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I don’t think I’m good enough for everyone.

Lately my friends haven’t been inviting me anywhere.When i question them about this they have that pity look and then invite me. I don’t want to be invite d anywhere just because i asked them to!And my parents are always complaining about how I never help out and are always comparing me to other people. They want me to become a doctor when i’m older but i don’t.If i told them that i wanted to be something else then they would start shouting and ground me. Recently i was actually invited to a party, but then my parents were fighting whether to let me go. My mum told my dad to take me there, but he started yelling her and told me that i was a **** if i went.Fights happen because of me and i don’t like it.And people look down at me at school also, because i’m an Asian.

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unsoshable offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 4 weeks ago (1 minute after post)

who cares if you are good enough for others or not. Be good enough for yourself.

I wont lie, I didnt read your whole post as I think you summed it up in the first two sentances.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 4 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Agree with unsoshable. A main concern is how you see yourself.

But for specific answer to your problem(s)I have a few suggestions.

I’m guessing taht you are in high school (fresh/soph) or late middle school. But the thing is it is true that kids can be very very cruel to each other and leave people out. I have been and I have done it to others too. Regretably. But to be likeable is to also like other people. Despite the crap they give you. Even your parents. Its hard but its a strategy called “killing them with kindness”
If all you do is return kindness and they treat you bad, they are the ones that are at fault and don’t deserve you. On the other hand, if you are in a good mood, always smiling, and positive, others will treat you the same and better. Good luck to ya!

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7 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

Once you are old enough, you WILL be able to make your own decisions about what you want to do with your life. Right now though don’t discount your parents estimation of you, they may see something in you that you don’t see yourself.

About what others think about you because you are asian, what does it matter? I am sure that when a german or a chinese person goes to a foreign country they are met with the same discrimination. We all have to pay our dues and rise above the petty remarks of others who wish to control us by making us feel inferior.

If you were in school in Asia right now, the people there would be teasing you over something: where you live, how you dress, what you eat, it’s endless. So take the heat, that’s what builds character and molds you into who you are meant to be.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (6 months, 2 weeks after post)

Heh don’t worry but, its you me and a tonne of people out there. Basically i’m half Filipino aswell, And yet my so called “friend’s” sometimes criticise me upon this, don’t get physically violent against those who look upon you like this, only ignore them and laugh at their insignificance, just like i do

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (6 months, 2 weeks after post)

You should be concerned about the things that you can change and accept the things about you that can not be changed. Be proud of your Asian heritage and others around will rise up to your standards.

Parents often take their arguments out on their children, unfortunately. The children are bandied back and forth, stay or go, right or wrong, always conflict. Just hang in there, these circumstances believe it or not will help you become the person you were meant to be. Your parents may however grow further apart or come to a crises were they work things out for the better.

There are always tests in life as to your true nature. This is what builds your true character and strength. Good luck to you.

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