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whats happening lisa?

Yea, whats wrong?

Anything in particular you want to talk about?

angel♥ wrote:
everything… life is just so messed up. i dont even know anymore.

sorry. i dont know why i even posted this.

You don’t need to be sorry. What specifically is going on?

Rant away girl!

ScarofLo18 wrote:
Rant away girl!

yeah, I goota get off but I’ll be back tell everyone whats wrong.

can u explain?

angel♥ wrote:
well it might be kinda long…

i hate my family. they dont understand me. they dont unerstand how much im hurting. i have told them before… but its like they help for a little while then just give up on me totally. my family (not just immediate) think im some kind of screw up…. people are always telling me to be more like my sister. and i just dont get why they cant accept me for who i am. EVERYONE favors her. its like im invisible or something. my dad has this temper problem lately and we keep getting into these big fights.. then my mums like “oh take it easy on him” what about me?!

also my friends.. theyve all changed so much.. i cant handle it. i honestly closer to certain people on here than i am to my RL friends now… theyre just so full of drama and like.. bitchy. all they seem to do now is talk about people behind their backs, spread rumours and critisize people for howthey look or dress. im like the total opposite of that and im trying to get them to stop critisizing people like that but they wont. i just wanna like rebel against them or sometihng to make them realize how dumb theyre being. theyre always like “ugh im so depressed” and i ask why and its always realy weird reasons….like the other day my friend said she was depressed because “to many guys like her and its confusing her” thenn she noticed something up with me and itold her everything and shes like “aw. dont woryr. itll be okay” and then goes onto another topic like RIGHT away!

i swear to god NO ONE cares about me.

thats only part of the **** thats going on… but idk

might be time to talk to your parents about going to school again and getting out of homeschool
and btw hows that going?

It sucks to have family like that. When can you move out there?

As for your friends, thats the way of the world anymore. Nearly everyone is out for themselves and don’t care who they hurt or ignore along the way, but you have friends here who care about you soooo much.

Don’t know what else I can say that I haven’t said before but we do care about you lisa.

i’m sorry you are going through this… the only advice i could give you is to take this as a positive growing experience, a chance to explore your capacity for self reliance.

not many people can claim they live independently of their family’s emotional support. if you can cope with your situation and find happiness this will truly be a unique way to develop your character and strength :-)

hope that helps

Make a plan to get away when your allowed to like I’m doing. Not sure if you can work or anything but if you can try to save some money up so you can move out and be independent, or move in with someone who does care about you. Someone needs to give your family and friends a slap upside their heads for not looking out for you.

angel♥ wrote:
yeah.. i just hate it. i wanna run away so badly.. get away from all this. never come back.

yeah i know.. unfortunately. but i just hate it. they dont give a **** about other peoples feelings. i seriously am losing everyone.

I’m so sorry :( It sounds like your family doesn’t understand you. Maybe you could try telling them how you feel and how THEY make you feel?

what do you think you can do to make things better for yourself?

Hang in there. I know you said you don’t know where you could go but keep looking. Hopefully you’ll be able to find a solution soon :)

“i give up” are dangerous words. please understand that you must move on from this defeatist way of thinking, for your own good.

important: don’t try hard to be happy. . i think happiness is something you find in yourself… its not something you try to be, like trying to be polite.

i know this is a very difficult time for you but i implore you to stay focused on yourself… develop skills and interests… try to find some sort of happiness

good luck

Don’t give up Angel. No matter how bad things get their is always a solution. I
Don’t know it, and neither do you. Yet. But I think you just have to be optimistic, always look
For the silver lining. I’m sorry things are tough right now, I wish I could help more. ~Love Rowass

hey just one more thing: it is completely Ok and even healthy to allow yourself to feel like this. just make sure you put a time cap on it and allow yourself to move on.

so to answer your initial question: there is nothing wrong with you. feeling how you feel is completely normal considering the situation. it’s a good sign it means you’re human! like a said, just make sure you can move on 3

Angel, even if you are not feeling loved and understood by your family, at least you have the support of your many friends here on help.com, who may be more mature than your rl friends. My suggestion is to keep working on your education in every way possible. The more you learn, the more you improve your chances of making a wonderful life for yourself. Scientists are working hard to find new medications to treat anxiety. Be prepared for the day when they find a treatment that really works. Then, you will be an educated person, and ready to find your passion in life.

Try going back to a subject you liked before. It can be anything that interests you. Learn little bits at a time. It is called, “chunking” and it works for many students who think they can’t learn. You have to try even though it is difficult. Challenge yourself. You won’t regret it. You situation can improve dramatically. Anytime we take charge of our situation, rather than leaning on others, we become stronger. You can do it.

You don’t like music?

Then, study a group you like to listen to. Learn the names of the individuals in the group. Study the instruments they play and memorize the lyrics to the songs. If you can do that, then you have mastered quite a huge chunk of information.

I just checked your profile. It seems to me that one thing you like and can do well, is helping people with their problems. That takes compassion and communication skills. Clearly, you have mastered those skills better than most adults have. Give yourself credit for your wonderful qualities.

good advice c-eek

“im not qute sure HOW but i just wanna dedicate my life to helping people.. cause helping others helps me in a way..makes me feel like my life isnt as pointless as it feels.” (your life is not pointless!)
i’m so happy to see this!

if you are college bound you should consider a psych major w/ a concentration in counseling or clinical psych

here is a great link to a bunch of psych blogs on the internet

The more you know, the more you will be able to help people. I studied child development so that I could be a better helper to children. Everything I read in the textbooks seemed useful to me, so I just absorbed what I could from every page. Sometimes I had to read and re-read a paragraph a number of times, but I kept thinking, “What if I come across a child that needs help for this very problem and I don’t know what will help him/her?” Many classes are now available online. I have taken classes just to learn the information, not for a grade. The information is what I wanted, and I don’t regret the effort one little bit.

hey it took my link away….
http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/05/guid…

It turn around…believe me:) You are actually the strong one, that’s why they’re leaning on you. Hang in there “Angel”.

I hear ya. Time for some pirvate you time. They’ll work it out. This time next week it’s all forgotten. An ipod and a jog works wonders. I borrow a friends dog and take him for a run…actually he runs me..lol:)

don’t give up! you need to punch something? do it! Is there something that sparked this?

well the first step is to find out what’s bothering you to the point of where you can quote it almost exactly.

Pugs are way cool:) I bet you he can forget easy enough…lol. Do you have a Pug coat? I think it’s halarious when they dress them up:) I saw one in a cop outfit…lol.

I just now got to read a bunch of the other replies

angel♥ wrote:
well it might be kinda long…

i hate my family. they dont understand me. they dont unerstand how much im hurting. i have told them before… but its like they help for a little while then just give up on me totally. my family (not just immediate) think im some kind of screw up…. people are always telling me to be more like my sister. and i just dont get why they cant accept me for who i am. EVERYONE favors her. its like im invisible or something. my dad has this temper problem lately and we keep getting into these big fights.. then my mums like “oh take it easy on him” what about me?!

also my friends.. theyve all changed so much.. i cant handle it. i honestly closer to certain people on here than i am to my RL friends now… theyre just so full of drama and like.. bitchy. all they seem to do now is talk about people behind their backs, spread rumours and critisize people for howthey look or dress. im like the total opposite of that and im trying to get them to stop critisizing people like that but they wont. i just wanna like rebel against them or sometihng to make them realize how dumb theyre being. theyre always like “ugh im so depressed” and i ask why and its always realy weird reasons….like the other day my friend said she was depressed because “to many guys like her and its confusing her” thenn she noticed something up with me and itold her everything and shes like “aw. dont woryr. itll be okay” and then goes onto another topic like RIGHT away!

i swear to god NO ONE cares about me.

thats only part of the **** thats going on… but idk

Max wrote:
Pugs are way cool:) I bet you he can forget easy enough…lol. Do you have a Pug coat? I think it’s halarious when they dress them up:) I saw one in a cop outfit…lol.

oh god haha I would never do that to my dog. that poor dog goes through enough XD

MacDonalds had a great slogan…”you deserve a break today”…to bad everybody got fat taking it…lol. Better to walk the Pug..lol.

angel♥ wrote:
ive talked to my mum a lot of times… theres no way i could talk to my dad. but im pretty sure my mum has for me. doesnt help though

care to explain more about why you can’t talk to your dad? is he just stubborn, or is it his anger, or something totally different?

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

Max wrote:
Pugs are way cool:) I bet you he can forget easy enough…lol. Do you have a Pug coat? I think it’s halarious when they dress them up:) I saw one in a cop outfit…lol.

oh god haha I would never do that to my dog. that poor dog goes through enough XD

lmao! ahah nahh i dont. ohh but i did buy him a halloween costume.. a bumblebee :D hehhee

Max wrote:
MacDonalds had a great slogan…”you deserve a break today”…to bad everybody got fat taking it…lol. Better to walk the Pug..lol.

ugh, I can’t eat there anymore haha. ever since I stopped eating there, I feel like I could go into the freaking olympics haha

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

angel♥ wrote:
ive talked to my mum a lot of times… theres no way i could talk to my dad. but im pretty sure my mum has for me. doesnt help though

care to explain more about why you can’t talk to your dad? is he just stubborn, or is it his anger, or something totally different?

well… idk really. my family is kinda close… in alot of ways.. but thats one thing i cant do… im not good at talking with my dad… im kinda scared to and im not really sure why… he just doesnt understand.

things are always easier when they’re not direct

Bring your dad for a walk…take the pug. It’ll work:) Dad’s need to walk too…sometimes a bit further then pugs…lol

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

Max wrote:
Pugs are way cool:) I bet you he can forget easy enough…lol. Do you have a Pug coat? I think it’s halarious when they dress them up:) I saw one in a cop outfit…lol.

oh god haha I would never do that to my dog. that poor dog goes through enough XD

lmao! ahah nahh i dont. ohh but i did buy him a halloween costume.. a bumblebee :D hehhee

lol I’ve seen those. do you even have the antennae?

yesss it was a onepeice outfit… antennae attached XD

Max wrote:
Bring your dad for a walk…take the pug. It’ll work:) Dad’s need to walk too…sometimes a bit further then pugs…lol

there ya go. tire him out so he won’t have any energy to yell at you or anything. get him while he’s just sitting down doing nothing

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

angel♥ wrote:
ive talked to my mum a lot of times… theres no way i could talk to my dad. but im pretty sure my mum has for me. doesnt help though

care to explain more about why you can’t talk to your dad? is he just stubborn, or is it his anger, or something totally different?

well… idk really. my family is kinda close… in alot of ways.. but thats one thing i cant do… im not good at talking with my dad… im kinda scared to and im not really sure why… he just doesnt understand.

I know what you mean. I have the hardest time talking to my parents. how about try leaving them a note on the fridge explaining how you feel? or maybe E-mail them this post?

naah i couldnt do that.. there sot much on this site i dnt want them to know.
iidk… i think im just gonna try and ignore it.get through it without actualy saying anytihng more to them…. :\

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

Max wrote:
Pugs are way cool:) I bet you he can forget easy enough…lol. Do you have a Pug coat? I think it’s halarious when they dress them up:) I saw one in a cop outfit…lol.

oh god haha I would never do that to my dog. that poor dog goes through enough XD

lmao! ahah nahh i dont. ohh but i did buy him a halloween costume.. a bumblebee :D hehhee

lol I’ve seen those. do you even have the antennae?

yesss it was a onepeice outfit… antennae attached XD

LOL no offense, that’s probably the most embarrest dog ever

HAHAHHAHHAHA i know! but it was freakin amazing XD i was laughing so hard at him. :P
i should post a picture of him in his costume up here one time….. XD

Put a bumblebee outfit on your dad…lol. Dogs are man’s best friend (or girls) because they listen, don’t judge and always show affection:) Just tell your dad to come….and he will:)

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

angel♥ wrote:

pianoman91894 wrote:

Max wrote:
Pugs are way cool:) I bet you he can forget easy enough…lol. Do you have a Pug coat? I think it’s halarious when they dress them up:) I saw one in a cop outfit…lol.

oh god haha I would never do that to my dog. that poor dog goes through enough XD

lmao! ahah nahh i dont. ohh but i did buy him a halloween costume.. a bumblebee :D hehhee

lol I’ve seen those. do you even have the antennae?

yesss it was a onepeice outfit… antennae attached XD

LOL no offense, that’s probably the most embarrest dog ever

HAHAHHAHHAHA i know! but it was freakin amazing XD i was laughing so hard at him. :P
i should post a picture of him in his costume up here one time….. XD

YOU SHOULD!!!! lol I can’t tell you how many times ‘ve looked up dog costume up on photobucket XD

OMG same here!!!!!! hahaha its so amusing.. the costumes people put their dogs in..now im one of those crazy people XD i couldnt resist though.
anyways, im kinda tired.. im gonna hit the hay now. thank you guys for your help =) gnight xoxoxo

Now back to the more important things..the Pugs spring outfit…will he wear white? What kind of sun glasses? I think you have just discovered your next post:)

Nighty night:)

i think he’ll wear a big huge bunny outfit with a basket connected to it, and these glasses

http://media.photobucket.com/image/ka…

go ahead punch a pillow or scream. just don’t do something you’ll regret.remember that there are people who are in worse situation than what you’re in right now and they don’t have a choice. i hope you have.

What is one of your favorite things in the world to do? Read a book? Take a nice warm bath? Roll down a grass hill at a park? Go and do it. Whenever you get the chance. Don’t focus on trying to be happy, focus on what it is that makes you happy. And while you’re doing it, forget all about everything else. Forget about your family and those that make you sad or angry. Forget about everything but what your happy thing is, and just do that. I know exactly what you’re going through. I know exactly how you feel, right down to the school issues and the ADD. I found this helped. I love to act, and I found I couldn’t feel sad or angry at a rehearsal, because all I could do is think about the acting, which I love, and I would forget about everything else and smile. I think you might react the same way when you do something that you love. So, to answer your initial question, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, because you are human, and from what I read on this thread, kind and compassionate, and there is nothing this world needs more than a person who is kind and compassionate.

Oh Lisa….we care about you. You are on of my favoritest people on here!!! I’m sorry you are having such a rough time. Please don’t give up. Maybe you are trying TOO hard to be happy. Try not to think so much. Keep busy, keep distracted. Don’t give yourself a chance to think about it. (This is IDon’tEverQuit btw)

crazy.insan wrote:
What is one of your favorite things in the world to do? Read a book? Take a nice warm bath? Roll down a grass hill at a park? Go and do it. Whenever you get the chance. Don’t focus on trying to be happy, focus on what it is that makes you happy. And while you’re doing it, forget all about everything else. Forget about your family and those that make you sad or angry. Forget about everything but what your happy thing is, and just do that. I know exactly what you’re going through. I know exactly how you feel, right down to the school issues and the ADD. I found this helped. I love to act, and I found I couldn’t feel sad or angry at a rehearsal, because all I could do is think about the acting, which I love, and I would forget about everything else and smile. I think you might react the same way when you do something that you love. So, to answer your initial question, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, because you are human, and from what I read on this thread, kind and compassionate, and there is nothing this world needs more than a person who is kind and compassionate.

great advice!

Then start with music. Go somewhere you can be alone and forget, and listen to your favourite music. And just let your world be enveloped in music. Also, sing along. I talked to a psychologist who told me that if you sing for a while, and really sing, you can’t be angry for some reason.

Ah, music. A magic far beyond anything else on this earth. -J. K. Rowling. (or something to that effect). :-)

What happened?

No prob. I understand. (the not wanting to talk about it.) although I also understand the messing up a relationship. Been there too many times.

But, if I may be frank, you don’t mess up everything you touch. Clearly, there are a lot of people, especially on this site, who care about you.

lisa dont worry everything will work out ill be on tommarow goodnight *hugs*

How so?

angel♥ wrote:
thanks alex.

and idk.. i just always do. people always say i wont then in the end i ufck things up with them by mistake and they end up hating me.

But, not here Angel. You have maintained good friendships here and we are all in your corner, cheering you on. Try to just enjoy life moment by moment. Life is much sweeter when you can do that.

i m suffering too much but i m smiling, because i m alone responsible for my situation.
and you are also in mess.

if u find the answer of why?

please tell me.

ok, so, long story, but my account is changing. anything else I post will be under the name “A Living Paradox.” Just so you know.

Once again, I apologize, because I know everyones gunna get another email regarding something kinda stupid, (sorry) but that above post was supposed to be written with this account. basically, crazy.insan = A living Paradox. there was a bit of confusion on my part regarding email addresses and linking and two boxes open at once and such… anyway, to make a long story short: crazy.insan = A living Paradox sorry

angel♥ wrote:
no ive definetely messed up with some people on here too… =/
but thank you, ill try.

That happen’s:) Confusion and uncertainy stress’s us all. If you complete the basic tasks, what will be will be:) You have a very nice way about you and when you’re happy people will what some of that. There will always be life sucks…smile and show them your butt…your pugs butt..lol.

Dance:)

crazy.insan wrote:
What is one of your favorite things in the world to do? Read a book? Take a nice warm bath? Roll down a grass hill at a park? Go and do it. Whenever you get the chance. Don’t focus on trying to be happy, focus on what it is that makes you happy. And while you’re doing it, forget all about everything else. Forget about your family and those that make you sad or angry. Forget about everything but what your happy thing is, and just do that. I know exactly what you’re going through. I know exactly how you feel, right down to the school issues and the ADD. I found this helped. I love to act, and I found I couldn’t feel sad or angry at a rehearsal, because all I could do is think about the acting, which I love, and I would forget about everything else and smile. I think you might react the same way when you do something that you love. So, to answer your initial question, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, because you are human, and from what I read on this thread, kind and compassionate, and there is nothing this world needs more than a person who is kind and compassionate.

While much of this sounds like great advice, in essence it is not. Namely because of these statement “Don’t focus on trying to be happy, focus on what it is that makes you happy. And while you’re doing it, forget all about everything else.”

Crazy.insan the great Buddha would be shunning you and smitting you with terrible pacifism right now. It is you yourself that makes you happy, never your activities, other than what happens in your brain. If something makes you happy, it’s because you allow it to. And the opposite is true, if something makes you unhappy it’s because you allow it to.

Bless you Angel for your reply to this comment. “thanks nat =) yeahh i kinda did try to hard for a while… but the thing is it worked! i tricked my brain into believing i was happy and for a few months i felt truley happy! but its the first stage of that ihate… putting on the mask and pretending like everythings okay when its not. “

I think you already know that feeling happy is up to you. But the truth is we shouldn’t trick our emotions because this can lead to being happy about things that are ethically wrong, or vice versa. I doubt you need to worry about that.

You seem like a girl who has her priorities straight, you just have trouble with motivation. Well what you’ve got to find, my friend, is inspiration. Whether that be in the pursuit of artistic beauty, or the words of wise and sociable people, or the always important one; love, is irrelevant. Just find it, I’m sure it isn’t as far as it seems.

By the way allowing yourself to be unhappy for long periods of time, ie. a month or more, can cause your brain to have these states more often, simply through habit. Or more technically, your brain creates new pathways every time you think something, and the more pathways that are unhappy, the more often your going to feel unhappy.

The simple act of saying that out loud, what you want to do, which is better than thinking it, will make you more likely to do it. So why not say it “I’m happy when I want to be.”

I have bipolar disorder and often times I feel like I **** everything up. Instead of getting pissed at other people, I usually get really mad at myself for ******* everything up. I’m really sorry you feel bad. I go to a really ****** school so basically when I get out every day I have a headache and I’m really bitchy to my mom. If it weren’t for the internet (I have no life, rofl) I don’t know what I would do. Life’s a *****, but I’m hoping in a few years I’ll get away from them (my parents) and it’ll be better.

I don’t know. It just sucks.

One of the most important things I think is to just not hold onto the negative thoughts. Everyone in the world has them. The trick is to just observe them. Don’t necessarily block them out completely, but when a bad thought comes, think about it for just a minute, then let it go. Forget about it. Don’t think about it too long, basically. I know its hard, but I’m sure you can do it.
I hope that helps a bit.

You can punch me if u need to :(. I’ll take a hit for team angel :D

I believe not thinking about your problems, to be wrong in many ways. It allows you to ignore the problems in the world around you. And most people do, they say to themselves “what can I do about that” and wander off into la la land. That isn’t good. It’s important to maintain your priorities in life, whether that be getting educated, watching your favorite tv show, helping your fellow bloggers anything. No matter how many problems there are in the world, as long as you care about something, life is worth it. And that something can be anything, including yourself. What matters is that you care and want to make this world a better place. It can be difficult, very difficult, to keep your head up, but maintaining your goals, and caring about the things that matter to you is really helps you carry on in life.

PS. I hope you know this means you have to comment on at least one of posts Angel. : P

hey lisa,
I just thought id go on here to see if you posted something..and well, you did.
Im always useless with advice unless im in a strange mood..
But :/ what can i say besides the ovious.
Life really sucks 90% of the time.
And its really only worth living for the 10% that can really be breath taking.
You can always leave home at 18, get new freinds, do what you want. and 2 years isnt a long time compared to 70 years or w.e of w.e you want to do..
and this just goes to show how crap i am at advice :)
Hang in there :/

oh ya, forgot to address your freinds problem.
Well too many people are like that now :/
Teenagers and even adults all they want to do is compete and they probably are depressed within but they express it by taking it out on other, insults and all that. And then the general question ‘What is wrong with you’
The answer clearly is your human. And thats the only thing wrong.
It is whats wrong with the world not just you. And you have to notice that and accept it, and i know im not helping in anyway because im just telling you the general ‘********’ of life in a different way.
But i think thats all.. :) keep pushing on lisa you can do it.

yes it is :/ life is a long time. but you can make it good. if you do what makes u happy.

I second all that ~lovesispain~Jose~ has said. Just for the record. :-)

maybe im not the worst at adice after all :D

how are you now angel

yeah, how are you ;P. You are lucky you got so many people who care :D

is there any way i can help ?

Angel, I admire you a lot!… pls be good!

Woo hoo:) Me too because I like happy endings:)

It’s good that your happy :)