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What thing do you feel you missed out on in your teens? And what ‘nice stuff’?

That’s interesting that you regret missing proms, parties, hanging out with normal teens…

So many people look at their high school (late teen years) and find numerous painful memory associated wuth proms, parties, hanging out with normal teens…

Maybe you were luck in this regard???

Just a thought

I wonder how many people actually did all of that stuff in their teens anyway? I mean you only ever heard about the ones who did and they always seemed to be in their group of a few dozen of the ‘really cool people’.

*hugs*
Don’t know what to say really.

How are the triplets doing anyway?

Events of our teen years have a more profound effect on our lives than we realize at the time. I know there are events that still effect me more than two decades removed from my teen years. I also share your feeling of loss in the teen years because of a painful move (relocation) I was forced to make.

As you stated, I really did not do all of those teen things either but my ‘growing up’ was a result of a choice to leave home as soon as possible. Either way, there are always some regrets with any decision you make I think the worst possible situation is being forced to endure the result of a decision you have no voice in deciding.

It is trite to say that you can’t change the past but you do have choices in the present and future. If there is something you want to do, find a way and do it. Just because you’re 25 doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy some things that teenagers do.

Yes, you have a family to think about and raise. That’s a huge responsibility. But if there is anything I regret in my two score plus years on this Earth, it is that I did not make and / or take enough opportunities to pursue the fun things in life whenever I could.

I know exactly what you mean Lilly. I wish I could do it all over again. Don’t worry though, just because your a mom at an early age does not mean your doomed for ever. In just a short time you will get a chance to re-live your teen years through your children. You will have three proms, tonnes of exams and lots of parties.
:)

dont feel blue =(
Dont worry
just because u missed out on some stuff doesnt mean that u r lost forever
just smile and be happy =)
trust me some of the stuff be glad u missed

Trust me… you didn’t miss out on anything. On the contrary, you are blessed with children, there is nothing more fulfilling. Even though I am young I realize. (Philosophy is killer! :D)

I see my friends into all that, parties, prom and “hanging around” are fun for a few days. I mean how much fun is sitting around idle when you could be playing with kids… rediscovering yourself in them. That is an amazing feeling. I have a lot of cousins who make me smile and amaze at how much fun I must have been to watch and play with…(I miss them now :()

Don’t worry about what’s gone, (mostly because it wasn’t too much)… lest you miss out on what you have.

Good luck! :D You’ll come out of the blues and feel red soon :)

You say you miss out on these things, but not every kid goes to the prom and the parties of the year - And a lot of them still have fun and remember their childhood for the bits they enjoyed!
Being in the blues about the past is common, mainly cos you can’t change it. But what you can influence is your future, and at 25, you’ve got nothing to worry about. With so much of your life still to go and a family to share it with, the world is your oyster. Sure, it may not seem as spontaneous but planned fun is just as good! Enjoy your days, now - You don’t want to be in this same place in 50 years time.

Some day everything will make perfect sense. So for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason. Also, “Nothing lasts forever, so live it up, drink it down, laugh it off, avoid all the bulls***, take chances and never have regrets, because at one point, everything you did was exactly what you wanted.”

It’s probably a good thing you weren’t able to be involved in your teenage years because maybe the wrong things coul have happened like drugs,alcohol,gangs, thing like that. Don’t be regretful, just be the great mother that you are to those kids that need you ! Your still young !! Why is it to late to stop enjoying your life now ? I’m 29 and had my first child at 21 and I still wasn’t able to enjoy my teen years because of a serious relationship. So, you have to look at it in a good way. And plus, it’s probably made you a whole lot stronger too, right ? I had a really bad past and was always being regretful, but it just holds you back from moving forward ! Let go of the past and look forward to the years ahead! God Bless You and your Children !

Hey Lily, Im on the same page as you. I graduated high school in June 2009. It wasn’t until half way through my senior year that I realized that most students I went to high school with were losers. They meant nothing to me. I go to parties probably max 2 per year. I would be lucky to squeeze one into a year. Also, I think the worst part about all of it is that in grade 9 I threw a new years party. Many people came but I was never invited to a party. Now that high school is done I am more focused on academics. I am confident career wise and I am a lot less afraid of growing up than most people in my class. My advice is say screw them all. They departed different ways for a reason and if there not in your life now to help you out they`re worthless. I can go all day on this topic.