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My husband seems to always want to be with his friends, whether it’s golfing or playing basketball or just playing video games…
I wouldn’t mind an occasional boys night but it’s at the point where he doesn’t care what I think…I can complain about him being gone and he gets made… I can ask nicely for him to hang with me and our 2 year old around the house and he just as nicely says I think I’m gonna go play basketball. He’s laid off from work and collecting unemployment….there are many ways he can work for cash but he doesn’t like to do those things he says so he sleeps til noon and then runs off with whoever doesn’t have to work that day and then on occasion 5 minutes before I walk in the door he runs around and picks up a pathetic amount of things that needed done around the house. He doesn’t understand why this bothers me and if I yell or complain it makes it worse but if I try other suggestions nicely it doesn’t work either. He doesn’t pay any of the bills, doesn’t stay home with our son, doesn’t do laundry or clean and we have another child due in August! I’m so frustarated that I can’t even get in a fight about it anymore and he thinks I’m crazy and always doing what I want to do so why can’t he. If he considers going grocery shopping and running errands for the family something I want to do he’s wrong I have no friends in the area in which we live…he grew up here so he has many, but who is going to take care of me when I’ve had a bad day and who am I going to talk to about this. It’s at the point where it’s embarrassing to admit my husbands laziness but I don’t know what else to do. If I cry he wants to give me a hug and that doesn’t fix anything, it makes him feel like everything is okay, but it’s not. He has promised way to many times to try harder but he doesn’t and I told him the other night after he told me I was completely selfish for wanting him to stay home after we had had a great family easter together and I told him that my son and I were in a family of our own…we did the laundry, the cleaning the bill paying etc. and he was just pissed off all the time that I wanted him to understand that this is a responsibility that comes with having a family. His family doesn’t care and mine is sick of seeing me upset. I don’t want my father to talk to him because it probably wouldn’t go real well, but we can’t have the same round about argument anymore my tears are dried up hoping that he’ll change and he thinks I’m crazy for wanting this, so nothing ever gets fixed! is it just not going to work for us or what can I do?
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