sorry I was being a *****, can you please forgive me for that and put it behind us. I went to the doctor for a check up and the doctor said everything looks good. Wednesday I will get the results, hopefully good news. I will have my internet back on tomorrow. I tried to email you but not sure if you received it. I’ve been changing my b****y ways and I’ve been praying for god to help me with my nerves. If you don’t wanna talk to me it’s ok I won’t bother you and I never meant to say those mean things in that text. Just let me know if you want me to leave you alone.

I really don’t want to talk to her, I do forgive her but I also want to forget her! I want to know how can I word something to her to say that the relationship that we have is gone and will never been anything every again. How can I say we can be social but not friends? I want no part of anything thats dealing with her or her life.

Any advise right now is helpful! Even if its for me to act like nothing has happened advice!

My thing is that my button can only be pushed so many times, and it’s been pushed twice already. I am more mature than her, that beating her *** will actually haunt me for the rest of my life. But her, fighting is an hobby for her, she like to see how far she can go with you. Family or not she’ll start crap with a dog! I would rather say my peace to her and stay away from her so it doesn’t lead to a conflict because it’s only a matter of time before she flares up again. And I am so fed up with her the third time will be nasty!

Just please give advise on what to do, what to say, how to deal with this! PPPLLLEEEAAASSSEE

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Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (4 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Anyone at all! Please!

Shepherd 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (4 hours, 6 minutes after post)

Nellie wrote:
My thing is that my button can only be pushed so many times, and it’s been pushed twice already. I am more mature than her, that beating her *** will actually haunt me for the rest of my life. But her, fighting is an hobby for her, she like to see how far she can go with you. Family or not she’ll start crap with a dog! I would rather say my peace to her and stay away from her so it doesn’t lead to a conflict because it’s only a matter of time before she flares up again. And I am so fed up with her the third time will be nasty!

Tell her that.

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evansent:) 738 #
GB | 9 months ago (4 hours, 9 minutes after post)

what does your heart say nell?

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Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (4 hours, 11 minutes after post)

I want to be social with her around family, but not her friend.

evansent:) 738 #
GB | 9 months ago (4 hours, 16 minutes after post)

then go with your heart lv..
if you want to write her a letter..tell her thats how you want things for the time being..

dont you be feeling guilty..at the end of the day..your sis has brought this on herself
she has no one else to blame!

do what you feel is right for you:)
tell her it takes time..if she cant accept that..then her loss:)
hope this has helped nell..if you wana talk further shout me,k :)

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Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (4 hours, 21 minutes after post)

To be honest I don’t want to be either. Sister or friend we would have to associate.

evansent:) 738 #
GB | 9 months ago (4 hours, 26 minutes after post)

ok..nell sounds like youve made your mind up lv..

break the ties..:)

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Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (4 hours, 29 minutes after post)

In my message to her, how can I word what I’m telling you guys, to where its straight to the point, not mean, and won’t cause her to blow up AGAIN but accept my feelings and leave it at that?

evansent:) 738 #
GB | 9 months ago (4 hours, 36 minutes after post)

i dont want to give you any more chances at the moment..
just give me time :)

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Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (5 hours, 2 minutes after post)

MothMan wrote:

Nellie wrote:
In my message to her, how can I word what I’m telling you guys, to where its straight to the point, not mean, and won’t cause her to blow up AGAIN but accept my feelings and leave it at that?
Time and silence will convey more than you will do with words.

But she keeps freaking texts me!

Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (5 hours, 4 minutes after post)

angie:) wrote:
i dont want to give you any more chances at the moment..
just give me time :)

Maybe something more! Thanks thou! Good point will include it!

dove7 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (5 hours, 17 minutes after post)

How about:
“You have hurt me a lot through your words and actions. Although I am happy that you’ve decided to apologize and accept it, I am not willing to accept the behaviour again. I didn’t deserve that, and I would appreciate it if you would give me the space and time that i need in order to heal.”

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dove7 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (5 hours, 21 minutes after post)

oops, missed the word but in “apologize and accept it BUT I am not”

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Jules22871 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months ago (5 hours, 29 minutes after post)

“Seeing what all we have been thru and all the times you have said you would change I think I need to just wait and see if it really sticks this time before I take a chance on being hurt by you anymore.”

That is what I would say to my sister if/when she tries to contact me again. You are right, there are only so many buttons to push and apologies to be made before you have to think of yourself and do what is best for you.

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Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (10 hours after post)

Jules22871 wrote:
“Seeing what all we have been thru and all the times you have said you would change I think I need to just wait and see if it really sticks this time before I take a chance on being hurt by you anymore.”

That is what I would say to my sister if/when she tries to contact me again. You are right, there are only so many buttons to push and apologies to be made before you have to think of yourself and do what is best for you.

This is the second time you have said something that has made me feel like, umm I guess you would say relieved, but only because our stories are so similiar! Thank you so much!

Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (10 hours, 4 minutes after post)

These words also help in me many ways, thank you so very much!

dove7 wrote:
How about:
“You have hurt me a lot through your words and actions. Although I am happy that you’ve decided to apologize and accept it, I am not willing to accept the behaviour again. I didn’t deserve that, and I would appreciate it if you would give me the space and time that i need in order to heal.”

dove7 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (10 hours, 18 minutes after post)

glad to help:)

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