marriage help: I have a little situation here. - Help.com

I’m sorry to say this, but he sounds like a jerk.

I would say do not engage yourself if your not sure you want it, seems logical to me

just take a walk, look out for nice guys, don’t talk to them just look at them judge them, if you see a lot that would have interested you, I think you aren’t with the right guy

have you discussed this with him?

The biggest issue in marriage is lack of communication. If his actions have changed all of a sudden maybe he is feeling insecure? If that’s the case a guy will have a hard time just walking in and starting a conversation about it, but if he is spending more time with friends all of a sudden then maybe that’s the problem. You’ll need to figure out a way to ask him why he has changed. If it’s worth it to him as well as you, and keeping your marriage together, you will figure out a way to talk with him about this.

Is it possible he’s going through something? Have you told him everything you wrote here? I’m not married but from what I’ve heard there are a lot of ups and downs. How long has this been going on?

To jasmyn Im no the best speller so bare with me. I have been with my wife for 14yrs married 12yrs, total 14yrs. My marriage started the same way, no wedding stuff after the court marriage just 2 kids then on with life as a couple. so here is alittle bit of my couple/marriage life. I thought everything was great to be a man I had a wife 1 kid on the way in our early years of marriage and loved it. Then **** hit the fan for me, bad at the time, good in the long run, as you will read. I never realised that my being a single man was over, I was a crap head, I lost my man freedom, something I had to let go of if I wanted to be a real man. If your husband is not sure what he wants or what to do it should be time to evaluate your relationship/marriage. I didden’t want to feel like i was held back from being a man but it really was that I did not want to stop feeling like a kid/young strong man. My wife did not want to stop that either but she just wanted me to grow up and be a MAN. If you talk to him and want him to be a STRONG MAN but yet the man you married and why you love him, just tell him. If not just be careful and look for safe and good options to move on or to deal with it. Just tell him marrage is a new exciting road not the end.

Jasmyn If he is waiting or dinking around he is or seems like, he is not really devoted to the relationship/marraige, he really is a ***, I don’t know him but I see it like I read it. Marriage is not a game it’s a bond between you and him and god, not you and his friends, that is a batchler move not a married man move. If he don’t want a good woman then he should have married his friends or turnned gay. I did not mean to sound rude on that last part, but he should not have gotten married if he did not want comittment. But if every thing did work out for you two disregard what i said. You should or deserve better.