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Akira999 changed the tags on this post: they were "" 7 months, 3 weeks ago.
You asked for no sympathy, so I won’t give you any. All I can say is that you’ve made a good attempt at finding contact with people by signing up with this site. I’ve found that if you take “a chance” on other people here, at one point or another they’ll take a chance on you. It won’t be the revelatory, OMG-this-is-what-I-needed-to-hear answer I bet you’re aching for, but it’s something…just something. It’s better than nothing, right?
I dont know whats wrong with me exactly asides the obvious.
sounds like youve been through alot…i feel your pain..
I wish I could find someone who would be willing to love. But how do I find a relationship when society treats me like a leoper.
Akira999 wrote:
I wish I could find someone who would be willing to love. But how do I find a relationship when society treats me like a leoper.
Thats a silly stupid answer. I have seen that before. It’s not a matter of time when no one talks to you. In case you haven’t noticed I’m not a fifteen year old kid with crushes.
yeah. time is supposed to heal all wounds. and you will find someone. there’s someone for everyone out there. i’m not giving you sympathy, because you didn’t ask for any, i’m giving you empathy. I’ve been where you are for the last, oh, year of my life. i know that it hurts, like someone keeps sticking a sword or a knife into your body over and over, every minute, right? believe me, i can empathize. talk to me.
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I meant to box fla comment. Sorry.
well its funny how the world is twisted. When you want something bad you wont get it. But when you don’t want it then its given to you.
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lecter_girl wrote:
yeah. time is supposed to heal all wounds. and you will find someone. there’s someone for everyone out there. i’m not giving you sympathy, because you didn’t ask for any, i’m giving you empathy. I’ve been where you are for the last, oh, year of my life. i know that it hurts, like someone keeps sticking a sword or a knife into your body over and over, every minute, right? believe me, i can empathize. talk to me.
You really dont understand. This isn’t a temporary problem. This is my whole life. You’re entire answer is incidental.
One. Time does not heal all wounds there are lots of people like war victims who would disagree with that.
Two. Waiting for love to just “happen” doesn’t work, thats stupid. You have to go out and try to find it.
I said supposed. i didn’t say i believe it! and i did’t say anything about the second thing.
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It’s implied same as the earlier person.
no, it isn’t. i was talking about the pain that you feel. the sadness. not the sadness of love lost, but the crushing sadness of feeling that you shouldn’t be here anymore. god, if everyone is like this, i’m out of here. later.
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lecter_girl wrote:
no, it isn’t. i was talking about the pain that you feel. the sadness. not the sadness of love lost, but the crushing sadness of feeling that you shouldn’t be here anymore. god, if everyone is like this, i’m out of here. later.
Thank you If you cant help dont bother.
I think u give really good advice on help.com.
You seem to be really focused on things you think are bad about yourself.
I just wanted to let u know don’t forget you have good stuff too.
ameliaearthlin wrote:
I think u give really good advice on help.com.
You seem to be really focused on things you think are bad about yourself.
I just wanted to let u know don’t forget you have good stuff too.
There isn’t much good about me. My main problem that so far no matter who I ask is How do I become a good person and how can I start a relationship? With the relationship part I know I’m not good looking. And because of my life a little screwed in the head. But women just see a freak in me no matter what I do. I guess all people see that.
Wow you are predicting sshit 4 yourself before it has had a chance to happen.
The power of though is huge.
Read a book called… The Secret……..it could change your life.
Your only 18 and yet u have experienced so much. I think you are strong. You just need a chance to let good stuff into your life.
The fact that you feel sorry shows that you arent a bad person though. The reasons you did those things is out of reaction to things that happened in your life. I wont look down on you or pity you or laugh at you or insult you or hate you but i will give sympathy because i do care even without knowing you and without you wanting it, or so you say. The very fact you posted here is because you do want people to care, and guess what, even if you dont want it they still care. I havent had all those things happen to me but I do understand a lot of it. I too have no friends and never really had much to start and feel as if I have failed at everything. I wont refuse you a chance to be good or refuse anything from you. Yeah some people dont seem to give a chance but you deserve it more than you think, they just dont understand you all the time thats why. Let them knkow the good you rather than hiding it and pretending your all bad when your not.
I am a bad person. If I was good I wouldn’t keep doing bad things. Does anyone have an answer as to why I cant find love?
you are still making negative statements…. say instead, I have done things I regret but I now do good things.
Love will happen when u change the vibe u give out by giving up all the negative thoughts and stuff.
A misrable person doesn’t attact others.
The book the secret I mentioned talks of the power of attraction as in like attracts like. negative to negative, positive to positive.
In other words, play some up beat music, pamper yourself and watch a comedy.
When u can smile again u will attract the same vibe back
ameliaearthlin wrote:
you are still making negative statements…. say instead, I have done things I regret but I now do good things.
Love will happen when u change the vibe u give out by giving up all the negative thoughts and stuff.
A misrable person doesn’t attact others.
The book the secret I mentioned talks of the power of attraction as in like attracts like. negative to negative, positive to positive.
In other words, play some up beat music, pamper yourself and watch a comedy.
When u can smile again u will attract the same vibe back
I doubt it. Even when I’ve acted happy people didn’t seem to like me.
Maybe because your still being negative =/
Dont worry about them okay.
If you feel so bad for doing bad things and cant seem to stop, maybe you need to go to a therapist and find out why you cant stop.
I used to see a phyciatrist. It didn’t help. I cant anymore anyway.
Well what did they say about you doing things that are bad even though you want to stop? Do you have it like a compulsion? If so then you might have some sort of specific thing that can be solved or cured.
I didn’t really get to ask them much. The only thing I have is NLD and OCD.
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hey i do understand what you’re going through. i’ve been there. everything seems to fall apart from the very start and everything around us just falls apart. the worst thing about it is that you dont know what makes us like that.. it just feels so weird and so hopeless… so unreal but so real. then you try to do everything you could to make life more meaningful. still not. that was why i was contemplating suicide too…. but not anymore. i figured that there is a god-shaped hole in every man’s heart that only a person god-sized can fill and i found that in jesus… i;m not preaching, but just offering my experience and perspective to you. have you ever thought to seek help from god? though you might think he doesnt care, he does really care… and listen. and he loves you more than you know…
hope for the best for you and know that you have a friend that’s praying for yo
There is no flying spaghetti monster. Thank you for posting anyway.
I guess there really is no help for me.
we want to help but u gotta want it hun. U have to want to change things… it is hard work … but worth it
I don’t need any help in any ways that you suggest. I have problems. True, I deal with them.
Akira999 wrote:
I am a bad person. If I was good I wouldn’t keep doing bad things. Does anyone have an answer as to why I cant find love?
Those are the questions I need answered.
ameliaearthlin wrote:
we want to help but u gotta want it hun. U have to want to change things… it is hard work … but worth it
I dont care about changing anything your talking about. Does anyone read.
You have mental problems it seems, your not good or bad for doing bad things because the cause or why you do it was not made by you. I think it could be related to your OCD or maybe you have something else and were misdiagnosed.
You cant find love because you think so low of yourself so much. Thats pretty simple to understand. I found love when i wasnt even looking for it. Love shows up in unexpected places but you have to take care of yourself first so you can live to see it.
So you enjoy being miserable and alone? You have to change or else its always going to stay that way. Things dont change if you keep doing the same things all the time.
Why cant you go to a psychologist anymore? or a therapist? Out of money? What is it? I think you really need to go.
Yes, I cant afford a therapist. They didn’t help much anyway.
Were you cooperative and open minded and patient? It takes time. What about a doctor? Do they have meds to help with the OCD?
I dont need meds. NO I wasn’t open minded….of course I was what type of question is that. If I wasn’t that would imply that I didn’t want to be there. Why would I pay someone that I didn’t want to see. He just didn’t care, he wasn’t helpful.
Maybe someone made you go i could have thought, i dont know. Not like your totally incurable. Try someone else then if they sucked at their job. One fail doesnt mean an all fail.
I cant afford to see anyone else.
OH sorry about that =/
online therapist maybe? They do exist, might be cheaper, not sure.
No help at all. No questions answered.
Why not use one of those links above and ask someone who knows about peoples minds so they can answer for you?
I’m trying to stop being a bad person. And trying to find love in life.
Well if your doing bad things when you dont want to its from a mental condition or sorts. You should be able to stop, if you cant do it yourself you need help. Just be constantly aware of your actions and maybe it will help you stop doing those things.
Dont worry about finding love for now, it often finds you first. Take care of your problems with how you feel about yourself and everything else will fall into place
I WONT FALL IN LOVE EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously do you people listen. I dont have friends or relationships. People find me disgusting. Just sitting back expecting it to happen wont work. I obviously have to change something you morons.
Ive been listening the entire time -_- your being very difficult and im still trying to help you but you completely ignore what everyone says it seems at times.
So change!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Stop being a wuss and change then. Your just constantly making excuses it seems. Find a way around it, throw out your old bad negative thinking and just do it.
No you keep trying to suggest solutions to other problems. What type of answer is just change????????????? What do I change?? If I knew I wouldn’t be here. I don’t know what to change. Is it me physically, mentally, both what?
Change your attitude for one thing. Its obviously so negative it influences your thinking. Try and do things you havent done before so you can get yourself out of the same conditions that are holding you back from changing. You do not have to change if you dont know what to change, no reason to change something if you like it. I am kind of doing the same thing right now, i want to change but im not sure exactly what but i at least have a rough idea of some things I can do and I bet you can come up with some. You want to be loved, but if you make yourself into something you are not and dont want to be then anyone who likes you wont really ove you and im sure you would rather not have that than to be loved in a lie. You really arent that bad, your just troubled like everyone else and all your bad stuff in life has come too close together, but that makes for a clearer road ahead though.
Sorry if i sounded a bit mean before
how u doing? thinking bout u.
xo
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