How to stop being an idiot with the guy I like.

Not Me

How to stop being an idiot with the guy I like.

I originally wrote this wondering what was going wrong… but I realized that I was rebuffing all his flirting and sort-of refusing to make a move. (I didn’t even realize it.)

Like:

He was having a staring contest with me and one of my friends was trying to grab my attention too. (One that if me and this guy started dating- we’d have to be very careful not to let her be the third wheel.) So I switched my attention.

And when he was singing a song that he usually sings to make me laugh (but has sung one too many times)… I just kind of smiled and then returned to the conversation.

And I was disappointed he never said Hello… but then I didn’t either.

I want him to ask me to go home with him (We’re both heading down from college to go home)… and I secretly know he wants me to ask to go home with him… but I can’t seem to ask.

Any suggestions on how to stop being an idiot? I didn’t even realize this stuff until I was flipping out about him ignoring me.

He left from lunch with a different girl… and I’m am repressing the urge to be slightly jealous… but I think it might just be that he was avoiding walking back with me. (since the rest of the group was going to be walking with me).

This has happened a couple times… every time we move significantly forward I send him crazy mixed messages and then I kick myself for it. This isn’t fair to him- and it isn’t what I want.

Last night we were SO close- and tonight we (Him, Me, and a dozen other people) are going to a movie and such.

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wilsonianobjective 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 10 hours after post)

“Hey when are you heading home? I’m leaving the same day. Why don’t we split the bill, stop global warming, and carpool?”

Just say it.

Not Me 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 21 hours after post)

ha ha, Already have a carpool ride home.. with someone who lives closer to my home. the whole “stop global warming” excuse is kind of void.

wilsonianobjective 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days after post)

But you’re tired of riding with that person because “insert excuse here.”

Not Me 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 1 hour after post)

LoL

bemget 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 3 hours after post)

hi girl, i know what you are feeling becouse i’ve been there.you should try to put that person out of your mind,and please don’t try to presuppose what he is going to do.Don’t even try to find reason for the things he do,just leave that person and live your life by being your self.

Not Me 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 4 hours after post)

I do.. I’m not that insecure… I just… I don’t like being an idiot. Especially when I know it would be good.

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