When is enough, enough?

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When is enough, enough?

I am suffering many tribulations at the moment. My wife has turned against me, I am left alone with my grief, I have been stripped of my finances and all the good fruits of my marriage have been, and are, kept from me(Companionship, confiding in her, intimacy and friendship.). She has had me kicked out of our home. I am nolonger sure I should remain married to this woman. I am a man who has seemingly given his pearls to the pigs and now that they have been trampled, I am being torn to peices.

I have decided to remove my name from the joint tenancy and I have determined to avoid contact with her as much as is possible, I am seriously cosidering fileing for divorce. I feel betrayed and misrepresented. I am only 24 years old and she is 28 we have been married for 2 and a half years and have known each other for 4 years. This all feels so over my head. Thankfully we do not have any children together.

I am having feelings of wanting to run away and have an affair with someone like she had always accused me of just to be done with the whole ordeal. I have to wait 1 year before a divorce can be completed. I am so very, very tired of constantly attempting to prove my worth and fidelity to her. I have not been perfect but I believe that it should be clear to her by now that I have been sincere in our marriage. But she doesn’t seem to get it.

Why doesn’t she seem to get it?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!!! And does anyone think I’m wrong to think that I am nolonger in a position to defend our marriage and that she has left me with no other choice but to leave her? It seems to be what she wants but is it really???? And I don’t even know if I am still willing anymore!

I have been forced to move to a different city (as my family are in a different city), and I am trying to get my life back in order and my head straight, I’ve also booked to see a psychologist coz I think its merited after all I’ve been through…

Any words??? Any Ideas???

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unsoshable 2 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

Keep your head up my friend. I too was in this situation not to long ago. Keep a positive attitude about getting “YOUR” life in order. Move on and live life for yourself.

Noone in a relationship should HAVE to prove thier worth as it should already be apparent to the other.

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An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

Thanks, that was what I was thinking.

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

Also, the answer to your question of “When is enough, enough?” is

enough is enough when you say it is enough!

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