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This scares me. I can’t believe how much pain you have seen already in your life. your a very brave person to still believe there even is a God, most would have given up and ran a mile in the opposite direction. I like to think there is a reason for these things but it’s gotta be a **** good one if you ask me!

My advice is to just keep going how you are, battleing through it. grieve her loss! but don’t allow it to let you give up! Your strong! I can tell! My life has also been filled with this shape and form of pain. nowhere near the extremity of yours but all the same just keep looking forward! it’s all you can do! 3

Thank you for sharing this story, Sky. It’s unfortunate that people feel so helpless in their lives that they see suicide is the only option for them, as they see that no longer being here will keep the problem away from them. People should see that life is a gift and everyday should be enjoyed as it’s a gift as well. We should all see the good in the day, not what’s wrong as that’s not healthy. Staying completely positive during a time of crisis is the way to make it through any situation no matter how grim the circumstances seem. I guess there are some people who are alone and don’t have anyone to comfort them in these times of need. I believe that if we see someone who is going through a tough time and needs someone who isn’t there, then we should step in and be humane and lend them a shoulder to lean on. On a side note, I hope this experience has helped you on the inside as well, as experiencing it will also make you stronger on the inside.

Im sorry to hear for your loss, and I wish I could offer some sort of comfort but what your going through cant be changed by anything I can say, just know that no matter what you cant let yourself feel lost, and when you feel that way immediately go hang with with friends, watch a good movie, go for a walk or whatever it takes to make it easier you gotta make sure you can keepp on going, when you carry so much pain with you.

LIVE!!! That’s all you can do!

I’m always here, to talk to…even when I’m horrid at it. I’m sorry….:( in all ways possible I’m sorry.

Be that vibrant person they knew and loved you for, it wont be easy at first…but…you can do it. If anyone could live on, as sayitsso says, and live on well..its you. I believe in you and I believe in that, I’m sure that they did too. I know it wont take the pain away…I know nothing but time will. But at least know that I believe in you, and that I’m here to talk to, and that we all are….I dont want you to lose hope ever….or despair, no matter what the world throws at you, because you can shine so brightly. But you must feel so dark right now, I know…and my words must seem hollow and irrelevant. But I can always crawl down there into the darkness and keep you company, and remind you whats waiting above.

-Snar

It’s something very tough to go through.

I am so sorry for your loss and for the what you have recently experienced.

Red Sky, if ever there is anything I can do let me know. I am presently without words :(

Many of the pat answers we are given about the toughest times in life are rationalizations that people use to support their belief systems.

In my humble opinion, the truth is there’s more about the world and life, death and love, that we don’t know than what we do know. Perhaps one day we will understand fully, or maybe not knowing the answers allows us to live more authentically in the present.

Red, just know that your friends here love you, and if there’s anything we can do to help you through this, please let us know.

One day my dear, You will be “called upon” to comfort those who have “lost”. And you will remember this time and how you felt, you will know what to do then. It is so sad, but just as fractured bones when they heal are stronger than the rest of the bone, you too will be strengthened.

god, I’m soooo sorry :( my condolences for both your friends. I have a friend that once tried to take her life, and it was my fault :( but life goes on. I’ve gotten over it quite well, and if I can, nothing can stop you from doing it too :) Just try to stay strong when you know you need to, but let your emotions go at the right times too

There is a God but God has given us free will.
If someone wishes to kill themselves God will not stop them.
It seems sad,But know that death is not really death.
These people have gone to heaven.They will be reborn again
and will face life again.
They must overcome their mind set.
The goal of all human life is:

the purpose of life is to gradually perfect ourselves from where we are now
to the level of a master like Jesus, Buddha, Mohammed, Krishna, Hercules, etc.
we do this by reincarnating over and over again in groups.
We go through five steps:
1/ mastery over the physical plane.
2/mastery over the astral plane( emotional plane)
3/mastery over the mental plane.
4/the crucifixion
5/resurrection

Jesus demonstrated those 5 steps 2000 years ago.
when you reach the fifth step you are permanently free.(saved)

Condolences for your friend s. Sorry.

Go into a quiet room and play “Moonlight sonata”
And you will be reconnected with your soul.
And all will be well again.

Red be strong hon, life is so hard for many at the moment. Adults find things so hard, and teens have the added problems of Adolescence some get depressed. Ive said this many times on here the bad times will pass, the teen years is such a hard time for everyone ask any adult thats been through it. With maturity comes the coping mechanisms we dont have in our teen years and as we age those depressing problems are more easily solved.
Surround yourself with happy people, try to think happy thoughts, it sounds simple but you’ll be surprised at how just this will keep you on an even keel.
You know where we are if you want to chat hon, don’t internalize this sadness your going through, talk it out, it will help a lot. Im so sorry for the loss of your friend,let yourself grieve though, its all part of getting through it everyone must grieve its part of the process of recovery when we lose someone. )))))))))))hugs.

I’m not sure what to say to these. =/ I’m so sorry that this has happened. I’m here if you want to talk, I know it hurts. And life will continue to take and give. But always remember that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how dark it seems.
I feel for you. I’m so sorry about what happened. :(

spiratec9 wrote:
There is a God but God has given us free will.
If someone wishes to kill themselves God will not stop them.
It seems sad,But know that death is not really death.
These people have gone to heaven.They will be reborn again
and will face life again.
They must overcome their mind set.
The goal of all human life is:

the purpose of life is to gradually perfect ourselves from where we are now
to the level of a master like Jesus, Buddha, Mohammed, Krishna, Hercules, etc.
we do this by reincarnating over and over again in groups.
We go through five steps:
1/ mastery over the physical plane.
2/mastery over the astral plane( emotional plane)
3/mastery over the mental plane.
4/the crucifixion
5/resurrection

Jesus demonstrated those 5 steps 2000 years ago.
when you reach the fifth step you are permanently free.(saved)

and

spiratec9 wrote:
Go into a quiet room and play “Moonlight sonata”
And you will be reconnected with your soul.
And all will be well again.

Incidentally the creator of Moonlight sonata is 3rd degree
initiate almost a master.

I wish you a great spring…and a fantastic summer:)

I’m very sorry for your loss. If only they know how hurting it is for those they have left behind.

It is going to take a while, but you know you are going in the right direction.

My thoughts are with you,
lilies

Sorry to hear what you’re going through. *hugs*

many hugs to you as well as the family members of your friend.
sometimes, people feel so over whelmed that they see this as their only way out, sadly.. but never taking that one moment to see what pain they leave behind.
the one thing that this can teach us is that it shows us how we as humans love and care for another and hopefully it shows those others who are thinking of this same action to have a second thought because they will see just what happens when someone does do this.

im am very sorry for this happening in your life. and i wish that it was not a choice that anyone could ever make in life. because it does leave the rest of us with many questions unanswered….

keep your friends memories close to you, and if you can share you emotions of pain with someone else thinking of doing this, maybe it can shed a bit of light of what happens to those who are left behind and maybe it can shed a little bit of light onto them and stop them from making the same mistake.

hope this helps…

many hugs to you… love shie.

Life is amazingly cruel sometimes, and it’s a tragedy you have to get through this. BUt you will, and hopefully it makes you a stronger, better person in the future. Hugs to you, and hang in there!

** Life is hard. Too hard sometimes and it seems to play out like a test. But your loved ones didn’t fail. They just bowed out. It’s ok to forfeit the game, when you’re too injured to continue. But you’ll succeed. And you’ll come away from this experience stronger. Everything happens for a reason. There’s a method to this madness. All my wishes and thoughts are with you tonight, Red_Sky. **

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your dear friend. Claiming and working through you grief will not be easy tasks, but you will get through them and be stronger for the experience. Coming here for support is a good idea. As you can see by the many replies to your post, you are not alone. You have many friends here, so let us help you get through this terrible time.

Don’t stay gone too long, hun.

Dear Red_Sky,
I love you and want you to be happy.
Sincerely,
Someone who doesn’t know what else to say.

Dear Red-Sky,

I’m late getting here … and now that I am here, I can’t find the right words to tell you just how sorry I am for what you’ve gone through. If wishing would make it so, I’d be there with you, holding your hand and giving your head a soft shoulder to rest on.

No one at your young age should know so much grief, yet despite your pain, you show an uncommon amount of strength and wisdom. This much older woman is in awe of you and how eloquently you worded your post and replies. Your post literally reaches out and grabs hold of the hearts that read it.

I don’t claim to understand how the world works or why things happen as they do. I have no way of knowing what your friends were thinking or what brought them to take those measures. But I do believe, based on what I see in your eloquent writing, that your roommate and all of your other friends will benefit greatly from your friendship … as will all the people you’ve yet to meet in your life.

It is evident that you carry a light within you that glows warmly and wisely, Red-Sky. People who cross your path will benefit greatly from the experience.

Wishing you peace during your healing, sincerely and with great admiration, -Aries.

I am also very terribly sorry for your losses. I also have a friend that I saw hanging from the yellow rope in the corner of his room. We were too late, but the trauma and grief it has caused is extraordinary. I can tell you this… You are a stronger person now and you might even be able to help several families of the lost ones. I’m not sure what you wanted to do in life but because you have dealt with the hurt so many times you might help not only the grief-stricken families but also yourself by talking to them.
Just know that we are all here for you any time you need us. We love you and care about you. xoxo.

hello, I appologize for getting to this post so late, and I have to give you a hug for being so courageous! I admire your strength, and hun questioning is never a bad thing, it actually is part of a healing process.

Suicide is tragic, and it is true that for the person who is endure such feelings, they feel that they are an outsider. They need someone to understand and yet, no one can, for those who are left behind thier act causes us to walk in their shoes even it its for a time because of the wound that they leave cuts so deep.

The sayings that keep going around in your mind, while they are true, it isn’t so in a person who is contemplating suicide. They feel forsaken by everyone including God and even by their own feelings.

Suicide happens not for any good reason, it happens because the person living life has given up. They have forsaken themselves and refuse to enter another day in despair and solitude and for them there is no other way out.
It is not by anything anyone else could have done, prevented or said… Once someone makes it up in thier mind to do this to themselves, no amount of convincing will be able to stop it. Perhaps for a time, but the feelings never go away… It’s a hollow void that no amount of friends, things, money or life can fill.

The best way you can handle this is to live. Allow their memory to be a monument of life. Take the best of memories and the best that they had in themselves and become a friend to someone and do it well. Be that friend to yourself and allow yourself some breaks and latitude to mess up. Life is a gift and it’s all about learning from mistakes. Expect nothing but the best out of yourself and live free. Free from the burden of empowering emotions and give yourself the ability to speak.
Speak and use your voice to allow feelings out. Use paper, a microphone, the computer a website and just allow the negative feelings a place to rest. Do not dwell on mistakes or the negatives and just allow yourself to be who you are to become.

If you need to chat, please send an email srnityblu(@)yahoo.com
We’ve been there, suicide is not painless.