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Is it ok for a man to want a woman half his age?

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IrAdler 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (0 minutes after post)

Depends what do you want that woman for? Life partner, wife or something else?

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Da One & Only TC 9 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (1 minute after post)

Well…how old are you?

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jcd 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (1 minute after post)

If he’s over 40, yes. If he’s 20, no.

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sighai 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (2 minutes after post)

im 40 and she’s 20

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Da One & Only TC 9 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Hmm…does she know that you want her?

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IrAdler 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

You still didn’t answer: want her for what?

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sighai 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

she knows, but she is hung up on the age thing.

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Da One & Only TC 9 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Well I’m 20 and I would be too…and what do you want her for lol…I’m curious now.

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sighai 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

What do ya think, girlfriend/long term

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jcd 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

sighai wrote:
she knows, but she is hung up on the age thing.

Well, if she can’t get past the age thing, you just need to move on. If you keep pursuing her, you’ll probably just make her uncomfortable.

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sighai 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

now ask yourself if it was the other way around. me being 20 and her 40

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Da One & Only TC 9 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Ahh…age scares people. Its sad but a fact. I would be a little skeptical too about dating a man twice my age.

Talk to her and if she doesn’t like it then move on…that’s all you can do.

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sighai 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (10 minutes after post)

jcd wrote:

sighai wrote:
she knows, but she is hung up on the age thing.
Well, if she can’t get past the age thing, you just need to move on. If you keep pursuing her, you’ll probably just make her uncomfortable.

I totally agree. I dont keep pursuing. I let her know. Its up to her now

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Da One & Only TC 9 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Well I hope things work out for you.

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jcd 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (12 minutes after post)

Maybe when she gets a little older, the age difference won’t matter to her any more.

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sighai 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (13 minutes after post)

qwertyman5 wrote:
im 40 and she’s 20

That’s fine. Go for it, you sly dog.

Giddy up

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Da One & Only TC 9 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Haha…wow.

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linuxya 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (57 minutes after post)

Young girls want daddies

Older guys want girls who are easily impressed

Find someone your own age. It’s healthier for you in the long run. I realize that when men are single in their 40s that’s a warning sign for women. Work on that if you have to. Figure out what’s holding you back from a decent relationship with a woman your own age. Commitment issues? Low self esteem? Too set in your ways?

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linuxya 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

The longer you live on your own, the less experience you have with the daily give and take required for the care and nurturing of a longterm relationship.

Relationships require skills and practice. Single men over 40 set off lots of warning bells for women. (of course, single women older than their mid to late 30s send off warning bells for me!)

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linuxya 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

Don’t be silly. I am not “MEN” I am one man. And my experience with women in their mid to late 30s is what gives me my opinion. I don’t have experience with men in their 40s, I have only heard women in their 30s complaining about them.

Good grief.

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orcaholelic #
An Unknown Location | 4 years ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

As a 39yo guy who’s primarily dated women in their (mid to late) 20’s, just remember this: You aren’t in the same place in life and they will break your heart almost every time. They’re not done playing the field yet and at our age, we kinda are. (It’s not stopping me from dating them, but I at least keep my expectations in check.)

Someone asked why I’m not dating women my age. Simply put, they don’t want me. I’ve tried, believe me. The youngies want to date me for their own personal reasons (status, $$$, I’m not a disloyal 20-something guy, etc.), but my contemporaries don’t even want to give me a chance. Their loss. Who wants to date their old, boring *****, anyway? =)

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 9 months ago (5 months after post)

In almost all instances, no, you should not. The common ground which unites people is most times missing in relationships that have this big of an age gap.

True love is not something I would ever condemn no matter the age, but love should be about respect and common ideals and often a relationship with this great of age difference is more about money, security, status, and insecurity issues.

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