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Is it possible to get over / past someone cheating on you?

What about if they did it multiple times but always came clean about it to you?

What if they don’t want to come back to you and just want to be alone? In this case you’re certain they just want to have space on their own not dating anyone. Do you forgive them and hope for the best (aka. to get back with them) or do you forget about them and move on?

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shad offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

If the situation keeps going, it’s time to change.

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shad offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

As far as getting over / past.. possible but the memory remains.

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happitoday offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

OH mu god… I’m in the same boat… my ex cheated on me, but i caught him.. anyways…
MOVE ON….
Questions I had to ask myself and I know its HARD as hell?
Do you want left overs?
STD’s?
Do you love / respect yourself?
You deserive BETTER!!!! not a question a statement……
If he cheated 1,2,3 times then NO F_____ way let him use some1 else…..
GL

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bagg32 offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

the feelings of mistrust and deceit will remain and this will only destroy the relationship you have together, i don’t believe it will work I’m sorry

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chubby rain offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

move on FAST! hurry, no time to waste! your life is passing you by

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happitoday offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

baggfaceboo wrote:
the feelings of mistrust and deceit will remain and this will only destroy the relationship you have together, i don’t believe it will work I’m sorry

I agree. me and my ex tried it and it didnt work, because of me i couldnt trust him and because he would not STOP talking to the hor - the “girl” he cheat on me with who is married with kids….

So I pray for my ex that he will find happiness, but i dont believe he will…. and I take care of ME, because LIFE it SHORT.. I have wasted a year of going crazy over a loser….so love yourself and find someone who REALLY loves you… if someone loves you they wont cheat…..

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Grim_Hardcastle offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (28 minutes after post)

Possible to get over? Oh yes.
If i found out someone was cheating on me i`d kick their *** right out the door. No prob. I`m not gonna be played.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 73 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (30 minutes after post)

They’ll always cheat… move forward if you want your life to have and semblance of sanity.

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KDuB offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. To the curb he/she goes.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

well **** that sucks…liked mine but i suppose you’re all right…

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melaniepinett offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (3 months, 1 week after post)

Okay… sometimes people cheat for reasons beyond our understanding. If they cheat 1 time, there may be room for forgiveness. If it happens more than once, then my favorite quote comes into play… “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different result”. I live by those words. Sometimes we have to just take a deep breath, cut our ties, and journey on into the unknown. As scary as it might be, and as sad as it is to let go of the past, the sun will keep rising every day, and life will go on. Hope this helps!

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