god help: I am 13 and I don’t believe in god and my mom does. - Help.com

Everyone believes in different things; including such important things as whether God exists or not. If you are really no longer happy going to CCD then I think you should be honest with your mom and tell her. Explain and make it clear that you don’t want to go not becuase its boring or whatever, but because you just don’t believe in God.

It’s up to her to come to terms with it then. And this may not always be the case for you. Many people wonder throughout their whole lives about it. But if you feel it doesn’t do anythiing for your life then tell your Mom and explain how you feel. Do it nice and calmly though. This is achance to show her how ,much you’re thinking about this.

my ex boyfriend was the same. he was an athiest while both parents were catholic. of course he was alot older so it’s not exactly the same. i dont know how he told his parents. i think he just slowly and subtly expressed his lack of belief. maybe you should sit her down and just talk to her. explain to her that you just don’t believe in the same things as her. you love her and respect her for her beliefs but you can’t pretend to believe something you don’t.

My advice is don’t fight. Sit your mom down and have a nice calm conversation about it. Tell her why you feel the way you do, and ask her if you can stop going to church.
Just because you disagree does not mean you have to fight over it. Every one of my views differs from my parents’, but we don’t argue about it, they accept it, I accept them, and things are fine.
So just talk to her about it.

What do you mean you are afraid of hurting her? Explain that a little more.

Also, can you tell us why you don’t believe in God?

At 13 your mom might think your too young to have made a final decision on god and religion in your life. I don’t agree or disagree with this but just to point out where she could be coming from. She probobly just wants whats best for you so sitting down and calmly explaining yourself might work.

I think just about all teenager feel the same way,that just life. I went to church unitl I was able tell my mother I didn’t want to go anymore and she gave in. But many years later I started back, she gone to be with the Lord now but I’m going again to church and still going on Sunday and on Wednesday bible class today.

You may not understand alot of was going on and have many question about God and his Son. If you hang in there you will get your answers, if take a few years.

But one you thing you can do now is to talk to you mother what you are feeling inside of yourslef and never be afraid to talk to her about anything that is what she there for.

Just be honest and tell her as you would tell to a good friend how you think and or feel and that you don’t want to pretend to believe what you don’t believe.
Also let her know that you understand she has the best intentions and does so because she cares for you. But even if she hopes for it, being forced to go to a church may not result in you converting to christianity.
As long as it’s not voluntarily it probably will make you feel bad about religion.

If you still need to go to it, just make the best out of it from your own perspective. For example in bible class you can still learn to understand more about the way a lot of christian people view the world. Even if it’s not your view, it can be interesting to know more about their perspective.
As for, how not to get bored in church, well that can be quite hard, but you can think about the topics in your own way, if you like even in a funny one.
(Just make sure not to roll out of your seat laughing. They somehow might not appreciate it…)
I’d advise you to just keep one thing clear:

That you don’t think it’s a good thing to fake having another personal opinion than you really do.

If anybody wants you to express other personal views than your own they ask you to lie. So they can either hear your real thoughts or nothing at all. The choice is up to them.

At the same time accept and respect your mother’s opinion as hers and do your best to understand her feelings and thoughts and respond to them as friendly and loving as you can without being dishonest. same goes for other people.

dear webjef thanks for the insite i was wondering how you told you pairents and how they reacted and how old you where thanks for you time> :)