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Help Me, I’m destroying myself!

I’m not sure what has got into me lately, I think I know how it started.. but why is it still affecting me!

Me and my girlfriend are amazing.. she is the most amazing girl I think I’ve ever been with.. but I’m scared of losing her… just over 1 month in.. and I’m scared of losing her to other people! She’s stunning.. but the problem is.. she can’t seem to tell when guys are flirting with her or when a mans intentions are not “right”… Lately.. I have seemed to be making a big deal out of everything that happens.. texts, calls, comments on profiles etc… I don’t know why!

I guess the only thing that I can think of is how it started.. it started last weekend on the Friday night and we don’t see each other lots because we are very caught up in certain things e.g. work / assignments (in her case).. I see her every weekend.. but for a few hours and this has never affected me because we still have the most amazing relationship.. nothing has ever gone through my mind before!

On that Friday night.. I asked her about something that she accidently typed to me over MSN (wrong conversation).. she said ” OMG SHE CAN’T SEE ‘THE GUY’!!!” and I said.. huh? and she said sorry oops wrong convo.. and I said what’s it about.. and she said, ” Well there is this REALLY GORGEOUS GUY.. like the fittest I’ve EVER seen on Facebook and he goes to my friends college” and naturally that made me feel terrible!

We had a bit of an argument about it.. mainly because I was shocked at how she came out with that so easily without taking my feelings into consideration! At the same time.. I had a visitor arrive at my door so I had to go.. leaving the argument unresolved… just to make things worse.. it was my ex! My girlfriend knows how much I can’t stand my Ex, but she arrived with a friend that I had invited over because we hadn’t seen each other since she moved a few weeks / month before! So I couldn’t turn them down.. so I told my girlfriend who’s arrived!

I rang her shortly after to find out that she’d been crying about the whole situation and of course I started to worry! Ever since I’ve been freaking out over stuff! But the real kicker is this next one!

She bumps into this guy who lives up the road from her who she’d known but hadn’t spoke to in about a year.. he play basket ball and he’s a bit full of himself.. now they exchanged numbers and they are texting each other a lot… I’m talking 40 times in one night etc… That makes me feel bad.. now.. another thing.. is that he stopped her in the street after one year of not speaking.. and then suddenly he’s over interested in everything!

I worry.. it’s tearing me apart because I don’t know if I’m being messed with or what?! I Love this girl so much! she’s my life. especially at the moment..

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£üVяЭя♥GųRl offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

oms…u wrote a whole freaking page…well idk what to say but try looking for the best to come

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beatricegalant offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

At your age it is normal for young people like you guys to “shop around”. It doesn’t mean she is cheating on you or vica versa, but it is normal not to settle down yet. It is mostly like a friendship than a relationship. If it last longer, it will become a relationship. You both are attracted to each other as much as attracted to other beauties in nature. You cannot be blindfolded. The good news is that until she talks about it, you know she is not serious about it. Once she stops talking about the gorgeous one, you know she is deadly serious.

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

I think you should try talking things through with her & explaining how you feel about it all.. If she understands why you’ve been acting the way you have been than maybe she’ll clear this whole confusing mess up. And don’t start out blaming her, that will only make things worse. dont blame yourself either, cuz from the sound of it, it’s not your fault. Just explain your feelings and thoughts about the situation & it should help.

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kirian offline Verified User (8 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (10 hours, 20 minutes after post)

Talk, but listen too. Communication is the core in any relationship of any type.

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (16 hours, 11 minutes after post)

love is tough. if you show her that you are all shook-up she will do with you what she pleases, i’d say play it tough and make as if you have better things to do. once she sees that you arn’t falling at her feet she’l wonder what it is about you that you “dont care so much” and might get interested again.

I think that is your best bet, Plus if she hurts your feelings like that- she doesn’t take you very seriously.

good luck

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

She sounds nieve and it sounds like your confidence has taken a knock. Be your own man dont define yourself by something outside of you. Remember you are a catch, Some women are controlled by the opinion of others, they look for aproval and attention everywhere and anywhere. it is wise to find a woman comfortable in her own skin , dont be angry with her forgive and forget. that will earn you the repect you deserve and remember god didnt give us a woman to make us happy he gave her to you to help you grow, Love and peace bro ;)

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aaronroberts offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Bristol, B7, GB | 8 months, 1 week ago (3 days, 10 hours after post)

Thank You Very Much for your responses :)

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (3 days, 23 hours after post)

Your not alone friend ;)

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