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well i was homeless, i have a geat story to tell.

okay before you start… im going to tell you, this is a long story… but its for a good cause. if you dont have anything good to say about it… dont say it either.

well its not a great story… its actucually pretty bad, but its interesting.

well like i said on here before, i did not have anywhere to go, so i was being “taken care of” by social services… but yea… if you have been watching the news recently… social services has not been doing too well in the foster care situation, espiecially in saskatchewan. but anyways, im a sixteen year old kid who’s mom is a drug dealing alcoholic, and my dad is a… “angry” person.

so yea i have not been living with family for the past little bit, but you see… every time i needed a place to go… social services made up an excuse that they had no place for me to go, i literally had to find my own place… even though that is the governments job. so anyways, i was living with one of my friends for a little bit, until their older brother who was in college, and ended up quitting came back to live with them, then they needed the spare room, so i was sent to live with my grandma, who i love… but she can barely take care of herself. so they were looking for a place for me to go… yea right, good thing i found another friend who’s parents were willing to take me in, but yea… i did not know the parents that well and… yea… i can see now why she wanted to move out so much.

so that did not work, and the parents literally went through my stuff. my councellor told me to keep a notebook of stuff that was bothering me and causing problems with this family, so i did, i had it in my room in a cabinet, and guess what…. they went looking through my stuff, its not like they could have accidentially seen it laying there either… being in a cabinet and all.

so of course they get mad. and long story short, they literally push me out the door, luckily i was outside before coming back in or else i would not have even been wearing my jacket.

so now i had no place to go, i was outside in -29 degree weather, and yea… i went to the restaurant and was going to buy some food and stay warm, i had some money in my jacket. and guess who comes along… yea the mother who pushed me out the door, she told me she phoned the police… and they were going to “escort” me to the bus station and wait for me there till they sent me back with my grandma.

now this seemed kinda fishy, cause she said nothing about my social worker or anything, so instead of buying food and staying there… i bought a pop and left.

i went to my friends house, the one that had their brother move back, and talked with her a bit, my plan was to get to lloydminster, where my social worker was, and yea. i chatted with her, till i seen a police car drive down mainstreet, and then i said bye, and ran off in the opposite direction.

now i hid for a bit, and then when i thought it was safe i went to the store and stayed warm there. i made up an excuse that my “parents” , yea… people dont pay much attention in this town, were not home and i was locked out. they let me stay, and even gave me food… which was good cause i did not eat anything that day… hence the reason i was going to the restaurant.

so through out the day, i seen the police drive by and i stayed warm in the store… great police force huh? too chicken to leave their warm cars to walk into the store and check it out lol. but yea, they were closing, so i helped them clean up, and then i left through the back door.

after sneaking through alleys i made my way to the junior school cause it was in the shape of a “u” so it offered alot of wind protection. and i stayed there, till i met up with my alledged “friend” who then ended up tricking me into getting caught by the police.

now remember when i said something was fishy about how the person who kicked me out said the police were comming? well when the car got pulled over, (my friend is 18) the police got her to open the back door, and guess what… they tried to arrest me! apparently my friends mom told the police i was going to kill myself…. YEA RIGHT! i would not give her that satisfaction!

now… you might be thinking, she was just looking out for you, well let me explain some of the things i wrote down in that notebook.

the whole time i stayed there, they insulted me, they wanted to know when their check was comming so i called, and the secretary gave me some wrong information, they later called, and when they found out the two bits of info did not match, they exploded on me, they were saying how im a lieing twit, just like the government, and all this type of stuff… all for something that was not my fault.

btw, they were supposto contact the social services building if they had any questions… not me.

so this kind of stuff did not just happen once, they “nicely” said that it was my fault for my dad being… “angry” and a whoile bunch of stuff and yea… this went on a long time.

not to mention the drinking and driving, and other stuff like that.

so yea… i proved that i was not going to kill myself to the police and after a long time in the back of a police truck, i ended up in a foster home…. for one night before they sent me to live with my grandma.

now like i said i love her, but i cant stay here. she has had a heart attack and always complains of chest pains, she already has trouble financially, and apparently since she is family the program i was on, wont pay her… and yea…. i have been trying to tell social services all this… but they keep passing me off.

like its hard enough for a kid, OF ANY AGE to deal with this kind of stuff, and when they keep putting you off till the last minuite and not helping you at all… its harder.

so yea… i have been at my grandmas now for like a week… they keep saying that they will do something soon… and in the meantime, i am missing school, falling behind and yea… even if i did start school in this town, i wouldent be able to pass anyways, cause i was on modified math (no im not mentaly challenged) i just have a hard time with math, everything else i excell in. but yea… they dont have that math program here… so i wont get a math credit.

so right there i cant pass the grade.

so now i am dealing with all this stress, nopt to mention the fact that that lady i was staying with said i was saying stuff about my friends… so now alot of them are mad at me… and yea.

i am soooooooo alone right now.

but yea… what can you do?

well when i seen on the news how there are so many problems with social services, especially in saskatchewan, that made me mad… i mean if its not just me that is having problems with this program and other things… then why the **** dont they fix it? (and i put start for the word lol)

i mean i was disgusted by some of the stories they told on the news… and they say…\

“yes there is a problem with the foster care system, but we are not going to be able to fix a 20 year problem in a couple of months”

WHY IN THE WORLD HAS THIS BEEN GOING ON FOR TWENTY YEARS THEN? HUH? WHY WOULD YOU LET IT GET THIS BAD… AND THEN MAKE UP EXCUSES FOR NOT DOING ANYTHING ABOUT IT!

so yea… i have a plan… i am going to bring attention to this problem… hopefully.

i am going to “dissapear” fopr a while, and of course let tv stations know why, once it has been noticed that i am missing.

i mean… nobody heard of those other problems that were going on till it was on the news… and that only put a little pressure on them to do something, even if this only puts a little more pressure on them… at least its something.

i dont know how this is going to work… all i know is that there is a warm front comming up on monday, so thats when i am leaving. i have over a hundred dollers, that will last me at least a week and a half.

of course i am not going to say which town i am in now, or where i am going, but i have it planned out. the only obsticle i may have is getting out of my grandmas house un noticed.

and please do not tell me not to, and stuff like that, cause my whole life has been…. “bleak” and i always wanted to do something that would help others. and now i can.

so yea… there probly wont be much results from this… but… at least i gave it a try.

oh and i will be posting again… after my journey starts. i have my rout all planned out, and yea… the only problem i might encounter is the police. and maybe the fact that i will be extremelt tired lol.

wish me luck :)

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Fatso offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (18 minutes after post)

yeah. . . well. . . I bet i know why your dad is an “angry person” and your mom seeks to escape reality.

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Vyste offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (18 minutes after post)

Im sorry,ive got a friend whos got almost all the problems you have just kind of different(you know.orphan.suicidal and now dead grandma,like she was any good stealing he’s money when she was alive!he’s living with he’s uncle at the moment,a drunk and he’s got quite a colourful pass.but he’s been trough al this social service problems and my parents is helping at the moment,just take care of yourself,please.i know im not making alot of sense but this sorta always happens when ive got alot to say and then it gets all mixed up..but im here if u want to talk some more?

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Vyste offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

i mean are?

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chrisncai offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (22 minutes after post)

well thanks,

how social services is being run… i just feel like i have to do something, i mean nothing is being done now… and they are just making excuses.

i dont know if they are making excuses and avoiding helping, because they think kids dont have a voice, or what… but i intend to be that voice.

but yea i would like to talk, cause it seems like you know a bit about these problems too.

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Vyste offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (27 minutes after post)

yeah well ive got a few hidden problems as well(ive got an “angry” dad too) and ive known my friend for about 7 years now and ive at least tried to be there for him and id like to be there for you too,but the social services over here tend to give attention to public cases and completely forget the rest,its like they dont want to see or care

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chrisncai offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (33 minutes after post)

exactly!

which area are you in? if you dont mind me asking.

you are a good friend, your friend is lucky to have you :) .i really dont have anyone there for me, and dont worry about me, i have gotten along by my self for a long time now… i can handle it. i am quite aware of what could happen to me in this journey. but i am also aware what could happen to other people, if nobody does anything.

have YOU ever delt with them directly?

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Vyste offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (39 minutes after post)

Uhm haha area..how about south africa,and im white,im just saying cuz some people doesnt think we still exist here and i hate racsism and what its doing to everybody here(i love people in general).and HEY!fat stoned ball cant you read!he said “if you cant say anything nice dont ay anything at all”(thumper).and no i havent dealt with anything directly yet,but ive seen stuff happen:(and i dont like it.thanks but you shouldnt try facing everything alone,but what are you going to do?whats your plan of action?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (51 minutes after post)

well fat stoned ball… your deliberate ATTEMPT to “erase” a problem that has made it to the news is quite… well funny actucually. your ignorence is just proof that people dont really know what is going on, and/or their willingness to sweep problems under the carpet. oh and the comment about being a homosexual… very mature. you dont even know me and you can assume? why should that be an insult.

anyways, i am glad you have not had to deal with anything yet. but yea… i wouldent mind not having to face everything myself, but when nobody else is going to do anything then… who is?

and of course i cant say much about it yet… cause i dont want people spreading the word till i have actucually started it, but my plan of action is to dissapear for a while, they sent me here to my grandmas where, like i said she isnt really… stable, and they are not doing anything about it. so i am going to “dissapear for a while… other then that i cant say anything else… till i actucually do it.

and i realize that “dissapearing” can mean a number of things, but i can assure you, that i will be completely safe. as long as the weather stays in my favor.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (57 minutes after post)

but what if it doesnt?how are people going to know your gone?and im still here you know?i know im not ther to help you but im always here to talk to,or ill try to be,and think everything through?because things could turn out very bad.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (58 minutes after post)

oh and one otehr thing fat stoned ball, the problem is huge. they have over crowded foster homes, and kids my age and younger, are being emotionally, sexualy and physicially abused. not to mention the fact that they are having such a hard time getting new foster homes. so you know what, your entitled to your opinion, but that does not make a problem dissapear.

and if you dont think i need help, well thats just your ignorence talking. so i really dont care. you are one of those people that just cares about things that affect themselves.

so if you have any consideration for others, you will leave this post and not post again. your insults to homosexuals and other people will be brought up, every major influence on the world has had some people make hings difficult. look at terry fox, that police officer almost arrested him.

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Vyste offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

have you been abused while staying there?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

well if it doesent make a difference, i tried. if nobody tries, then there is no chance of success anyways right?

and dont worry, people will know i am gone, i am actucually hopeing that people dont realize i am gone till a little later on, cause the more noticable i am, the harder it is going to be to accomplish my goal.

and if by chance something does happen to me along the way… then… that will definitially bring attention to the problem.

and i will be back on line again, after my plan has started so i will be in contact with you again, if you want :)

and yea, only emotionally, but yea… i posted it in my original post, they made me feel like it was my fault for everything, my dad, and everything else. if i told you everything, i would be here all day, and the library is going to close soon lol.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

I want,youre going to keep yourself safe.oh sorry but dont let anything happen to yourself be smart,please?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

i will :)

dont worry to much about me, i have this all planned out, but i will do my best to make sure i am safe.

i mean there are obvious risks, but im smart enough to prepair for them :)

so im alredy being smart lol… sorry that was a bad joke lol.

but i will will post again on here, so ill add you to my friends list, and ill keep in touch whenever i can :)

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

Thanks:D and it wasnt THAT bad ive had worse,but really im going to worry so youve got that as a i dont know?reminder? but i hope everything turns out okay?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 26 minutes after post)

yea i know my situation is not the most, crucial to be fixed, but when i heard about the other kids on the news… well something has to be done.

this whole thing is for other people to be affected, im pretty used to helping myself already. to be honest, i really dont care about myself at this point, but i just want to help others.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 28 minutes after post)

and thank you, i really appreciated you taking the time to discuss all this with me :)

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 30 minutes after post)

Thanks i dont mind i actauly liked it,but you should care more about yourself,you can help other people and still care about yourself you know?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

haha yea, i know that. but this is a way to “care” about myself too. my whole life nothing good has really happened, and when it did, it was taken from me. if i help these kids… even one, then that cant be taken away from me, and i will feel good about myself.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 39 minutes after post)

Okay,i know what you mean?my friend has done somethin like this too and i really hope nothing bad comes from this?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

oh? what did your friend do?

but i dont think anything bad can happen, its a pretty simple plan.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 50 minutes after post)

Naw he just got a bit rebelious but i cant really rememeber was years ago,but it was something to help this other friend of mine whos a year younger than we both are who has some problems too and simple plans always work for me but i uauly come up with those completely genius but complicated ideas..muwahahaha;)

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months ago (2 days, 14 hours after post)

Ohh, I’m so sorry to hear about all that. :( Well, if you even need help, I have good google skills and live in the same province, so… I’m going to open my email address to you, okay?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (1 week after post)

Hey just wanted you to know that,its been a week?and i just want to know if youre still okay?ive got a few internet problems but im still here and sort of worried?hope your safe

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