relationship help: I went somewhere yesterday without telling my girlfriend and - Help.com

maybe she is thinks u r cheating on her???

Maybe you have a clingy girlfriend who needs a lot of attention and she’s too much for you to handle.

did she think you were cheating on her?

Had she tried to call then and couldn’t get through.

So what do you mean you couldn’t be reached then? What was she expecting?

I don’t think you’re unreliable, your girlfriend is just too insecure.

littlenick wrote:
I don’t think you’re unreliable, your girlfriend is just too insecure.

Amen… sorry but me and my man live together and i would go crazy if thats how it was. And cell phones are a plus…

aceisgreat200 wrote:
then that’s what I’ll do because I’m willing to

Yes mate, but after a while you will get tired of doing that.

How long have you been going out?

This is only the beginning. But, if you have the patience, inclination, and willingness to do it maybe for the rest of your life, good luck! You will need it!

Yeah, this girl sounds insecure.

The answer is for her to build up a network of friends she can rely on. And to develop her own skills and abilities with work, exercise, hobbies, social groups. Then she won’t be so focused on you alone.

I realize you want to protect her and make her happy, but don’t cripple her by letting her avoid developing her own life and self-worth.

that’s sweet :) i’ve been worried about my bf of over 7 years several times wondering if’s he’s hurt, if he’s all right. me and your gf are similar that way. she cares about you.

not to me and btw high school sweethearts have a great chance! my cousin and her husband were high school sweethearts and have two kids together and it’s been probably 15 years for them. Me and my bf were too and we’ve been together for over 7 years and we are getting married :)

Needy, clingy, insecure people drain the life, hopes, and dreams out of you. Good luck!

i’m not in your situation but maybe your gf just really cares about you. there are a lot of high school sweethearts out there. my parents have been together since my mom was 17 and my dad was 19 and they have been married for almost 34 years and were together 1 year before that….

All I can say is good luck. Hopefully everything works out for you. If she is what you want, she is what you want.

no problem. good luck. if you love her and she loves you, everything will work out fine.

well…i am that insecure girlfriend. so all the comments about insecurity really hit home. i really have no reason to be insecure, but because of past hurt and rejection for some reason i have lost my confidence. you do play an important role by letting your girlfriend know how much you care…she will never be able to hear it enough from you. but don’t cater to her either. make sure she builds a strong network of friends and that you encourage her to get out and try things on her own. make sure you go do things to. express your need for her, but let her know you want some guy time too. i have recently realized i was in denial about all this. tough love from my boyfriend is what has made me realize.

dunamisrocke wrote:
well…i am that insecure girlfriend. so all the comments about insecurity really hit home. i really have no reason to be insecure, but because of past hurt and rejection for some reason i have lost my confidence. you do play an important role by letting your girlfriend know how much you care…she will never be able to hear it enough from you. but don’t cater to her either. make sure she builds a strong network of friends and that you encourage her to get out and try things on her own. make sure you go do things to. express your need for her, but let her know you want some guy time too. i have recently realized i was in denial about all this. tough love from my boyfriend is what has made me realize.

I’d like to congratulate you on (a) realizing your problem; and (b) sharing it with us so frankly. Sharing that kind of insight is what makes help.com such a great resource for people. So, thank-you.

My girlfriend also has insecurity problems but I have followed a simple plan of making small commitments and always following through, always introducing her to everyone we meet as my girlfriend, involving her in my life and sharing things even when they are difficult for me, always discussing her issues openly (the frequency required for this has gone from often to hardly needed at all anymore).

We’ve built a strong foundation of trust. I hope you and your boyfriend are able to do the same.

thank you. hopefully i havent ruined our relationship and hopefully its not to late for us…