Love help: I was with a girl on and off for five years then she left me - Help.com

If you dont really love the girl you are with, you are going to end up hurting her anyway and the hurt would be worse the longer it goes. It may seem like two years is a long time to just break up but if its not right, how would three years feel, four? Are you feeling this way for your ex simply because things are not the best with your current girlfriend or do you really have deep feelings still for her?

good reply, yes I have true feelings for my ex, see the girl I am with now was there for support for me through the breakup, we were both going through a breakup so really we were there for eachother, but then I found she was falling for me, but there was never a spark for me..

The first I would suggest is that you need to work out what you are going to do with your girlfriend, if there is no spark or anything then its not fair on her to keep things going..its going to hurt her no matter what

Do you know what you would/could do about how you feel on your ex though? Is it something you would want to chase or just try to find a way to let go..

I think, as Natty said, first and foremost you need to really think about the relationship you have with your girlfriend and don’t let feelings about your ex cloud that. From what you’ve said it’s not going great with your current girlfriend so think about why that’s happening before assuming that it’s going wrong cause you think you want your ex back.

Also, think about why things broke up with your ex - she’s an ex for a reason; can you realistically work that out with her? Do you want to or is it harkening back to the past cause the present isn’t working out so well?