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How old are you?

Tay-K wrote:
15

Yeah same here, I went through a phase where I was just depressed. Constantly. Infact I might still be in that phase, lol. Can’t tell anymore, its another growing up thing. I blame hormones, personally.

Well, from what I’ve heard my parents went through a stage around our age when they were depressed for a long time. A normal teenage thing, as I’ve heard. Just do your best to keep above it as much as possible.

well, i have been there. its true that there is alot of hormonal chnages going one, and its hard… plus you are just starting high school… or moving on to your second year… and its a tough time. hang in there. you’ll make it ;]

jeezo, hormones, just the word brings back……..

anyway, get into habits to fight these feelings, exercise/positive thinking blah

if its hormonal, it will pass
if not, you have got into a lifestyle that beats it

I am going to tell you exactly what I just told the other 15 year old with the exact same question.

First: you have to figure out WHY you feel this way. You dont feel things like depression for no reason. Dig deep and think about it.

The next step is to start making goals for yourself. Change your ways! Write down a list of things you wished you didnt do; this will make you more aware when you do them. Than think before you act and stop yourself from doing what you loathe about yourself.

This is a sign of maturity, you feel the want to improve yourself. And you shouldnt feel ashamed for wanting to change. I know that I used to feel down about the way I did things, but at the same time I felt like thats the way I was and I was stubborn to make changes. But dude, you’re 15! You’ll be changing for the next 10-15 years at least. And when thats done and you’ve got you down, things around you will change instead. Embrace it! Take control and make a change, brother(or sister).

well you might have depression… i know that is the last thing you want to hear… but i did. my freshman year in high school i was suicidal. they put me on meds and i havd to talk to alot of different people… im fine without both of those now, but thats because i have accpeted myself as am, and at 15 thats not easy to go… just focus on all the good things you have going for you.

everyone gets it, inner dialogue is a sign of intelligence
giving more time to negative thought is a bad habit,
avoid inner talk, talk out loud to other people

and train your mind not to think the same thoughts over and over, trust me

you are at this point where you are gearing up for independence,
YOU have to take action to steer your mind to the positive, that is where it wants to go

well, i hope that it never gets there for you, but thinking you would be better off dead is a warning! pay attention… talk to people! dont spend too much time by yourself

You dont have to hope, you can stop this in its tracks. You have to want to make a change. And of course it would be easier! But if you were never tested or challenged you would never get to know what you’re made of.

well, then here we are. this is a fantastic site! whenever you need to talk to someone, one of us will be here to help you out! but practice talking to people physically. get a hobby… turn to nature. it has amazing curing powers ;] take a hike, literally. go to the movies with your friends, even if there is nothing to want to see. just keep yourself busy.

it gets easier..

dont make a big deal out of it, if you havent met 5 soul mates this week, so what?
most people just talk cr*p, be relaxed, not every comment has to be amazing, but make sure you allways talk when theres opportunity
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and remember names

hey dude. you are talking to the most shy girl, at the age of 15… half of the time i would go the entire day without saying a word! you’ll get better, but you have to practice. one HUGE thing to remember, it doesn’t matter if everyone likes you. be yourself and dont worry of what others thing about you. you are awesome, and if someone doesn’t like that, then thats there fault, not yours.

at work… college. there are alwasy people around

smooth transitions, no running away to places youve never been, tried it, it sux

school, to college/uni, to work

school, to more school, to forces, to work

Its okay to spend time by yourself and figure yourself out! It gives you time to really question your motives and wants.

they try to match up the right personalities… spelled that wrong…. anyway, they try to make sure you will get along. it doesnt always work, ill be honest, but you most likely wont get one that hates you…

and yes, you should take time alone, to figure yourself out, but just not too much time. too much time can damage your confidence and make you feel worse. positive influences are very important

WHo cares if they hate you! Dont spend your time worrying about people’s opinions that dont even matter to you. Take in opinions from people that you respect and trust. Not everyone will like you, thats no reason to be miserable.

yerpal wrote:
no running away to places youve never been, tried it, it sux

why not?

Anonymous wrote:

yerpal wrote:
no running away to places youve never been, tried it, it sux

why not?

some people like the comforts of people they know being near by… personally im ecstatic to get away from my family and meet new people

Tay-K wrote:
In college, like, what if you get a roommate that just hates you?? Wouldn’t that just make the whole time there a sucky experience? And like, how do you know they aren’t going to do something like turn off your alarm or rip all your clothes while you’re sleeping?

i am again doubting the ernestness of a post,

humour bones, everyone has some humour bones, i think your pulling mine now

yerpal wrote:

Tay-K wrote:
In college, like, what if you get a roommate that just hates you?? Wouldn’t that just make the whole time there a sucky experience? And like, how do you know they aren’t going to do something like turn off your alarm or rip all your clothes while you’re sleeping?

i am again doubting the ernestness of a post,

humour bones, everyone has some humour bones, i think your pulling mine now

what?

dragonmaniac3 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

yerpal wrote:
no running away to places youve never been, tried it, it sux

why not?

some people like the comforts of people they know being near by… personally im ecstatic to get away from my family and meet new people

me too! im just curious as to why Yerpal thinks that running away to places youve never been is a bad idea? i pretty much always agree with his opinion and im curious to know why its a bad idea

i know this is going to sound totally lame to you, but have to tried talking to your school guidance councilor? they are really good at listening. :]

Lots of advice has been given. Have you put any thought into any of it? Have you contemplated taking action? If not, than you are going to get trapped in sadness, and misery can get pretty cozy unless you make the effort to stop it.

You’re 15! Calm down. You could be good at many a things and not even be aware of it.

practice! practice! practice! you have to work at it to make it better!

Man I wish I had a free guidance counciller! I wish I would have been more self aware in high school and taken advantage of that s***! Mmmm… oh i miss the days when learning was free.

Tay-K wrote:

dragonmaniac3 wrote:
i know this is going to sound totally lame to you, but have to tried talking to your school guidance councilor? they are really good at listening. :]

I have to talk to the school guidance counselor and school psychologist every week.

oh… so they know… thats good. at least its not eating you from the inside…

You have to make an effort!

i know your pain, bud. believe me. i know its tough. just be strong. try to accept their help. i know its hard… and you just want them to leave you alone, but they need to be there for you. try to embrace the fact that they love you enough to try and help you through this.

thelma.dai wrote:

dragonmaniac3 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

yerpal wrote:
no running away to places youve never been, tried it, it sux

why not?

some people like the comforts of people they know being near by… personally im ecstatic to get away from my family and meet new people

me too! im just curious as to why Yerpal thinks that running away to places youve never been is a bad idea? i pretty much always agree with his opinion and im curious to know why its a bad idea

Well, if your a true brainwashed romantic like me, your gonna hit the road anyway,
but if there is any sense in your coconut, tap tap, youll see that escape is relative

Ohh im most definalty going to hit the road! Actually I just booked a trip today! But thats somethign to think about…

i kind of feel the same way. i just don’t know either. wish we were friends.

its probably adolescent depression, it a sign of maturing, lots of teens have it

sqen wrote:
I got an app with my GP for tue. I have decided I need some drugs… antidepressants, prosac or sth

Oh what a fantastic solution. Numb the problem with pills that turn you into a robot! YES.