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My husband and i were talking about future baby names when we realized we didn’t know what to do for a middle name for our future first born son.

We already have an idea for the Girls name, but we didn’t know what to do for a boy. I’ve always liked the tradition of giving th first born son their father’s name as a middle name, but we both agreed my husbands name didn’t work out. ( it would have been Jack Derek, that just didn’t sound right) My husband is Korean adopted so i came up with the idea of giving him a korean middle name (just like his daddy) that has the same meaning as Derek. The name ended up as Wang Su (pronounced wahng soo). I think Jack Wang-Su Pederson has a cute ring to it, but we’re concerned that it’s too extreme. by this i mean that I’m white and my husband is only adopted korean so though we like korean food and participate in some korean activities that culture isn’t a huge part of our lives. we also don’t plan on giving any of our other children korean names so is it a little much to give our first boy a korean name? would it make him feel different from his brothers and/or sisters or even worse make his brothers and/or sisters feel like their not as “korean” as him. We can’t decide so we’re just looking for a little input on what people think.

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

you could always go the hip modern artsy rout and give him a post-modern flowerchild middle name … like ‘wizard’ or ‘pilot’

maybe you could sell the rights to his middle name to some big corperation make some money get 15 min of fame …

honestly the whole ‘Wang-su’ isn’t that extreme … and you’ll have that story to tell at the pta meetings …

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8 months, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

Would you be willing to give any future kids a korean name?
Maybe you could give all your future kids a korean middle name so that they feel like they are part of both of you, if you know what i mean.
If you aren’t willing to give all your future kids a korean middle name the first child may feel different from their siblings, or they may be treated differently, but I don’t think you would know until they grew up.
Personally I think giving your kids Korean names would be lovely as they would probably feel as though they are sharing both your cultures.
Hope this helps :)

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Prior Lake, MN, US | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

we weren’t planning to give our other children korean middle names because we want to give them family names and because my husband is adopted pretty much all of our relatives have traditional caucasian names. I’m not against korean names though, we just feel like our children should be connected to their family, which in our case is a little complicated. Wang-Su connects to my husband, Adaire (the middle name for a girl) connects to my grandma. But i don’t want to make him feel different our outcast because of his name

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (1 week after post)

I was incredibly stuck with regards to “do i retain some cultural link or not?!”, found it very difficult (… a little complicated). How i felt during the time of naming my son, has also changed how i feel today many years later as well.

Brothers & sisters born to two parents will always be different, similar in some ways - but they will be unique with different strengths & interests. Qualities of difference can make people feel left out beyond just differences in a name. It could work out well to make this choice with only the first born, which may differentiate him as the eldest. Cultural connection to family can also be retained in other ways.

I’ve grown up with a very unusual/foreign name.
My father-in-law grew up with an extremely common one.
We’ve both faced our trials, and very funny stories to tell ;)

Wang-Su does have a has a nice feel. Maybe it will help to continue asking family/friends what they think?

Good luck.

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An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (3 weeks, 4 days after post)

I think Wang-Su is just cool.

and about the feeling different things, we all feel different in a way when we are kids… when we grow up it becomes part of who we are and makes us whole.
i think that is a wonderful thing you could give your child,
for maybe some times it may disturb him, he will eventually be proud of it.
and its something beautiful to be proud of.

and i think it would be a good idea to do the same for other kids,
something like a family gimmick :)

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

Andrew, Xavier, William are all perfect and formal sounding middle names for boy or girl :))

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Dublin, 07, IE | 7 months ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

If your children know that all of their names connect them to their family and their history then they will each feel like their names are special. I can’t imagine that there would be too many problems with it.

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