friends help: Do I move on? - Help.com

do you think he’s worth the effort? i mean when you see him and you guys dont talk does it hurt you?

It really hurts me. I mean, I don’t want to stop being friends with him, but if he does not want me around then. . .

is he just a friend or do you have any more feelings for him?

I have feelings for him, but I just want to be friends with him.

What are those family issues you had that seemed to have caused the split up in the begining, anon?

hmm any particular reason you want to stay just friends??

The family issues had nothing to do with us. He just had to move because of problems that they were having.

I don’t really know. I guess i’m just afraid of what might happen. I really do not think he has feelings for me anyway.

i think you just have to talk to him straight-on. Even if he doenst want to or tries to leave, if its hurting you to not talk with him then at least figure out what hes thinking and why he is trying to ignore you. even if his reason may hurt, at least you wont be wondering why hes acting this way towards you.

Yeah it would be so much easier if I knew what he was thinking :(

amen to that, if i could just figure out what my best friend, whose also my crush, is thinking it would make my life so much easier…

Sounds like we’re both having the same problem lol.

hah yeah, maybe i shold take my own advice and go talk to her…im such a hypocrite lol

Lol no worries. I do the same thing. I think it’s easier to give advice than to take it yourself.

for sure for sure… ahh now im depressed, i hope i can man up and actually tell my friend my feelings…good luck to the both of us lol

Don’t be depressed. It will be fine :) Yeah good luck lol.

What I’m wondering is why don’t “best friends” open up and actually talk to each other. I thought that’s what friends were for! Why do people just leave each other gessing? Wouldn’t things be a lot clearer out in the open? (Sigh!)

I know right? What’s the point in being best friends or even close friends for that matter if you’re not willing to communicate or open up and say what you’re feeling? It’s messed up.

Too much needless suffering… But it seems more like a guy thing though. Woman talk about anything and share how they feel. Guys tend to keep too much inside. I’m a girl so this is something I really don’t understand.

Good luck sweetie. And good luck to that dude up there. Communication is the key!
Come to think of it, I think I’ll take my own advice now! LOL

Thanks for posting this. :)

Thanks to you too, and you’re very welcome :)