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oh im so subsribing to this thread just to read lol

but what i wonder is, what types of girls like what types of guys…. tell what you are too girls, im currious to see if theirs a patern.

this is what i said in an earlier thread:

Physically: not overly styled hair, I dont like a guy who cares about how he looks more than I do, tall, light eyes, athletic build, preferably slightly hairy lol
mentally/emotionally: FUNNY (seriously, anyone who can make me laugh is pretty much sorted), confident- verging on cocky, interested in life. Seeing anyone with a real passion for something is absolutely gorgeous, the way a guys face can light up when hes talking about something hes passionate about.. wow. Able to admit when they are wrong, honest. Fairly intelligent.

sum wrote:
oh im so subsribing to this thread just to read lol

but what i wonder is, what types of girls like what types of guys…. tell what you are too girls, im currious to see if theirs a patern.

will you have enough info to decide what type of girls the repliers are? Maybe you should include a survey lol

well hey i just want to know if i can find the types thats the same as the girl i love T_T I want to be her type

Ah fair enough, what type is she then?

Confidence, only cocky if it’s jokingly.
Very smart.
Has goals (ex. marrying a doctor would be cool, haha).
Sophisticated, clean cut style.
Not a drink/smoker/ho.
Does cute things like stay up late to talk or just hang out to be together.
Remembers birthdays, aniversarys, etc.
Is nice to his mom.
Religious. Preferably my relgion, lol, but any faith will do, really.
Energetic.
Spontaneous.
Taller then me; I’m 5′8″. Yay tallness! Hahaaa.
Knows when to be serious, funny.
Easy to talk to.
Takes me out to nice places, but knows it’s not all about how expensive it is.
Muscles. I want to be able to workout with him :] competition is fun!
Likes sports. I love to talk about sports. Football and basketball are faves.
Athletic.
Resilient.
Well spoken.
Has character, integrity.

Omg, I fogot; big, bear hugs. I love those :]

*forgot.

Sorryyy :]

PheeGee wrote:
Ah fair enough, what type is she then?

I have trouble figuring that out since i havent met her lol … T_T its sad really. Very exercise obsessive, dances, in high school, English decent and has an accent, likes photogrophy and art, sarcastic at times i think, troubled maybe.

classicbeaut wrote:
Omg, I fogot; big, bear hugs. I love those :]

Ha ha you have a really nice composition right there. I’m glad that you have yourself understood; that you can make such defining characteristics. Congratulations!

PheeGee wrote:
this is what i said in an earlier thread:

Physically: not overly styled hair, I dont like a guy who cares about how he looks more than I do, tall, light eyes, athletic build, preferably slightly hairy lol
mentally/emotionally: FUNNY (seriously, anyone who can make me laugh is pretty much sorted), confident- verging on cocky, interested in life. Seeing anyone with a real passion for something is absolutely gorgeous, the way a guys face can light up when hes talking about something hes passionate about.. wow. Able to admit when they are wrong, honest. Fairly intelligent.

PheeGee, you just described my husband. Do you know him? That is exactly what I wanted to write. :-)

beatricegalant wrote:

PheeGee wrote:
this is what i said in an earlier thread:

Physically: not overly styled hair, I dont like a guy who cares about how he looks more than I do, tall, light eyes, athletic build, preferably slightly hairy lol
mentally/emotionally: FUNNY (seriously, anyone who can make me laugh is pretty much sorted), confident- verging on cocky, interested in life. Seeing anyone with a real passion for something is absolutely gorgeous, the way a guys face can light up when hes talking about something hes passionate about.. wow. Able to admit when they are wrong, honest. Fairly intelligent.

PheeGee, you just described my husband. Do you know him? That is exactly what I wanted to write. :-)

Am I the only one who sees this as the perfect concoction for jealousy?!

beatricegalant wrote:

PheeGee wrote:
this is what i said in an earlier thread:

Physically: not overly styled hair, I dont like a guy who cares about how he looks more than I do, tall, light eyes, athletic build, preferably slightly hairy lol
mentally/emotionally: FUNNY (seriously, anyone who can make me laugh is pretty much sorted), confident- verging on cocky, interested in life. Seeing anyone with a real passion for something is absolutely gorgeous, the way a guys face can light up when hes talking about something hes passionate about.. wow. Able to admit when they are wrong, honest. Fairly intelligent.

PheeGee, you just described my husband. Do you know him? That is exactly what I wanted to write. :-)

Well, well done on getting one of the good ones then! Haha I’ll find my own one day.

:-)

Quantum_Spirit wrote:

beatricegalant wrote:

PheeGee wrote:
this is what i said in an earlier thread:

Physically: not overly styled hair, I dont like a guy who cares about how he looks more than I do, tall, light eyes, athletic build, preferably slightly hairy lol
mentally/emotionally: FUNNY (seriously, anyone who can make me laugh is pretty much sorted), confident- verging on cocky, interested in life. Seeing anyone with a real passion for something is absolutely gorgeous, the way a guys face can light up when hes talking about something hes passionate about.. wow. Able to admit when they are wrong, honest. Fairly intelligent.

PheeGee, you just described my husband. Do you know him? That is exactly what I wanted to write. :-)

Am I the only one who sees this as the perfect concoction for jealousy?!

It takes a lot to get me jealous lol

Anonymous wrote:

classicbeaut wrote:
Omg, I fogot; big, bear hugs. I love those :]

Ha ha you have a really nice composition right there. I’m glad that you have yourself understood; that you can make such defining characteristics. Congratulations!

lol, thanks :] I’ve been working on it. It takes a while.

I just thought of some more too!

Is okay with crying.
Loves dogs.
Likes fishing, ATVs, and stuff like that. I think that’s fun, lol.
Has heroes.
Adores me.
Likes my family.
Generally a sweet guy.

It’s surprising how well this describes me. Though the critical parts I’m sure, I’m missing. And that is sports. I like working out, in fact I worked at fitness depot for a year and a half. Too bad, but hey you’ve inspired hope that there are women who appreciate the qualities you have stated. This means I don’t need to conform. Thank you!

No prob, bud :]

Hun, you dont need to conform anyway. There is ALWAYS someone out there that will love you.

And actually, the “critical part” is not being a drinker/smoker/ho. My preference, of course, but I think everyone should stop the immmaturity and just take care of themselves.

**** i fit most of the characteristics listed so far and still… ugh… =/

Three “m”s… haha. I’m tired! lol.

physical: dark hair, bright blue eyes, taller than me, at least a little muscular, cute smile, and dresses nicely.
personality: funny, confident, nice, wants to be around me even when there friends are around, and romantic.
(:

He must like music. Preferably my kind of music. Bonus points if he plays an instrument and extra bonus points if it’s guitar…guys alway look better holding a guitar :3 Obviously this is because I like music, and maybe because I was brought up with music. Both my parents play guitar :P
Compassion and sensitivity are important to me. I honestly can’t stand macho guys who are too tough to show any emotion, they seem fake or distant to me. I want him to care and also be able to express that he cares, not just to me but to everyone. And I know this is a heavily disputed point but I want him to feel comfortable crying if he needs to. Doesn’t seem unmanly to me, just human. And I would like him to be human. This is probably because I am kind of an “emo” kid I guess. So he’s gotta be able to understand what I’m going through…I need to know he can feel like I do.
I want a snuggler. I like affection and I like giving affection, any time, any place :P
He’s got to be talkative because I am the opposite. I love to listen to other people’s stories and if they’ll just talk to me, even though I don’t say much at first, I open up as I get more comfortable. So he has to be outgoing and willing to make the first move.
He must be comfortable making a fool of himself in public, able to laugh off mistakes, and just enjoy being a goofball for the heck of it. You get into a lot of crazy adventures with a guy like that. ^^ And like I said above, I’m pretty quiet at first, but when I’m around energetic outgoing people, people I trust, I get really crazy and silly and just have a blast. So if he’s kind of a nerd like I am we can have a super awesome blast :P

That’s the general idea…and I do believe I’ve found him :3

Okay so this post is related to another post in the homepage.

I like guys who are tall. I’m only 5′1 so he should not be too tall. lol I am more attracted to someone with straight here. I don’t like a man who cares too much of how he looks. But i also don’t like a man who does not like to shower. Geeezzz haaha!

He should be intelligent. Someone who likes sports. *giggles

A good listener. Someone with whom i WON’T feel like i am dumb and he is clever.

I am easily swept away with humor.

I find it cute when he remembers details about me.

lastly, i would like a guy who is not too sociable. Someone who is happy with a close friends around. I know a guy who is nice but too friendly to girls and i don’t think i’d like that. ;)

* and one more

i like facial hair but not a goatee.

sum: Quit looking or searching for her. the secret is, once you give up, it falls in your lap.

* ggrrr

HAIR

unsoshable wrote:
sum: Quit looking or searching for her. the secret is, once you give up, it falls in your lap.

sometimes literally ;)

PheeGee wrote:

unsoshable wrote:
sum: Quit looking or searching for her. the secret is, once you give up, it falls in your lap.

sometimes literally ;)

It did me… I am madly in love with a woman, but I screwed it up… However she came into my life when I gave up on love, relationships, etc.

Sum: Best of luck to you and stay confident. Women love confidence

PheeGee wrote:

unsoshable wrote:
sum: Quit looking or searching for her. the secret is, once you give up, it falls in your lap.

sometimes literally ;)

she lives in another state and currently another country so thats not that easy

again. omg i still fit most of what everyones describing minus good muscles and athleticness and sports and confidence

I like music, preferably some kind of rock, though all brands sound if they are well composed. I play guitar…just not well. My father also plays guitar, very well. I am both compassionate and honest. Of course I can express that I care and so much more. I’m not emo nor a kid. Admittedly, I do snuggle and love that fact. I can be talkative when it seems necessary, though frequently I am the quite and listening type. I’m not sure about crazy adventures but outgoing sounds very good to me. And, alas I am a bit of a nerd. So hey I fit most of that. Go figure!

hahaha then get a gym membership and learn to act and you should be able to pull anyone.

Have you ever noticed the most gorgeous fun loving women with these idiots that look like they crawled out of a garbage can and doesnt treat that women very well…. its the confidence they have that take ahold of the woman.

hopelikefire4 wrote:
He must like music. Preferably my kind of music. Bonus points if he plays an instrument and extra bonus points if it’s guitar…guys alway look better holding a guitar :3 Obviously this is because I like music, and maybe because I was brought up with music. Both my parents play guitar :P
Compassion and sensitivity are important to me. I honestly can’t stand macho guys who are too tough to show any emotion, they seem fake or distant to me. I want him to care and also be able to express that he cares, not just to me but to everyone. And I know this is a heavily disputed point but I want him to feel comfortable crying if he needs to. Doesn’t seem unmanly to me, just human. And I would like him to be human. This is probably because I am kind of an “emo” kid I guess. So he’s gotta be able to understand what I’m going through…I need to know he can feel like I do.
I want a snuggler. I like affection and I like giving affection, any time, any place :P
He’s got to be talkative because I am the opposite. I love to listen to other people’s stories and if they’ll just talk to me, even though I don’t say much at first, I open up as I get more comfortable. So he has to be outgoing and willing to make the first move.
He must be comfortable making a fool of himself in public, able to laugh off mistakes, and just enjoy being a goofball for the heck of it. You get into a lot of crazy adventures with a guy like that. ^^ And like I said above, I’m pretty quiet at first, but when I’m around energetic outgoing people, people I trust, I get really crazy and silly and just have a blast. So if he’s kind of a nerd like I am we can have a super awesome blast :P

That’s the general idea…and I do believe I’ve found him :3

I like music, preferably some kind of rock, though all brands sound if they are well composed. I play guitar…just not well. My father also plays guitar, very well. I am both compassionate and honest. Of course I can express that I care and so much more. I’m not emo nor a kid. Admittedly, I do snuggle and love that fact. I can be talkative when it seems necessary, though frequently I am the quite and listening type. I’m not sure about crazy adventures but outgoing sounds very good to me. And, alas I am a bit of a nerd. So hey I fit most of that. Go figure!

unsoshable wrote:
Have you ever noticed the most gorgeous fun loving women with these idiots that look like they crawled out of a garbage can and doesnt treat that women very well…. its the confidence they have that take ahold of the woman.

so very very true.

PheeGee wrote:

unsoshable wrote:
Have you ever noticed the most gorgeous fun loving women with these idiots that look like they crawled out of a garbage can and doesnt treat that women very well…. its the confidence they have that take ahold of the woman.

so very very true.

One other big big big tip I can give you….

DONT BE NEEDY OF HER ATTENTION. If you want her attention and you let it be known, she will give it for a little while, then shut you down. Dont be needy.

When it comes to confidence read the first article on www.yourdepressionhelp.com it explains alot.

the best line in that article is: “The confident man who I find attractive doesn’t need reassurance or to have his ego constantly stroked. He’s not looking for me to complete him but for me to complement him instead.”

I said to my son who is 19 “What do girls find interesting about us ?”
He said “I don’t have a clue”

PheeGee wrote:
hahaha then get a gym membership and learn to act and you should be able to pull anyone.

I work out every day almost now and have for months and months but to little avail >_ ……. the acting part is easier said than done when youve been isolated for years and never been close to anyone before and are wanting love of a specific special person whos amazing and perfect herself (well at least to me she is).

sum wrote:

PheeGee wrote:
hahaha then get a gym membership and learn to act and you should be able to pull anyone.

I work out every day almost now and have for months and months but to little avail >_ ……. the acting part is easier said than done when youve been isolated for years and never been close to anyone before and are wanting love of a specific special person whos amazing and perfect herself (well at least to me she is).

She does not think of herself as highly as you do of her, have you told her how you feel?

PheeGee wrote:

sum wrote:

PheeGee wrote:
hahaha then get a gym membership and learn to act and you should be able to pull anyone.

I work out every day almost now and have for months and months but to little avail >_ ……. the acting part is easier said than done when youve been isolated for years and never been close to anyone before and are wanting love of a specific special person whos amazing and perfect herself (well at least to me she is).

She does not think of herself as highly as you do of her, have you told her how you feel?

not so sure how she thinks of herself but i know she used to have an eating disorder although shes really beautiful.

yup but too late after things got really complicated and messed up so im trying hard to fix the damage. It has its own long long story that isnt even half of what i put down. This kind of stuff is stranger than the stuff that happens in movies if i said everything =/ http://help.com/post/262291-okay-so-t…

oh, um that’s a way to make a girl scared to respond. I won’t be eloquent with my response.
Things that I love about my guy are
A) Physical:
~Long, cylindrical and strong arms
~His cute little dimples on his chin (many of them), that I see when he laughs (which is often)
~His goatie that he lets grow when he is on leave from work (done only for me)
~His very muscular top half of his legs
~I am so jealous of the bottom half of his legs. His work boots from his uniform means hair never grows there, and the bottom half is long too. Bonus!
~I like the way his eyes sparkle when he laughs
~I love the smile that he has for his kids
I love the special little smile that is just for me.

Personality:
~I love the patience and understanding that he shows.
~I love his compassion for others
~His commitment to doing what is right, even when people don’t deserve his kindness
~His honesty
~His integrity
~His laugh
~His jokester style
~His commitment to me and his children
~his commitment to his work
~his loyalty to his friends
~his attitude in life
~his self-discipline
~his motivation
~his self relliannce
~his ability to lean and crumble and not feel weak for doing so
~his love of family
~the way he reassures me
~His work ethic
~His hygiene
~his punctuality
~his compromising skills
~his ability to cheer me
~his cooking, cleaning skills and house duty skills
~his listening (not just hearing) skills
~His hugs
~His kisses
~The way he holds me, and gentle touch
~the love he gives me, unconditionally
~The way he interacts with the kids and acts just like them
~his big heart
tooo many to name really.

good sence of humour make us laugh alot!!! nice personalitys urrrmmm i only care about personality really not bothered about anything as long as i have a good time with him thats all that matters oh and of course i have to fancy him lol

jjlove I think I love you for the simplicity and truth in what you speak. These are the qualities that will make any individual to anyone. Thank you for that delightful comment.

jjlove wrote:
Honesty, integrity, a sense of humor, warmth, compassion, intelligence, passion…

*attractive*

i loves these kinds of posts hahaha.

how old are you, the person who created this post?

I am 22.

okay, then my opinion probably won’t be of any help.

Probably not, yet I’m sure it will be fun to add your opinion. No harm in it. Say what you feel. There can only be a positive result in this kind of situation, there is simply nothing to lose.

CONFIDENCE!
period :)

Well. There ain`t any hope for me here then.

I like men that are matter of fact and unemotional about things. Truthful is very important to me. Strong back. I like the back of their head and neck. I am emotionally stunted but that view of the back is so sweet to me.

Yeah me either.

I just went back and re-read the original post. Was it edited? I don’t know, I guess I must be more tired than I realised. I posted all of the qualities that my guy actually possesses. He wasn’t unobtainable. Actually, I was lucky. He liked me. No pressure for me. :) If he hadn’t asked, I never would have had the courage to do it. I was/am WAY too shy for that!

Yes most people did seem to miss the point of the post. But I was glad for to it get so much recognition and responses so I didn’t say anything.

hey i gave my description of what i was ideally looking for as the obtainable near perfect man. That was the idea of this right?

The purpose was for you to enjoy designing your perfect lover. If that’s what you wrote, then I congratulate you.

What most people missed was how deep this can be. But that’s all right no need for pressure, just enjoy the post.

I thought that it was to tell what you HAD ALREADY FOUND in a lover. That’s what I wrote about, LOL. My response was wrong, not everybody else’s. I guess that mine really wasn’t wrong either, bc what he possess is what I would want. He is my prince charming.

Mine is wrong too I suppose…but I think sometimes people want the wrong things or leave things out. My guy is not the type I expected to end up with really, but now that we’re together I can’t imagine it any other way. He compliments my personality in ways I hadn’t even considered before he came into my life. And sometimes he annoys me, but sometimes I need to be annoyed. Helps me grow, if that makes any sense.

Like he is cuddly and sweet most of the time, but I can be a real whiner and start complaining about how hard everything is–I’m looking for sympathy, but that’s when he backs off. And that’s what I need, not what I want. He shows me I can take care of myself, when I don’t want to believe it.