Love help: Need of serious help.

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Need of serious help.

I was unofficially official with this girl (I was going to wait for a special moment to ask her out.) she left me because she didn’t think I loved her. We talked well went back and forth after the break up. Turns out she went back to her ex and kept it from me through little lies so I wouldn’t just vanish from her life I guess. I told her that her ex now bf was cheating on her and she should leave she however did not believe me so told me peace (to put in a nice way). We did not talk for several months, see each other, or anything. She text me the other day to apologize for what she did and to admit that I was right and she should have believe me. We met in person and she said it again however she broke down in tears. Its been over a month sense they broke up however she says she is not ready for another relationship because she is still in love with him. She asked to be friends. I try to explain to her that it is hard for me to just be friends because I have deep genuine feelings for her despite what she did. Being friends with her I’ll just be waiting for her to forget the ex and come back into my arms, so I could and prob am just setting myself up for failure and pain. I have hope that friends will turn into us getting close and back together but I just cant help but to think its wrong. I dunno what to do I need help, most will probably say forget her there is better. I am sure there is but I really love her and want to be with her so what is the best way to get her back?

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littleredhen 10 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

That is a tough one…

If she is saying she is not ready for a new relationship that is code for, “I am not over my ex-boyfriend.”

I hate to say it but even if you were able to convince her to get back with you, it would most likely be a rebound relationship for her and you would end up getting hurt.

That said, if you really want to get her back, the best thing to do is be persistent.

Say, “Okay let’s be friends but you should know I treat my friends as well as I treat my girlfriends.”

And then spend as much time with her as possible and when you do treat her like she is already your girlfriend meaning, pay for stuff, flirt with her, compliment her, listen to her.

Good luck!

TarryingHeart 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (49 minutes after post)

She knows she is not ready and does not want to make me nor anyone for that matter a rebound. (like I was when we first started talking)

She knows me to well and that I do not treat my girlfriends like my friends.

She wont let me pay ever sense she left, but I can do the others. I’ll offer to pay tho…

I’ll stop talking about relationships, the past, etc. and try to be her friend like we once were.

littleredhen 10 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (54 minutes after post)

And find a girl who is emotionally available, I hope? You sound like a nice guy. There is no reason for you to sit around waiting for this girl to realize that you are better than just a rebound.

r.tersign 0 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 2 minutes after post)

if she wants to be friends, it probably means she is not interested, tell her how you feel and then move on

TarryingHeart 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (10 hours, 39 minutes after post)

I think she is, just not ready for any relationship at the moment.

Im just not sure how much she cares about me any more.

littleredhen 10 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (22 hours, 28 minutes after post)

While you’re sitting around thinking about her, some other girl could be out there for you getting away. Go get her! ;-)

TarryingHeart 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 13 hours after post)

I’ve talked to so many girls; everyone from the girl next door to movie stars. No one really does it for me though, she was the only person I’ve ever trusted and she threw it all away, and for what? When I think about what happened it makes me upset but I love her. Perhaps I just need to stop making excuses for her though.

sabira 0 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (3 days, 11 hours after post)

yeah its really hard to tell

but accept her as a friend and try to make her forget about him and what wrongs he had done to her

in this way she will realize that you deeply and sincerely care for him
she will be ashamed too
and this time she will be more sincere to you and probably try to return you equally love and sincerety but for now be with her
she is confuse and be with her and tell her how much you love her
it doesnt matter that you are his friend or lover now
now she need some one to whome she can depend up on
be the one dont wait untill she go to some one else for friendship

and dont forget sincere and true friendship later become a strong base for true and long lasting love

i hope i help you

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