Love help: Is it unusual to feel heartbreak after dumping someone? - Help.com

it means you miss her, and if not her specifically , then the relationship you had. because you know you have essentially closed the door on that. wheather or not that door reopens, or if you open a different door with someone new is an unknown. so yeah summed up. the breaking up might have been for good, or ill.. but either way you miss her.

maybe you’re feeling regret over a decision you made that you’re not sure was the right thing to do.

That’s the problem I wasn’t sure if it was the right decision, but I made it and for alittle bit she talked to me about how she never felt like this before because no one has broken her heart before. So now she is promising me things will be different, but I don’t know if I can believe her or not.

well… i’m not trying to be intrusive but can i ask why you ended things? maybe a second opinion on your situation will help.

Well in the past she cheated on me and I was like **** it I’ll give it one more chance. Now, I’m the one who got did the screwing around and she was going to forgive me, but I just told her I don’t want to hurt her and now she is distraught over the situation. I’m lost because I didn’t know she felt like this for me and if things change I don’t want it to be a temporary change.

well… i don’t know much but i’ve been cheated on in the past too. i know that forgiving someone is not the same as the relationship is ok. it may never be the same once that line has been crossed. unfortunately now that line applies to both of you. maybe you should talk to her. work out your confusion, find out what you want…. even if that’s just some time to think. nothing short of death is permanent. just be as flexible as you can, and don’t write off anything as a possibility.

It’s normal to miss someone that was around for so long, but that doens’t mean the relatioship was right, you broke up for a reason, it hurt me like hell to split up with my ex but I knew it was the right thing to do

May be you should ask yourself what was wrong in the relationship ever since it started. Have you ever discussed together the problems and differences? Now its’ probably too late, but can benefit of the experience in the next relation or to correct this one if still possible

Un because the love was gone and it was a bad messed up realationship that wasn’t right for either person, many reason, doesn’t mean you won’t miss the person you spent most of your time with over the last few years. You are the only loser I can see around here

livs_0 wrote:
then why did u dump him then u daff cow!!!!! hahahahahaa loser!

i just recently broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years on/off and im heartbroken. things just werent working out. i think being heartbroken after any break up is normal, i mean obviously you loved her at some point in your relationship. you prob just miss her. :(

I am going through the same thing. I broke up with my dude, and I can’t stop thinking about him now. I know if we got back together it would just be a downhill relationship again, and I would have to start all over with the pain from the 1st day of our breakup. My best advice would be to ask yourself this question…
If I could relive this relationship from the past 6 months over and over again, would i be happy or sad…
we can only control ourselves