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I’m such a loser.

I keep making a fool of myself. It’s this one guy who makes me see what I am. He flirted for months and I developed a crush on him and now he’s helping me make a clown of myself by telling me he’ll talk to me on a website, but when I go to add him he declines. Over a couple of months I’ve stupidly tried three times, because the first time he was annoyed at me. I figured when we made up he’d accept my request. He didn’t. This time around he was talking about it today and had said I should add him again. When I did that tonight, he declined again. I can’t believe I’ve made such a fool of myself. If it were someone else, I’d laugh at them for being so pathetic, because that is exactly what I am. My confidence has been on such a high lately and he has knocked me right back down. I wish I didn’t feel so much for him. I’ve to see him tomorrow at work and I’m embarassed to look at him after tonight. I feel so low.

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Anonymous #
7 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Ignore the prat…. If you have to see him tomorrow just smile and walk straight past him… He won’t know what the heck is going on and you maintain your dignity.

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Anonymous #
7 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

Your words all mean a lot to me just now, and I needed to hear them. Thank you.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

Silence speaks volumes, don’t waste your breath on him.

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Anonymous #
7 months, 2 weeks ago (21 hours, 1 minute after post)

He came over to ask if I was on the night before on the site he declined me from as a friend. I said “I’m fed up with you, from now only only talk to me if it is to do with work,” to which he asked if I’d tried to add him. He was trying to pretend he didn’t know I had sent him a request and that he hadn’t declined it. I know for a fact he did, so I just told him to get lost. He tried to say maybe someone else had declined my request from his page and I asked him what planet he was on. Later he told me to ‘crack a smile’ in an ingratiating way and I told him seriously, “Don’t talk to me.” He knew I was serious and for once didn’t come near me. I don’t feel so low about it today - for he’ll miss talking to me before I muss talking to him.

Thank you all for the advice.

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