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I just started dating (first boyfriend) and we started pulling in the cinema…

i didnt like it much and felt rather chlastrophobic….im scared about doing it again and am beginning to wonder whether this relationship is going to fast…..i like all the other parts of our relationship like talking, hugging, holding hands, kiss on the cheek and a kiss on the mouth but just not pulling! do you think i should be honest with him and just tell him how i feel?

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Roltz [#] 10 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (1 minute after post)

Pulling??

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Is that like making out and getting felt up?

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Or is that like when you have a pet and the pet is too heavy?

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Rand0 9 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

yeah… pulling is bascially snogging isn’t it?

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ellen.riche 0 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

If you talk about this and this person appreciates you, they may be dismayed and show disappointment (it’s only natural) but s/he will be glad that you trusted him/her enough to talk about it instead of continuing to do it and risking a break in the relationship. It is likely that this person will be even more excited when you are finally ready and you choose to initiate the moment.

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

What is snogging?

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

Pulling is when you are pulling your hair out because you don’t know what the heck to do about your relationship!

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Roltz [#] 10 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

Snogging is kissing…. Tonsil hockey y’know?!

the guy isn’t being told what to do or when to stop… he’s not doing it on purpose.. guys would keep going until told to stop or until they get that little hint to stop… it’s purely down to the fact that he wants you to enjoy being with him or have a good time with him…(this sounds very sinister… em… I don’t mean it to!) It’s nothing to worry about, just let him know next time or if you wanna tell him about the cinema, tell him.. i don’t see any problems happening…

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Is that like French kissing?

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Anonymous #
8 months, 2 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

so do you think i should call him and tell him or wait until we see eachother again?

littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

If you still want to go out with him still, call him!

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Roltz [#] 10 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

Tonsil hockey, French kissing… Same thing! lol! different countries call it different things! it’s funny! in Dublin (Ireland) it’s ‘meeting’ and in Carlow (Ireland) it’s ’shifting’…. it’s really confusing… as if your talking about a item of furniture… (i made that mistake..) (with a girl…. not the furniture…! honest!)

Call him to meet up again… mention it if it gets close to happening again.. or call and tell him.. (would you find it kinda embarrassing to bring it up on the phone though??)

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Anonymous #
8 months, 2 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

maybe i dont know….im gonna see him this week anyway..should i tell him then?

Roltz [#] 10 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

Tell him then… if you call him now he’ll know you were thinking about it ALOT and he might start to worry… is it his first relationship too?

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Anonymous #
8 months, 2 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

yeah

Roltz [#] 10 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

Ah that’s all it is… He’s has no idea… just give him a bit of guidance….

Good Luck!

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