I’m not a real part of anyone’s lives online, at most I can just be someone to talk to… - Help.com

im the exact same i have friends both boys and girls who all talk to me but all have their relationships im never considered anymore than someone to speak to i have never had a serious relationship or 1 atall for that matter, what age are you dude?

yes, and i don’t like spam on toast.

Well I consider you a friend, online and if I ever met you in real life, I’d consider you a real life friend too, and Im sure Im not the only one…

Sure you dont REALLY know anyone on here but hey, who in life do you really know anyway besides close friends and immediate family?

is anything m going on about relevant to why ever your posting this..?

oh, a thought, what where frnds befor you met them?
strangers.

we are all passing ships in the night. The contact you havr with people on the net is very real though. Just, you know the people by there pen-men-ship, instead of their body language and facial expressions or their spoken words. People have the capasity to shock themselves and others(for we don’t even know ourselves!). There is only one who knows us all perfectly. The potter. The Creator. The Lord Jesus christ.

the_elephant_man2 wrote:
we are all passing ships in the night. The contact you havr with people on the net is very real though. Just, you know the people by there pen-men-ship, instead of their body language and facial expressions or their spoken words. People have the capasity to shock themselves and others(for we don’t even know ourselves!). There is only one who knows us all perfectly. The potter. The Creator. The Lord Jesus christ.

oh boy, plz don’t let Why So Steve see that

There will be a time where all this changes.

Nante wrote:
Well I consider you a friend, online and if I ever met you in real life, I’d consider you a real life friend too, and Im sure Im not the only one…

Sure you dont REALLY know anyone on here but hey, who in life do you really know anyway besides close friends and immediate family?

is anything m going on about relevant to why ever your posting this..?

Fine. Take what I was going to say… -_- Good thing I refreshed the page before posting or I would have looked dumb. :P

Anyway, It’s hard to form friendships over the internet because you can never really be sure who anybody is. I mean, for all you know, I could be some 30 year old creepy guy living in my mom’s basement. XD And vice-versa.
It takes a little more time, and even then, some people may just not be able to form proper friendships/relationships online.

Commander Ikari wrote:

the_elephant_man2 wrote:
we are all passing ships in the night. The contact you havr with people on the net is very real though. Just, you know the people by there pen-men-ship, instead of their body language and facial expressions or their spoken words. People have the capasity to shock themselves and others(for we don’t even know ourselves!). There is only one who knows us all perfectly. The potter. The Creator. The Lord Jesus christ.

Thanks. Atheist though.

hey take off the last sentence and it was perfectly nonreligous advice…

I was an athiest too.

Nante wrote:

Commander Ikari wrote:

the_elephant_man2 wrote:
we are all passing ships in the night. The contact you havr with people on the net is very real though. Just, you know the people by there pen-men-ship, instead of their body language and facial expressions or their spoken words. People have the capasity to shock themselves and others(for we don’t even know ourselves!). There is only one who knows us all perfectly. The potter. The Creator. The Lord Jesus christ.

Thanks. Atheist though.

hey take off the last sentence and it was perfectly nonreligous advice…

yaa, the potter sounds cool.X)

I am one of those who was saved by grace.

the_elephant_man2 wrote:
I am one of those who was saved by grace.

a little preachy but still good for me

you do realise that you are the second frend i made here

Grim_Hardcastle

the_elephant_man2 wrote:
I am one of those who was saved by grace.

I know your trying to help man, but the terms of use is against this sort of thing.

Commander Ikari wrote:
Thanks for all this Elephant man, but I don’t really want to have God sold to me..

yeah its not how it works elephant man, now back to you ikari, what in the hymphadimpily made you think of all this rubbish?

~CaitherrA~ most probably

Take from it what you will, I’m here to offer the truth, in love, as my father agree’s.

kiding, thats his brain doing spring cleening

STEEL wrote:
you do realise that you are the second frend i made here

yeah and when I first got here, I remember thinking,
“wow! that icommander ikari kid is popular!”

Okay well not really but I saw you got along with alot of people.

STEEL wrote:
~CaitherrA~ most probably

What about me? -_-

The tongue is a sword. Be careful not to fall on it.

like i said

STEEL wrote:
kiding, thats his brain doing spring cleening

Commander Ikari wrote:
The devil made me do it..

Was he dressed as a goregeus woman?

Nante wrote:

Commander Ikari wrote:
The devil made me do it..

Was he dressed as a goregeus woman?

did he look like lara croft

Commander Ikari wrote:

Nante wrote:

Commander Ikari wrote:
The devil made me do it..

Was he dressed as a goregeus woman?

Nah, he was dressed as a man with a gun.

Then thats no excuse.

oh, **** he owes me poker money.=[

Commander Ikari wrote:

Yup. I mean, rain or shine, hell or high fever, I’m online.

and also there are alot of worse ways to spend your time…

i just realised something

Commander Ikari wrote:

derek_clar wrote:
im the exact same i have friends both boys and girls who all talk to me but all have their relationships im never considered anymore than someone to speak to i have never had a serious relationship or 1 atall for that matter, what age are you dude?

15.

=O me too.

Commander Ikari wrote:

miss_alyse wrote:

Commander Ikari wrote:

derek_clar wrote:
im the exact same i have friends both boys and girls who all talk to me but all have their relationships im never considered anymore than someone to speak to i have never had a serious relationship or 1 atall for that matter, what age are you dude?

15.

=O me too.

What a small world this is.

just pointing out.

Why So Steve? wrote:
I just happen to be interested in 15 year old girls! Coincidence or fate?

whoa… i think it must be fate. wait, i think i may have to know your age so i don’t turn you in for being a pedifile…

Why So Steve? wrote:
I just happen to be interested in 15 year old girls! Coincidence or fate?

WTF!?!?!?!?!?!

Why So Steve? wrote:
Well I think you may be surprised how many countries around the world put the age of consent between 13 and 16 years old, including Great Britain. It’s all relative.

haha. i think you gave people the wrong idea. btw, you didn’t say how old you are…

*hit in face by flying hand*
ops, rong place at the, you get the picture.

Why So Steve? wrote:
Are you actually looking for a date Miss Alyse? I’m older than 15 if that helps.

…wow… no? just curious.
but i guess im not “mature enough” to take a joke.

mhmm…

yes i do beleve this is help.com not a date servise

STEEL wrote:
yes i do beleve this is help.com not a date servise

we are only kidding. (:

T.T
U

Just a jest, just a jest, ok.

gosh, you guys have soooo many shouts. =P

hi steel

Commander Ikari wrote:

miss_alyse wrote:
gosh, you guys have soooo many shouts. =P

What, are you looking through them now?

no! pretty sure how many shouts you have shows up right next to your name!

haha. your silly. btw, you are the popular post! =O

miss_alyse wrote:
haha. your silly. btw, you are the popular post! =O

I knew it! I wasn’t going to say anything because when I do it usually ends up not, but I called it in my head! :D

yea. woo! i wonder how many replies we could get?

yea. i say stupid stuff all the time. =P haha.

i consider you a big enough friend to talk about our epic lulz IRL to my other friends, something i never do with internet friends
if anything, my feelings for you can be summed up as happy jealousy
“oh there goes ikari, making more lulz than me, cool”
like that
im not mad, im happy

Commander Ikari wrote:

SITNALTA wrote:
i consider you a big enough friend to talk about our epic lulz IRL to my other friends, something i never do with internet friends
if anything, my feelings for you can be summed up as happy jealousy
“oh there goes ikari, making more lulz than me, cool”
like that
im not mad, im happy

hm.

+10 confidence!
+Morale restored!

You have leveled up to level 828!

lol

LORD GEKKO wrote:
Ikari, web psychologist for hire.

deploma in (add name hear) LOL

STEEL wrote:

LORD GEKKO wrote:
Ikari, web psychologist for hire.

deploma in (add name hear) LOL

Good lord. Don’t you mean “diploma”, dearie? Eff, stay in school. *dies*

malori* wrote:

STEEL wrote:

LORD GEKKO wrote:
Ikari, web psychologist for hire.

deploma in (add name hear) LOL

Good lord. Don’t you mean “diploma”, dearie? Eff, stay in school. *dies*

Oh, give him a break. I (Kinda) manage to deal with it and I’m a grammar freak…
He doesn’t spell everything right, so what?
(Psst, if you really want to get detailed, the comma comes before the quote. “Diploma,” would be correct, but you put the comma afterward. :P)

People can conceal their real selves in person or online, but online deception is easier because you can intuit so much from a person’s body language, which isn’t possible in a written format.

In my opinion, Ikari, your online relationships are surface level. High school is a crash course in socialization, and as such it distorts one’s view of how people should interact. Lot’s of kids in school disassociate from others as a defense mechanism.

The internet allows anyone to create an artificial persona, and you have created a cool one. But the lack of authentic connection you feel (IMHO) is because you risk little. People know your sense of humor and intellect, but you don’t reveal your heart.

Others online who reveal their hearts have arguments, get hurt, make up, feel warmth, get close, grow distant, reconnect. In order to gain much, you have to risk much.

I’m not a real part of anyone’s lives online, at most I can just be someone to talk to…

Using sites like bebo, myspace, and facebook could be closer to real interactions because you can add people you see at school or around the neighborhood. And then, since there’s no point to those sites (no deep, obvious point like “help”), you’d be like, “hey, let’s get off this thing and go play ping pong at the ping pong palace.” Just an idea.

I hope this doesnt sound too creepy ikari but I for one kind of enjoy the level of comradship + anonymity that the sites like this one cater to. Its not nesisarily a bad thing, if someone needs help I can offer my experience and advice in the hope that it will help them. In turn I can benefit from the many diverse experiences and backgrounds that everyone else has to offer. And for the most part everyone is taken at face value, everyone has something useful to say. There is no “social caste system” to speak of. No “Im better than you because I’me better off” mentality. And lets face it, weather in rl or online, we all have to deal with eachother with a certain degree of trust. we trust that the background we are drawing from is more or less accurate. just as we trust that the person sitting behind us at work is not quietly plotting our demise. and in both cases only time will tell weather or not that trust was well founded.

“Sometimes a stranger is a best friend waiting to happen”_anonymous

and it’s brought even closer by the fact that even though you can’t go visit an “on line friend’s” place and see how they are doing, or bring them soup when they are not well. You can send em an e-mail. or perhaps even a hand penned letter, or in some cases a phone call just to let them know you were thinking about them and hope things are going well. so even though in some cases there are barriers that can not (and maybe even should not) be crossed. in some ways it inarguably brings the world closer together.

I did not read anything of the above post, because I’m lazy.
You are my awesome friend.
Showed me /b/
Taught me so many things about life.
Forced me to watch that creepy anime video with the girl touching all those people and then they like, instantly die and become one with the universe.
That was creepy, man.
Anyways, youisawesomenssfriend.
We shall met in near future.

bobbyhill529 wrote:
Thank god yur not a part of my life u weird dumb lonely individual that is all bad bye

Ikari, at least you help people, unlike this jerk who is apparently only on the site to mooch homework answers.

Sans, I think you said it perfectly up there…..marked it as quotable.

I think that you CAN get close to people online. Not as close as you can in person…when you can look in their eyes and read their body language, as Sans said, but you can still feel their hearts.

The danger, of course, is the risk that people are possibly not being genuine…how would you ever know? Of course, a person in real life may be a player, too, and you could be clueless in that arena, as well

one thing i hate about online… is never knowing if people actually think what you say is cool and they like you, or if they think you are the dumbest most weird person ever… =/

Why So Steve? wrote:
Are you actually looking for a date Miss Alyse? I’m older than 15 if that helps.

That doesn’t “help.”

mmmmpf

Sans wrote:
Others online who reveal their hearts have arguments, get hurt, make up, feel warmth, get close, grow distant, reconnect. In order to gain much, you have to risk much.

Yep! You can keep a safe distance from it all or take the risk of being real and experience all of the above. But I think people do that in real life too. The choice is all yours. If you want to know people more, you have to reveal yourself more.
Relationships are a two way street. And that’s the way it goes…

i consider you to be a good friend. That may not mean alot to you, but i personally look forward to talking to you.

and isn’t it great? you get to know people and have conversations with them without really having to deal with drama! go internet

Aw I think you’re probably jsut shy in real life! The reason you’re so popular on here is because you’re hilariously witty, and a lot of people appreciate that! You just have to be able to let people in your real life know how great you are

“reserved”
see? that’s what it is….you’re shy, or reserved if you’d rather, around other people, and you can’t befriend them if you don’t talk to them. And perhaps you just haven’t found the right people yet. trust me, it’s probably better to not even have friends yet cause in the next 3 years of high school, everybody’s friends change. people split off of their groups all over the place in junior and senior years. Just try to talk to people for now, worry about actually befriending them later

hey Commander Ikari
:D

You are okay. things will go smoother in college.

.:Hasta Iguana:. wrote:
Aw I think you’re probably jsut shy in real life! The reason you’re so popular on here is because you’re hilariously witty, and a lot of people appreciate that! You just have to be able to let people in your real life know how great you are

I totally agree with Hasta. Also, you are a good friend to many of us here on help.com. I am one of your biggest fans here, and this is as good a time as any to tell you how you have helped me.

I have grandchildren your age and when you offer an opinion, I pay attention. Why? Because I want to be in the know about how bright young minds think. I don’t want to be one of those old women who have lost touch with the world as it is for young people. Almost every day, I learn something from you.

So, the answer to your question is, yes. You are most definitely, part of my life.

c-eek wrote:

.:Hasta Iguana:. wrote:
Aw I think you’re probably jsut shy in real life! The reason you’re so popular on here is because you’re hilariously witty, and a lot of people appreciate that! You just have to be able to let people in your real life know how great you are

I totally agree with Hasta. Also, you are a good friend to many of us here on help.com. I am one of your biggest fans here, and this is as good a time as any to tell you how you have helped me.

I have grandchildren your age and when you offer an opinion, I pay attention. Why? Because I want to be in the know about how bright young minds think. I don’t want to be one of those old women who have lost touch with the world as it is for young people. Almost every day, I learn something from you.

So, the answer to your question is, yes. You are most definitely, part of my life.

im sorry, i know im not ikari, but that was beautiful for some reason
a single tear in my eye i kid you not

SITNALTA wrote:

c-eek wrote:

.:Hasta Iguana:. wrote:
Aw I think you’re probably jsut shy in real life! The reason you’re so popular on here is because you’re hilariously witty, and a lot of people appreciate that! You just have to be able to let people in your real life know how great you are

I totally agree with Hasta. Also, you are a good friend to many of us here on help.com. I am one of your biggest fans here, and this is as good a time as any to tell you how you have helped me.

I have grandchildren your age and when you offer an opinion, I pay attention. Why? Because I want to be in the know about how bright young minds think. I don’t want to be one of those old women who have lost touch with the world as it is for young people. Almost every day, I learn something from you.

So, the answer to your question is, yes. You are most definitely, part of my life.

im sorry, i know im not ikari, but that was beautiful for some reason
a single tear in my eye i kid you not

Oh Alpha, I never know when you are kidding, or not. Here is a tissue.

Ikari.. I have to agree with Sans, Marylou, and a few of the others above. If you want to get closer to anyone you have to allow them the opportunity to get closer to you as well. There are risks but I’ll not be the first here to tell you to risk your heart to gain more of the hearts of others. It’s a choice you have to make on your own with those you trust or hope you can. As for me and how I feel, I happen to think you are a decent person, you make sense in your comments and replies, and for the most part you seem like a no nonsense guy even at the age of 15. I wish you well and it seems you have a lot more ‘close’ friends here than you thought.

Ikari’s a girl? hmm shows you how the internet can conceal. Yet, I somehow naively consider some of the people I meet on-line as real friends. Just because there’s a computer screen mediating communication doesn’t negate the fact that you do communicate in same way as you would in real life. Maybe even better in some cases because you’re not so concerned about appearance.

Ikari, I think you may actually safely consider yourself liked and surrounded by friends despite what the critics (you seeming to be a big one yourself) say.

But in retrospect Sans does make a lot of sense…

cham wrote:
Ikari’s a girl? hmm shows you how the internet can conceal. Yet, I somehow naively consider some of the people I meet on-line as real friends. Just because there’s a computer screen mediating communication doesn’t negate the fact that you do communicate in same way as you would in real life. Maybe even better in some cases because you’re not so concerned about appearance.

Ikari, I think you may actually safely consider yourself liked and surrounded by friends despite what the critics (you seeming to be a big one yourself) say.

i dont know where you got that he was a girl

Why So Steve? wrote:
I just happen to be interested in 15 year old girls! Coincidence or fate?

oh, forgot to add I read wrong

taking a speed reading course, but it seems my comprehension isn’t following suit

cham wrote:
taking a speed reading course, but it seems my comprehension isn’t following suit

Not that I’ve taken a speed reading course or anything, but I do speed read quite a bit. XD
Look for keywords in everything, obviously, to just pick up the details, but when you find something interesting or confusing, stop and grab a few more details to get a little more info. :P

~CaitherrA~ wrote:

cham wrote:
taking a speed reading course, but it seems my comprehension isn’t following suit

Not that I’ve taken a speed reading course or anything, but I do speed read quite a bit. XD
Look for keywords in everything, obviously, to just pick up the details, but when you find something interesting or confusing, stop and grab a few more details to get a little more info. :P

thanks for the tip :)

no, I disagree! speed reading’s bomb if you know how! I’m supposed to only be able to get through 2 parts of my online class every day but I can get through 4 or 5 becuase I speed read and just pick out the important things that I need to know
it rocks!

~CaitherrA~ wrote:

malori* wrote:

STEEL wrote:

LORD GEKKO wrote:
Ikari, web psychologist for hire.

deploma in (add name hear) LOL

Good lord. Don’t you mean “diploma”, dearie? Eff, stay in school. *dies*

Oh, give him a break. I (Kinda) manage to deal with it and I’m a grammar freak…
He doesn’t spell everything right, so what?
(Psst, if you really want to get detailed, the comma comes before the quote. “Diploma,” would be correct, but you put the comma afterward. :P)

at lest someone appreciates me, thanks =)