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My mother is bipolar.

She is a very, very religious woman. I am REALLY not. >_>; Just recently, the chicka went off her pills and since then, things have gotten a little crazy. Last time this happened we almost went bankrupt because she wouldn’t pay her bills, and the time before that she went out onto the streets in her pajamas yelling scriptures from the bible.

H’okay, so this time… she’s worse. >/ A week or so ago, she went to the hospital with chest pain and since the doctor was a jerk and didn’t get to her fast enough, she left and came up with this crazy idea that Jesus was possessing her left side (she says it was numb and tingly). I kid you not. She said she’s been getting messages from God in her dreams. I was there with my sister and aunt and she told us we were her ladies and our family was the ‘royal family’ and that the bible was bull - pardon my French - and to not believe it because it’s man-made and people are evil.

She’s been spending money we DON’T EVEN HAVE off the wall. She is a single mother and supports me and only me, and we have so much friggin’ trouble scraping by already without her giving waitresses 20 dollar tips on a place that doesn’t even MAKE you tip.
She doesn’t pay attention to me. Sometimes, she sits there and stares at nothing at all. She always sleeps by me and will not leave me. >/

Yesterday she completely disconnected the computer because it’s by the living room window and she’s worried if I sit here at night, somebody is going to shoot me. She took me to the kitchen, sat me down and very seriously told me to worship the Indians.
She mumbles about salt and pepper. YEAH. >/ I used to be kinda able to understand what she was saying to me, but now none of it makes sense at all. Last night, she made me promise that I would wear prayer beads to bed with me.

Today, my sister said she wouldn’t go in the basement because the walls were freaking her out and that she said something about maybe sacrificing herself.

She’s taking her pills again, apparently, but I don’t see a difference.

I hate it. I feel absolutely, positively smothered in this house. I don’t know what to do.

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Time Traveller offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Would she let you be in charge of her meds?

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Time Traveller offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Talk to the doctor that is prescribing her pills about it.

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andasid offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

No. @@ But I do think she’s taking her pills like she says.

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Time Traveller offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

maybe she needs a different prescription?

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andasid offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

That sounds like a good idea. O: Thanks, Pickle Chip! Awesome user name, by the way. Makes me all hungry inside. :

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

she’s doing that for real? she’s way manic already then, she needs to be put on antipsychotics

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andasid offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

Anti-psychotics? Well, um… can anyone explain to me what manic is? Sorry, I’m a little dumb when it comes to this stuff.

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (41 minutes after post)

Manic is when you’re on a high and you may become deluded

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andasid offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

Oh, alright! Thanks for the help, man. I really appreciate it. 3

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

how old are you, are you dependent on your mom?

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (48 minutes after post)

I’m just asking whether there are people you can rely on that may have some authority over your mom

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (49 minutes after post)

Unfortunately you can’t force her to speak to her doctor, has she seen her doctor and does he know she suffers from these delusions?

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

How long is she back on her medication and what is she taking? are you still there?

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andasid offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (53 minutes after post)

Wow, cham. XD I’m seventeen years-old so yeah, I’m dependent on her. And um… I don’t think she knows she’s delusional. I’m a little worried to sit down and talk to her about it, especially when her mother was bipolar too and slit her (my mother’s) wrists while she was ‘manic’.

She’s taking lithium, and yuppers! I’m still here.

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andasid offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (54 minutes after post)

Oh, and it’s only been for like a day and a half now, but it’s not as much as the doctor prescribed her. She usually takes three and has only been taking 2. She’s trying to go off them. >P

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (54 minutes after post)

no one can speak to her for you? family or stuff?

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (56 minutes after post)

it takes 4 to 10 days for lithium to work again, but if it’s a lower dose I’d seriously recommend an added antipsychotic

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (58 minutes after post)

you’re in a difficult position being dependent on her and yes people who are manic usually don’t believe there’s anything wrong with them

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour after post)

are you in America, I can give you some numbers to call people for advice

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andasid offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

Wow. @@ Well, hopefully it kicks in soon. XD; Um, I don’t think I could ask her to take any other pills. Can you buy them at a drug store? Do they cost a lot if prescribed?

I’m not, but I have free long distance at 6:00 PM plus. A few phone numbers would be helpful. :3 Thanks for all the help, cham! You’re awesome. 3

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andasid offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

Oh, and my sister wants to gets her evaluated at the local psychiatric hospital. Apparently there’s somewhere you can call to get a loved one forceful psychiatric help.

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

in what country are you?

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageS… click on support on this website and ask all questions in the relevant categorie

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

this support site has more than 1000 peer-run support groups throughout the United States, including groups that focus on family members and friends, what country are you, they will be able to give you better advice than I can

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andasid offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

I live in Canada. :3 And alright, I’ll do that.

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)

click on the support and then go to the forums and ask them your questions

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

you have to register first, but that’s easy

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

click on Find Support and then choose what will help you, maybe try the Online Support group

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andasid offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

Yeah, the support thing is what I was going for, but it seems a little like it’s more for people who HAVE bipolar.
I think I’m going to give Children’s Help Phone a try. :3
Thanks, sham! You’ve been a big help. I’m going to go offline, but thanks so much again! 3

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

play around on that site till you get someone to help you, don’t quit, that site is for support for family as well

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 26 minutes after post)

http://dbsa.invisionzone.com/index.php there’s a support forum for people who live with bipolar people on this page

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 27 minutes after post)

http://dbsa.invisionzone.com/index.ph… if you’re logged in try this one

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 28 minutes after post)

The reason I give you this site is because a good book I have recommends it for family too so you can get help there

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 31 minutes after post)

www.bpso.org/subsrib.shtml is also mentioned and www.mhsanctuary.com/bipolar/board2.htm and www.nami.org

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c h a m offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 42 minutes after post)

http://dbsa.invisionzone.com/index.ph… found the family and friends forum

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 44 minutes after post)

if you’re logged in click on the last link I gave you to the family and friends forum and ask your questions in there for now

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 48 minutes after post)

or that online support group looks good too, good luck

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 59 minutes after post)

I didn’t see you mentioned you’re from Canada, you can ask an expert here too in Canada
http://www.obad.ca/expert

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