My wife told me she wants a divorce last week. - Help.com

You don’t have to sign the divorce papers… a week is incredibly fast to divorce. Did she win the lottery last week and is waiting to cash in the ticket? I would talk to an attorney before I signed a **** thing.

You turn to a lawyer first; then, if needed, you turn to a spiritual or psychological counselor. You can also turn to friends–particularly those who have been through it. I ALMOST got divorced a few years back, and it amazed me how many people came forward with offers of support. I hope the same will happen for you.

Remember, whatever happens is bound to be better than staying with someone who does not want to be with you. So try to endure one day at a time, and try to make good decisions that will enable to move your life forward when you are ready. Be dignified, and remember that this pain, too, will be a memory some day. Good luck.

Is this about you not wanting the divorce ? if so have to told her that ? have you communicated ?

I agree with Dr. Ralph, she has had this in the works it seems, or something. do not sign anything until you seek legal advice. There are many sensitive things involved in divorce docs, CYA!!!

talk to your wife

Depending on your situation, it may be possible for you to salvage your future, but there are a few traps which you ought to avoid.
First is, don’t drink alcohol. Can you go without it?
If you don’t drink you’re in a better position, but the thing which will help you most in coping is being able to relate to groups of people who’ve been through the same experience.
One thing I have to say is this - In england, if you go to the NHS for support, they can put you in touch with local groups of divorcees who will help you through your pain.
Another group you could look at is CODA - which helps people with co-dependancy issues like divorce and berievement.
The important thing to remember is that you’re not alone, there are lots of people out there who want to help you, so do pick up the phone asap.

this might help you out.

www.greatdivorceadvice.com/guide.html