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jodie52 edited this post 8 months, 2 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

my best friend (1)really hates my other friend (2). ill name them (1) and (2). (1) is my best friend and has been for like ever. but now i dont feel like i want to be her friend. shes gone really wierd. (2) is also a close friend and really sweet. but she keeps starting arguments with (1) i tell her the stuff that (1) tells me coz i dont think people shud keep secrets from each other. but now she ceeps taking my comments and using them in her arguments which makes (1) hate me. its horrible coz now (1) is angry at me. she ceeps asking me to stick up 4 her by telling lies which i dont do. i just dont know what to do. the situation is awful. it will split our big friendship group apart. i dont like to take sides. but if i did then i would go for (2) but then (1) would really HATE me.i just dont know what do do. reply soon - i need help!

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my best friend (1)really hates my other friend (2). ill name them (1) and (2). (1) is my best friend and has been for like ever. but now i dont feel like i want to be her friend. shes gone really wierd. (2) is also a close friend and really sweet. but she keeps starting arguments with (1) i tell her the stuff that (1) tells me coz i dont think people shud keep secrets from each other. but now she ceeps taking my comments and using them in her arguments which makes (1) hate me. its horrible coz now (1) is angry at me. she ceeps asking me to stick up 4 her by telling lies which i dont do. i just dont know what to do. the situation is awful. it will split our big friendship group apart. i dont like to take sides. but if i did then i would go for (2) but then (1) would really HATE me.i just dont know what do do. reply soon - i need help!

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Seriously - you’re making other people’s confidences public? Sounds like they’d both to well to be rid of you.

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An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

dude i just need help

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An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

they have put me right in the middle of the situation

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

Jodie, with all due respect, you can only be in the middle if you let yourself be in the middle. I would start saying “I’m sorry, but I won’t talk about X with you.” If she can’t respect it - leave. Walk away. They’ll get the point, or they’ll stop talking to you.

But really - you can’t share people’s private confidences and expect to maintain a friendship.

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An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

Umm, ditch them both and find new friends. Seems like your relationships with eachother are being abused on each side (you’re telling secrets- they’re sticking you in the middle… etc.)

But at the very least- if you aren’t being compatible with (1)… then it is kind of a waste of both your times to nurture that relationship. (sounds cruel… but I’m saying it bluntly)

Say “I’m sorry (1), I betrayed your confidence telling (2).” then, start distancing a bit from (1)… find new things to do.

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An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

thanks for replying so quikly
i do know i shudnt write this stuff online but the site is called Help.com which is what i needed and what i got!
im going to close this post in a minute because its not fair to my friends to post this stuff about them.
thanks again
bye

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my best friend really hates my other friend. ill name them (1) and (2). (1) is my best friend and has been for like ever. but now i dont feel like i want to be her friend. shes gone really wierd. (2) is also a close friend and really sweet. but she keeps starting arguments with (1) i tell her the stuff that (1) tells me coz i dont think people shud keep secrets from each other. but now she ceeps taking my comments and using them in her arguments which makes (1) hate me. its horrible coz now (1) is angry at me. she ceeps asking me to stick up 4 her by telling lies which i dont do. i just dont know what to do. the situation is awful. it will split our big friendship group apart. i dont like to take sides. but if i did then i would go for (2) but then (1) would really HATE me.i just dont know what do do. reply soon - i need help!

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