Relationships help: I think im having a breakdown… - Help.com

Im really sorry about your friend. Yeah your right your dad should try more, but try not to stress out about it okay. I almost teared up that your under so much trouble. I really hope you will feel better soon.

Okay for now just think of your dads girlfriend like air, your house isnt filled with the same air it used to be filled with and your fine with that, just trick your mind out a little. Shes like air and isnt really invading your space.

oh hun, I’m so sorry about your friend. Flashbacks are awful, combat them with happy memories of your friend… he would have prefered u remembered him like this.
Your dad is caught between 2 of the most important women in his life. His guilt is probably making him be snappy. She will never replace u in his heart.
Spend some time away from him for a bit and go stay at a friends place.
I hope things get better for u soon.
a

Thanks guys..

i so upset right now i dont know who to talk too… All my friends live far away. Those who were there probably feel the same as me if not worse as it happened in one of my best friends bedroom, so im not sure if i would make it worse right now. My other good friends have small children and have enough on there plates, without listhening to me cry on the phone…

What doesnt help either is i have a very strong personality. Even though im just a big girl (29), people look at me as tough and i dont think people who know how to cope with me like this… That’s why i came here..

its cool, good u came, we all need to talk every now and then, and u have more than a good reason to. I’m 29 too….
How long since your friend passed over?

sorry I just re read post… last week, I bet your still in shock about it

Thank you!

It happened at 11pm on sunday

That’s what i mean about the video loop. It was me who called the amblance… We did cpr until the paramedics arrived and at one point he came back to us and then we lost him again. The paramedics gave him 7 adrenilin injections but….

I cant believe its real…

Is there something u and ur mates that were there could do as a dedication to him, or something u guys could do for his family? Collect all memories and photos and put together something so he will always be remembered in a good way?
I really dont believe our love ones leave us when they pass over, there is just too much energy in the human body. I like to think they watch us sometimes and probably right now he is wishing u all would do something a little more entertaining for him to watch.

Well im not sure if your friends would like you resisting their help. Not like you have to come at them full force all the time or anything, you can talk just a little bit im sure and they will be glad to listen to how you feel.

Yeah, i bet its hard to get out of your head what happened. Like ameliaarthlin said just think about good memories instead.

You are in some pretty big shock so of course its hard to belive its real, i think thats how it always feels for anyone so its normal of you to feel that way.

How I often deal with a passing of someone is I start acting like everything is normal like always, i know they are gone but it can at tiems feel just the same as any other moment in time when they were off somewhere else while i was doing something. Im not sure if that can be helpful to you to know but maybe it would work to not think of him as being all the way gone, he still lives inside you with those good memories and everything.

!!>)

Yeah, he, like myself and alot of my other friends are involved i music, so we are going to put on a night for him and get everyone to play. One friend is planning to access his laptop to get music of it so we can release it and i am going to plant a stawberry bush in my back garden for his memory..

Thank you

That sounds nice, i always think its better to be more festive and celebrate a life than to always be sad over a loss…….. like amelia said with words i would use “its more entertaining for him to watch” ….. in this case i suppose more entertaining to listen also =P

just curious.. why a strawberry bush?

that is such a cool idea!
He would love it.
I do hope you are able to be happy once again. The flashbacks fade, but you and his loved ones keep his memory strong.
Your mates will be feeling exactally the same or even worse. Be there for each other.
A xo

Well im off to bed so goodnight and i hope you feel better soon =)

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Well im off to bed so goodnight and i hope you feel better soon =)

nite sun cya 2moro

night and thank you!

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