my sister is going through a mid life crisis

sahara

my sister is going through a mid life crisis

her husband has contacted me several times just for emotional support. and my sister has talked to me a few times.

they have recently asked me to come live with them in a house that really can’t hold another person, basically to be a nanny of sorts for their ten and fourteen year olds.

should i go and help my family?
or should i stay out of the mess?

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¡Nellie.Skywalker! 1 #
Washington, DC, US | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Sit your sister down and tell it to her straight. She’s not young, and she has responsibilities now that she has to take care of. Don’t get anymore involved than that. Your sister needs to learn how to put on her big-girl panties and deal with it.

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Anonymous #
8 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

keep out! if it doesn’t work out, they’ll try to blame you. Ask them to seek counselling. give advice to the kids. It’s hard, but it will be harder if you live there with them. You need to be strong and healthy so that you can offer advice to get them to be strong and healthy.

c-eek 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (4 days, 22 hours after post)

How much it would disrupt your life and how the children feel about the idea? The fourteen-year-old might actually resent a new mother figure in the house. The ten-year-old, however, may need a more support.

Another factor to consider is the intentions of your brother-in-law. When one parent is failing to meet their parental responsibilities, the other parent needs to step up and take over for awhile. If the marriage is in trouble, another adult woman living in the house might create even more stress.

I believe you can be more helpful if you remain outside the home, but in close touch, with your sister and her family.

Anonymous #
8 months, 1 week ago (5 days, 1 hour after post)

I agree with ^ whole heartedly. I just didn’t know how to put it so nicely.
Good job c-eek!

smile-a-while 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

I also agree with c-eek. My first impression was hmm I wonder what the bother-in-law is up to. I can see myself being in that situation and getting in over my head. Good luck!

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