to love someone help: Do you think that to really love someone, that you have to love yourself first? - Help.com

Absolutely.

Our first priority should be to ourselves, how are we going to give out to others if we don’t have anything ourselves.

It does help a lot to at least feel good about who you are as an individual, otherwise you’ll go through your life trying to please everybody else or be something that you’re not. It’s good to wanna strive to be a better person for somebody that you care very deeply for, but all in all….as long as you respect yourself and just simply be yourself, you should be good to go. It doesn’t mean that you’ll never experience heartbreak or disappointment…but it does mean that you will be much happier in the long run.

personaly, i’d say yes because in order to truly love someone, you need to be comfortable in your own skin and be able to handle the critisism. and yes there will be some, though from a womens perspective it’s probably going to be more of what she wears or looks like. and sadly enough, not enough people these days are that comfortale with themselves to truely love another person because of the various things that are ingrained into our beings these days. honestly i believe the media and religion are two of the biggest problems that are to blame. Religion doesn’t allow a lot of people to feel secure being with someone of the same gender and the media puts too high of standards on how people should look because people look up to “stars” and i personaly think it’s a shame. though you’re probably going to delete this reply, i understand. the whole religion thing isn’t always taken the best and i understand that also.

I don’t think it’s always the case, no. But it probably does help.

No. You can love someone without loving yourself. But to love someone fairly you must love yourself.

It’s not fair if you don’t think you deserve them. And it will cause problems.

absoluntly trust me i went through a relationship because i thought i was ideal and it would help to enhance my self asteem but at the end of the day i couldnt stop criticizing myself. when you want to love someone, you kind of need to know who you really are and thats why that person loves you and you know yourself.