growing up help: Does anyone else find that as you get older you start to care less and less about having freinds? - Help.com

Yeah. About the friends bit. Sometimes I regret not being out on a saturday night but that’s because I think I’ll miss something. But with friends, I dunno, I like feeling independant and etc.

maybe it just isnt the main focus, the teens are all about that, to the detriment of other things sometimes, like education

im like that because people stich me up so i dont bother with them any more. I find friendship arkward , i have very few friends, just a handfull but these few are real true friends which have been around a while and are on the same level as me and have simular morals.

people = **** basically. I dont care about going out to pubs and clubs to meet people because i just dont care , i just see drunk lumps of meat standing there talking **** and i feel like im in another dimension totally off key to everyone else rarely meeting anyone intresting who fit the bill of being a friend.

I treat people with respect and how i would like to be treated but im reality people just **** on you so i avoid it, i like people i meet online but its ****** up that i never get to meet these amazing people, just from behind the screen and text, human connection is broken in this day and age, no connection , no emotions, no eye contact, you know its kind of a magical thing when two humans totally connect but that cant happen online ,

you never lonely you always have the internet for talking to humans , that always can lead to friendships.

Anonymous wrote:

people = **** basically. I dont care about going out to pubs and clubs to meet people because i just dont care , i just see drunk lumps of meat standing there talking **** and i feel like im in another dimension totally off key to everyone else rarely meeting anyone intresting who fit the bill of being a friend.

That was bang on. I like this site but I find it hard to connect to people through a computer, its just not the same. and I agree vivi - I like feeling independant, but I do feel like im missing out on things… im 21 and I dont really care about any of the stuff I’m supposedly supposed to care about…

easy now, dont get into bad mental/personality habits

socialising is a skill, you have to work at it

a one 2 one talk is not the same as a group blether is not the same as chat in the pub is not the same as reading posts on a website.

WE have to take responsibility for cultivating our own character, personality is not static, it doesnt stop when your 18

people = you, me, them, us

Good call Pal. I do socialize, I just find myself that I care less and less about being with friends as often as I used to and am curious as to if it comes with age.

I just really suck at being 21. I suspect I will be better at being older.

ah,

notice the tone of your question appears different in each answer, drawback of text i suppose. i still refuse to resort to lols and all that tho

think im with you after your last post now

So you agree, it comes with age? .. and I guess I still havent mastered how to properly convey my tone through written words - I think I should work on that if I want to be a writer…

Maybe you realise you dont need a crowd to identify who you are, but we all still need people.

Maybe

Agreed. I like that “Dont need a crowd to Idenify who you are”

I may use it…

I’m actually going to write it down in my book of things to remember - up there with your eariler post

yerpal wrote:

a one 2 one talk is not the same as a group blether is not the same as chat in the pub is not the same as reading posts on a website.

WE have to take responsibility for cultivating our own character, personality is not static, it doesnt stop when your 18

I like the way you think, keep on rockin in the free world, man.

ha ha