Saving a friendship?

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Saving a friendship?

So here’s the deal, I’m a freshman in college dating a wonderful guy. He’s cute, shy and quiet and things have been going really awesome up until now. I’m always been the emotionally charged one and take things more to heart than he does, and we get along really well. Here’s the problem: I think his best girlfriend has a crush on him and doesn’t want to be around me or him anymore. She is wonderful but we have never really clicked as friends despite me trying which is ok but now I suspect she is jealous of me dating my boyfriend and is having diffuculty dealing with it. She is downright cold to me and always complaining to the bf that she feels like a third wheel altho I try very much not to make her feel that way and has just told my bf that she loves him and that he should break up with me. I am about to go ask him about it but should I confront her about it first? anyone been through anything similar? I don’t think he would, but am slightly not sure of how he feels about it all. I am not about to control who he hangs out with or his life but I would hate for a friendship to be lost over this. Secondly, I have no details beyond a text, should I ask him about it with details?

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peppermintyuki 0 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it first….. make sure you have ALL the facts straight, and that he’s ok with you talking to her about it, and THEN go confront her about it….. mostly, i think you need to be honest with both of them

willbh 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

maybe the answer is to try to get to know this girl?

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linuxya 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

Why confront her about anything?

Your relationship is with your boyfriend. Why not talk to him about how he feels about the whole mess? Have an open discussion.

It seems pretty natural for people to let their friendships get a little more distant when they start a romantic relationship. This other girl really needs to ask herself whether she wants him romantically or is just needy.

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Anonymous #
8 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

it’s been about 5 months since I met her, and have tried on several occasions to get to know her, including coffee dates, dinner with her and her girlfriends, studying together etc. She’s just not easy to get to know and it’s clear that she’s not receptive to me. That’s fine if she doesn’t like me it’s not my first choice and doable but this is concerning me

willbh 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (32 minutes after post)

then you should talk to your boyfriend, tell him about your concerns, if he really is a great guy then he’ll try to sort things out

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