Relationships help: what calms you down rather quickly? - Help.com

deep breaths don’t tell him to leave, u should, say I am going for a walk to calm down and when I get back we will talk.

Benzodiazepines when used as a hypnotic sedative. It’s a heck of a downer. Physician prescribed, myself approved.

What sort of things do you argue over?

Hi OhSugar…When I’ve gotten into a big thing with a boyfriend, I just have to take a few steps back, look at the sky, and just try to remember how much I care for this person…I try to think of something really sweet that he may have done recently…and when I DO think of all the nice things he’s done or said…I walk up to him and hug him…I know, simple…but very real…And yeah we really ARE complex cretures, huh? But really cool, too….:o) Edie

Sometimes to keep the peace you have to say that you are wrong and tell the other person that they are right, even if that’s wrong if you are right and they are actually wrong. We have to do things that we don’t like to do to maintain order.

I have to step away and rationalise the situation, normally it’s something stupid that we are arguing about and then I do exactly what Edie does and remember the last sweet thing he done for me which calms me instantly and reminds me I don’t want to argue with him anymore

Can’t forget to breathe slow . . .count from one to 10 with my eyes closed . . .

Sleeping
Walking
Walking in nature
Roller on my Roller Blade
Playing soccer

but i go with the first one most of the time ^_^

hmm when it’s a one way, it isnt called argying :P it’s called talking, no need to talk if he isnt listing so i guess telling him ok you are right should do the trick and later when he calms down and he’s brain is operational you can try to give it a calmer go and really talk and listen not just talk ^_^

It all depends on what works for you. Don’t deny your anger or resentment. Repression is just a delay of inevitable saddness. Talk it out - but if you need to stop because you are going to say something stupid than stop. I think its fine for you to ask for time to clear your head, away from him.

You’re just being honest - and if is helps you get over the situation, if thats what calms you, than do that. Theres nothing wrong with it if it works for you. he’ll understand that if you explain it to him with good sense.