What am I supposed to do?

bowlofsoup

What am I supposed to do?

I hate myself and my mum is playing the victim. All she does is interfere and make me feel like a child and I can’t seem to control how I react. I don’t want to be horrible to her but I do it without thinking. When I try to tell her how I feel she tells me “Don’t be silly,” or “Well you shouldn’t feel like that.” Which DOESN’T HELP. I feel like no one is taking me seriously. And that in turn just makes me feel even more stupid – does everyone else just choose not to feel like this? Am I choosing to hate myself? I don’t know how to change. She just makes it about her, saying it’s breaking her heart to see me like this and “I can’t do anything right with you.”
I don’t think I can live with being the one in the wrong any more. I constantly feel like I’m wrong and stupid. She’s constantly interfering and doing everything herself. She just had an operation on her wrist and is off work and meant to be resting it. My dad and I have been trying to do things for her but she just refuses to let us because she’s such a control freak. She never listens to me, she just jumps to conclusions (most often the wrong ones) and take offence at everything.
By the way I’m nearly 24 and back living with my parents after 4 years away at uni because of circumstance. I know the position I’m in at the moment is contributing to making me feel so bad but I need to be able to get on with my mum until I get a chance to get away again.

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An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

dear … first you should find out what makes you feel so horrible about yourself..
and secondly.. try to sit down and talk with your mom.. tell her that she should let you and your dad to help her.. and such.. things…
so if she is going to realize that she is so important for the two of you, she is going to be a little more free :) trust me , a lot of people don’t get on well with their parents but the situation can inprove :) really.. just try to be patient with her, and sometimes try to understand her

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (4 hours, 13 minutes after post)

I think a lot of the problem lies with your mom rather than you. I know it’s not making you happy, I wonder how it’s making her feel. You sound like you and your dad get on better which is good I guess.

My mom is pretty similiar; I feel like I just can’t be me around her. And couldn’t imagine living with her. Have you tried really talking to her about how she makes you feel? I know you may not want to really say for fear of upsetting her maybe, but I think you’re more important at the moment.

I wish I had some real answers for you :(

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