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I don’t think there’s any shortage of ways to escape real life. That’s pretty much the entire focus of our society. My favored method is playing video games or watching a movie whenever my life becomes difficult enough that it might actually force me to change it for the better. Others have tried alcohol, narcotics, sex, romance, psychiatric counseling (sorry, but it’s true) writing self-indulgent poetry, suicide, reading self-indulgent romance novels and chocolate. But these are stopgap measures at best. Reality has an obnoxious way of reasserting itself. Damn.
Well, I don’t drink, smoke nor do drugs. If I go for sex, I feel guilty and scared. I don’t like playing videogames because I don’t stand losing time trying to understand how to play the game (I don’t even understand very well things on work). I like watching movies but, most of the times it makes me feel like an anti-social loser.
I had a group of 11 friends, but one or more of them made a very very bad thing to me, and I don’t want to talk about it because it is not relevant to what I want to write about.
I have no group of friends right now. I had many cousins and now I have “none” (family permanent issues).
I want to have a group of friends, I want to run away with a young female, anywhere.
What can I do?
Triciclo00: Are you currently in school or are you working?
I was actually being fairly sarcastic. Escapism is a pretty stupid way to live. We all do it, but we all wish we didn’t. The problems in our lives are very real, and with few exceptions they don’t go away on their own.
A very intelligent friend once told me that most people don’t realize that they can actually do what they want. She said that we are always waiting for the next great milestone in our lives, like somehow the fact that we’ve turned 18 or 21 or gotten a degree was going to free us, and make everything better. In reality, we can do what we allow ourselves to do. If you want to make friends and meet lovers, go out and talk to strangers. It’s awkward, and really intimidating at first, but then you realize that there really isn’t any reason not to. You’re miserable now, and there’s nothing that interacting with people can do to harm you. Either they’re interested in what you’re about, or they wouldn’t have been your friend anyway.
Maybe since you say you have no friends, the universe is trying to get you to discover yourself. Use this time to enjoy being alone. Yes, I did say ENJOY ALONE TIME! What a concept! When you are around people all the time it is easy to ignore and forget your real problems, and also avoid being alone with yourself. Take this time as a blessing. Also, once you truly know who you are, you can truly love yourself and also be a better person to be around. You will also be a more well adjusted, happier person. Train your mind to think clearly, meditate, sit in quiet places and just allow yourself to think without music or distraction. Start a journal and write stream of conciousness. Things will be better for you if you can just accept the fact that you are in this position for a reason (and there is always a good reason) and use the time given to you to fulfill it. Good luck on your journey!
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everymoning pick a name out of a hat and pretend to be them for a day, week or whatever. embrace it.
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Try Second Life. It’s an online game but it’s not. There’s no point to it, except that you can create anything you want there. Seriously, anything. It’s like an open medium for being whoever you want, looking like however you want. You can reinvent yourself a million times, day after day.
I’ve lived in my current town for 6 years. College town. Moved here alone when I was young and got into a badly abusive relationship. I’ve been a little messed up since then. Burned every bridge, rebuilt them, then burned them again. Was born and raised mormon, now I’m not. That’s a huge community network wherein word gets around fast. Everyone knows me and knows to stay away. I have a terrible time making friends, and I always seem to run into the old enemies. I am normally a very social person. Just lost my job and depression is creeping in on me quickly. I hate my life. Help.
I want to escape my life too. And I am a young female. Lets run away TOGETHER!
I think everyone goes through a stage when they just want to be someone else or escape from the norm or their life. I’d just turned 16 when my dad died. I was alway’s a daddy’s girl and it was difficult for me. I absorbed myself in reading novels so that I could be the character in the book rather than myself. Some family I had never met before in a different country gave me the oportunity to stay with them and finish school so I went thinking this was my escape. But I found they were more oppressive to me and forced me to spend all my time in my room studying. I couldn’t stand it. I wanted to run away. If it wasn’t for the friends I made there I don’t know what I would have done.
I fell in love with an american guy in my year, he was the most handsome man in the world at the time and I thought he loved me just as much. But at the end of High school I went back to England and he found someone else.
I went out every night at uni to party with friends to escape the pain but in the end I only felt worse for it. I was so depressed one night I just broke down and cried my heart out and thought about drowning in the bath. But I changed my mind and when I went back to my room my room mate attacked me for no particular reason and triend to kill me anyway.
That was my first year at uni. It calmed down later but I always felt suppressed like my spirit longed to be free. I only felt free when I was at home in the country walking and climbing the coastal cliffs and being in the fresh mountain air. Now I’m out of that stage but everyone goes through stages like this-what is a mid life crisis?
I don’t think I can help, because I am wondering the same thing… how can I escape this life? I watched “Wristcutters, A love story” last night. In the movie, after you killed yourself you went to a world where everyone there had also killed themselves. If only that is what would happen…
Anyway, I just searched ask.com “how can I escape” after googling the cheapest/poorest places on earth and finding out that you can’t even go to a shithole unless you have money. I would have to get a visa, which you can only do if you’re an investor or worthwhile person. I thought there would be somewhere on earth I could escape to. I’d love to live where everyone works and is relatively equal. I cannot stand America anymore, and the extravagance of the rich, and the imprisonment of the poor. The poor get poorer and the rich get richer. The poor have no options, and can’t even escape america while the rich already have freedom and are the only ones who are allowed to escape america (like they want to). I hate the rat race, I hate society. I want to dig in the dirt next to others who also dig in the dirt, and we are all happy because we are all in the same lot. But no, I can’t do that. Because I only have 5K to my name (which makes me luckier than tons of people) and that is not enough to leave the US. Also, I need thyroid medicine to live, and would need a life supply of it before moving to a non-industrialized area of the world.
Anyway, my point is that I actually want to leave this place. I hate it, I hate reality TV, I hate consumerism, I hate commercials, I hate what America is becoming and I want to escape people. I want a simple life and I don’t want to have to brainwash myself into one or whatever a therapist would tell you.
My mom has breast cancer, my parents are old and wasting away. My boyfriend is a piece of ****. I don’t want to be in law school anymore, I don’t want to be a lawyer, I don’t want to be what my parents and society makes me be, I just want to live. I just want to own a little land, live off of it, and be free. I just want to be free from all these rules, leases, taxes, costs of food, clothes, etc etc etc. I just don’t feel there is any reason to live out my life here, this way.
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Well the best advice I can give you would be not to do any of the above go straight to God in preyer he is there he always listen’s and never make’s you look bad!! Also embrace ehat your given it was given to you for a purpose dont let it pass you by and dont do anything stuppid cause there is always a bigger better place in the end he will always help you through your problem’s he is amazing and if you need anymore advice or need to kno anything else about God email me it is i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>!!
Well i am 21 yrs old and i haven t many friends in my life or girlfriend,i am a close person,i play video games and watch movies all day for the last 2 years, my family does n t give a **** about me,my father is an alcoholic ex sailor and always missing(i have to see him for almost 2 years) and he don t want to hear even my name,my mother and sister hardly talk to me and when they talk they talk behind my back just to curse me and now that i finish college here in Greece i have to go to the army for a year because they force you and i don t want to go ,i am antisocial,egocentric and don t enjoy being near any people because i feel stressed(they called it agoraphobia).I don t believe i am ugly but i find it hard to be near people.I hate people because they complicate thinks too **** much,also i hate psychologists and people who judge others!It seems that society it self tries to make people crazy with all their standards and their bullshits about how a normal human should be(you have to wear these clothes,you have to speak like that,to act like that but we are not all the same thats what they don t get) Every day i think of suicide but i am too chicken to do it.Money run low and my mind blacked out,i feel like i am going crazy,if you think your life sucks think again,i hope the end of the world will come soon at least for me anyway!!!!!!
I’m 33. My wife cheated on me with 3 guys that I know about while we were married and 3 when we were engaged. I suspect she has done much more. I have clues that point towards a dark secret that some friends and my nephew are keeping from me, I think she screwed them all. She’s been on coke and god knows what else. We have a 10 yr old daughter who I adore. We also have a house on l,ong island. She works 12 hours a week and other than that does nothing. I have a good job in manhatten. I just want to move far away with my daughter and leave the madness behind. It feels like everyone is laughing at me. I can’t take it anymore. I’ve lost so many years because of this *****.
knowing others feel **** is a great place to start-I just realised that when i read your post-I feel **** too
if u cant see past the ******** that society has taught us then u can never truly happy
I too feel desperate at times. Honestly, there is no way that I know off that would enable myself or any of you to escape our situations. The only thing that keeps me going is my family â€“ although I know for a lot of you your families aren’t very supportive. What also keeps me afloat is hope for the future. Deep down I know that what looms ahead is nothing more than, most probably, a failed marriage, a job I am unhappy with and ugly surroundings. However, there is a glimmer of hope, a possibility that my life might just turn out alright. For now however I can do nothing more than occupy my anxious mind with thoughts of a possible happy existence in the future. I donâ€™t know where my life will end up and nor do any of you â€“ not really. Please donâ€™t do anything silly like trying to kill yourself. It might not seem like it but soft and sweet things still exist. Not everything is uncaring and cold. The chances are most of our lives will consist of trying to meet with deadlines and societyâ€™s expectations, but if we can just take pleasure in the small events that occur throughout the day â€“ nothing major but small sweet things like, for me, the birds in the park near where live. These things might seem silly to you, but itâ€™s just a case of having to scrape some sort of enjoyment from what Iâ€™ve been given and where Iâ€™ve been put. I suppose my philosophy is similar to that of Keats in his poem Ode On Melancholy, I place my feelings of sadness on beautiful things. For those of you who havenâ€™t read it do so, and if you dot understand it look up itâ€™s meaning on the internet.
Life is hard and i feel we all need to go somewhere else sometimes. this can be done in maby ways. you can become the main character in a book, move, or play. You can feel a secne of accomplisment and activness by playing a game or meeting new people or even hanging with old ones, and lastly get a new refeshing outlook with a simple change of location.Most importanly never forget that we all need to get away sometimes and that there is nothing wrong with that and these feelings and activities can lead use to true inspiration that move use forward in our lives.
i loved someone but i can’t be with him because my father if he know about our Relationship he’ll be very angry ,,, i told my dad that i really love this guy his good and he loves me he asked me to marry him ,but my father said that there is no love now in this life i’m too young for this and he said about this gay that he is playing with my felling he’ll break your heart ,, and he told me don’t talk to him anymore , i was crying and confused i said to the guy i loved we must stop talking , he was dieing too .. all the time praying and hoping that my father would let me talk to him , but i can’t stay without him so i lied to my father and i talked to this guy he was the breath that take i can’t live without him ….. my mother wanna tell to my dad but after our finial exams but i’m confused what i should do if my father said no?? i’ll stop talking to him? or i’ll scape with him??
Making money, working alot, cars, products.. it’s beautiful… but.. is it possible to go live somewhere in the woods, build a treehouse, plant lots of fruit trees and enjoy only the sun, the rain and the sounds the birds make?
Or are we destined to live inside this beautiful heartwarming stone concrete urban environment we all enjoy so much at the moment?
I really don’t know what to do. I’m 56 alone. I have my sister. My kids but I do not see very often other than them. I really have no family. I have no friends. I do not make friends easily. Reality sucks and I’m tired of everyday crap. I thought about suicide but I believe that heaven is real but that Hell Is lrael also and I don’t want to go there. lonely bored and miserable. What do I do
Is there anyone out there
Well hail. This is just like reality
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