My boyfriend has a baby.

*~*CrAzYxXxPiNk*~*

My boyfriend has a baby.

i love him to death and he has reasured me that there is no way that a baby would come between us. He and the of his babys mother were in a very close and long relationship before she broke it off 3-4 months ago. He says that he would never go back to her. Could i be a rebound? is there a chance he could go back to her?

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signmycast 2 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 11 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

Possibly.. It sounds like a bad place to be starting a relationship from.

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khatherine 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

you should probably give him a chance and trust him. does he ever give you any reasons nto to trust him?

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Sasha101 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

Nobody knows what the future holds , enjoy what you have for the moment. He will no doubt want to see his child, Id advise just supporting him in that area and dont show to much worry over it.

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emma_farle #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

there is a chance that he’ll go back to her, but live in the moment rather than worrying about that.
hopefully he’ll be a good dad though.
try not to hate/be jealous of the mom but it’ll be hard.

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*~*CrAzYxXxPiNk*~* 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

im not jealous of the mother i just dont know if im ready to handle it… it hurts everytime i hear about it and i have no clue why it hurts sooo bad.

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Sasha101 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

How long were you with him before he told you about the baby hon ?

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*~*CrAzYxXxPiNk*~* 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

i love him so much and i dont want to be hurt from this…

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

i was with him for about a week before he told me the baby was his.

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

i dont want to be hurt from this though.

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Sasha101 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

You have an option here pink, its a hard situation to be in for sure,if you think you cant handle it and all the things that are bound to come up, Id say end it now before you get to attached to the guy.If someone comes to you with “baggage” you have to either accept him the way he is, or take the other option.

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (16 minutes after post)

thanks… i appreciate it… i needed someone elses veiws.

Sasha101 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (17 minutes after post)

In the end sweety the decision has to be yours , do whatever makes you happy that’s the main thing. Good luck )))hugs

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Jules22871 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (21 minutes after post)

No matter what happens, he will be a dad before anything else. Well, he will be if he is a decent human being. You are just going to have to learn to live with it. That child should/would always come before anything else in his life, including you. If you are hurt by a baby how hurt are you going to be when he goes to little league baseball games and soccer practice? Are you ready to be a stepmother?

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Anonymous #
11 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

Run, just freakin run! I had that situation, and the kids aloways came first, his ex was always doing things to ruin our plans, we wanted to go out one her weekend, if she found out, she changed the schedule. If we planned a movie or birthday party for her kids, she would change the visiting schedule so that they’d miss it.

He always paid child support on time, bc I wouldn’t want it to be any different, and neither did he. She would always try to get him to pay more, then we’d find out that she spend her evenings out with friends playing bingo (or some other stupid thing) and have a sitter for the kids. The extra that she “needed” was for her to be able to go out.

He promised a thousand things, including marriage. over a decade later, and his ex still tries to screw him around, his kids have seen it and they try too. marriage hasn’t happened yet either. He never had money too busy bailing the others out of their messes.

Run NOW. Before you have kids together. He’ll ignore you and your kids that you share together bc his other kid “doesn’t see him as much”. So if it was a toss up between your kids soccer and his kids basketball, he’ll go to basketball.

We are and were best friends. We never had any doubt, but I can’t say that it never hurt me to have to deal with all of these things. You’ll undoubtedly regret it! Run Take it from experience.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (31 minutes after post)

give the man a chance> Look into his past, where did he come from? Who does he know? You want to know as much as you can about him expecially if your going to be in a relationship with him since he already has a kid and all

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

i am 19 yaers old n i’ve been in the same situation but i just had to deal with it but i was kind of hard to swallow at first i saw it as she was there before me and she was going to be there after me because of the kids.. yeah he don’t only have one but he has two beautiful kids they are twins..as a mattter of fact me and his baby mother used to be cool and when we started to fall off, that’s when she saw that she had a chance,what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger and you just have to learn how to abide by this statement ‘’ don’t stress what you can’t control'’… yes it hurt me to my heart and we were all still young byt he was my number one at the time .. and now we just came to a mutral decision just to become friends it’s hard but were starting a new journey and going in differnt directions .. i hope this helped you because you you think you have it bad somone has it worst..

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Taiballercraz #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

at the end of the day it’s your choice.. good luck

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 month after post)

i totaallyyyyy sayyy RUN!!! if you can girl !! just do it before its too late and you get stuck with a kid of his ! because that willl REALLLYYY SUCK ! im on the same situation thats why i started seeing this subject and after the post i just saw i should really do it!!!!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (7 months, 2 weeks after post)

im in this situation now, iv been witth my boyfriend just over 8 months now and can say that i am madly in love with him, he means the world to me! he is exactly like me but male but ever since his liitle girl was born times have been getting hard i could cry all the time, there isnt a day that goes by that i dont, she is now 5 months and seeing him as a dad is so hard as it isnt mine and his also his ex who’s the mother of the child is a ***** and she doesnt like me to be mentioned and doent even want me to see the child i know i would be refered as my name annd nothing more but i find this horrible as i have been with my boyfried through thick and thin, i got with him 3 months before his little girl was born and even then i was finding it hard and even now its not getting any better and she doesnt even think i have seen her, am i doing the right thing in staying in this relationship?

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