I hate my grandmother (paternal).

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I hate my grandmother (paternal).

I just heard a conversation I wasnt supposed to hear! She, a crazy, weight-obsessed lady, was telling my mother that Ive gained so much weight. And I cant even express the shame and disgust in her voice. And that is just ridiculous! Some would actually say Im skinny, and I havent added a pound since summer. I was a bit chubby when I was a kid, which I believe is the reason I take these words too seriously, but that was like 10 years ago.
But how can a person, a family member, be so unreasonably mean!?
Arent grandmas the people who love you unconditionaly forever and ever… Like my other granny.

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Setto? 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

Pffft she’s probably jealous that you’re young and in good health.
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n0tacr00k 3 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

No, that’s just a cultural perception, grandparents can be as mean as others, it’s just that they try to be nice *because* of culture.

As for your weight, I’m sure you’re fine: old people can get neurotic and she might be speaking out of her unconscious.

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dakhfakjfakjfh33 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

plenty people have it worse…my MUM is severely mentally ill, and runs the house like a tyrant. and as notacrook said, old people arent always reliable in what they say, they can change without warning

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lindaklv #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

Yeah, If I knew shes ill Id definitely be ok with what ever she says. Too bad regarding anything else shes quite sane.

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n0tacr00k 3 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

Sane has nothing to do with it, really. We’re all “sick” in one way or another, I’d contend there’s one point of the phenomenal world that every person has, that focus of thanatos. For your grandma, that’s probally weight, perhaps with her own acculturation in the 1920-1950s in which any sort of weight problem was contemptible; or from her own struggles with it.

tl;dr: She has her opinion, oh well. You’re fine, right?

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lindaklv #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

Thank you, I really appreciate your answers. I just needed to vent. Made me so mad for a moment!

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n0tacr00k 3 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

Welcome, OP, glad to help. In my basement for 4 days straight: this site keeps me from going feral.

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Good ole boy 11 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

It’s appeasing to still have a grandmother for most people. They may be bitter cynics during your existence, but they have endured unfathomable moments which would be fallicious for our generation to disregard in spite of the banality of senior criticism.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

excatly! my grandma wants my parents to separate??!! i just can’t wait till she gets out of my life and dies!! but i LOVE my other grandmother!! she always so nice and loving, but the one i hate, I WANT HER TO DIE!!!!

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (6 months, 2 weeks after post)

jus beat her, i dunno

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