Relationships help: I’m beginning to think I’m heartless. - Help.com

i was the same, i just randomly got over it though.

I think we all have two sides to us. We all have a dark distructive side and I don’t think it hurts us to explore this from time to time as long as we recognise it and acknowledge it and move on.

I went through a similar phase a few years ago. I found it really cathartic and after some time and pain, moved on from being the oversensitive and neurotic person I had been. I found a balance after a period of not caring.

Perhaps you have screwed up your relationship with your parents and your brother because you avctually need to express some stuff? perhaps you know this deep down and that is why you say you ‘don’t care?’

The thing is, people are not static, relationships change all the time. You will repair some, some will repair themselves. Give yourself a bit of a break. You are human after all.

I did some terrible things I wholeheartedly regretted later, but on some level I have grown from them.

good luck xx

Don’t worry about shoulds and shouldn’ts. It’s a waste of time to beat yourself up for doing things or not doing things. You don’t HAVE to do anything in life. It’s all choice.

The key is to figure out what’s causing your behaviour. You’re not making yourself happy. Are you chasing any kind of goal that excites you?

I suspect that you have relationships you don’t care about because your parents and family life are screwed up. If you don’t have good role models and good experiences with affection, respect, etc. then you have trouble relating to other people in a constructive way.

Sounds to me like you know who you are and what you want. Don’t think there is anything wrong with you actually. I suspect there are in fact things you do care about, but I agree with linuxya, dont worry about the shoulds and shouldnts.

I dont think so. But you know you better than anyone, do YOU think you’re a bad person?

You are NOT a bad person.

There is absolutely NO POINT in beating yourself up. The key is to find something that sparks you and to chase after it.

You can’t make people love you by throwing your love and support at them. It will not work. If they don’t love you, then forget about them. You deserve better. You deserve love and respect and affection.

Find new people. Don’t give up. You will find someone who can return your love and make you feel again. You’re just burned out right now. It happens to everyone.

I hear that. You’re bitter - it happens to everyone, its happened to me. You just get kicked until you’re down and they just keep kicking. Well f*** them, right?

I think in the end what you must accept is that no matter how much you TRY to help people, its up to them to take it. If you give them advice or go out of your way to help them you have to understand that they don’t have to act on any of it, they don’t really even have to listen to you. You can only do so much until it starts to feel like work. It doesn’t mean that you should stop helping people out, but wait until they ask you for it. Or just accept that you can’t control what they do and let bygones be bygones (and so on and so on).

u could just be bitter at the world and have shut off from everyone, that happens a lot its part of growing up..eventually ull go back to normal….enough **** happens to u u start to go numb from it all

Are you struggling for a way to keep from becoming cynical?

you shouldnt let people take over u
just because u slept with someone u shouldnt
everyone makes mistakes but its if u let it get u down is the key
ur parents and brother love u so all u need to do is talk to them there probally worried about u
stay strong and dont ever let anyone walk over u
if u dont respect urself how r others goin to respect