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big-eg

Hi I have OCD and would like some general advice please.

well to sum it up I am constantly seeking reassurance off my friends.sending them texts asking if i was being an *** after a night out.I would like your opinions.do you think I would be driving them away doing this?they know I have OCD but Im sure it annoys them.When I send them texts I appolagise for sending them but as I said Im sure it annoys them. by the way Im closer to one guy and its generaly him I text so he might feel im singling him out I dont know.Any advice would be greatly appreciated
thanks

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Jubilee 1 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

to be honest that doesn’t sound like OCD, just sounds like you are a little insecure..

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Anonymous #
7 months, 2 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Texting your friends to ask them them stuff repeatedly isn’t OCD… You’re insecure and need reassurance and you may very well be driving your friends up the wall but i don’t know why you have decided that means you have OCD.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

sorry I should have said I was diagnosed with it a couple of years ago.this constant looking for reassurance are compulsions and I often cant think of anything else unless I get this sorted.OCD comes in a number of forms.I dont have any probelm with obsessively washing my hands this is my compulsive behaviour

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7 months, 2 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

Ok big-eg… thanks for clearing that up… i understand about the different forms of OCD but found it difficult to see how texting was a problem for you… I’m sure you must have been given ways to cope with your compulsions but i am guessing they don’t work as well now… i think the key is to somehow build up your self confidence… without relying on others to do it for you… difficult i know.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

thanks your probably right.Do you think its too late to still be friends with these guys.have I driven them away? is there any way to make it up to them?
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~Shie~ 11 #
Gloversville, NY, US | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 58 minutes after post)

you may have ocd, but what you stated above does sound like insecurity as jubilee mentioned…

my daughter and i both suffer from ocd.. did you know that they have medication for ocd that will slow down your condition.. it doesnt take it away.. but it does slow it down a bit… talk to your doctor about it..

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (4 hours, 15 minutes after post)

yeah im on 60mg of fluoxetine at the moment.Maybe I dont want to be insecure and am using my ocd as a cover for just being insecure I dont know.I just want to have a normal life but I cant.as you are aware you have to carry out compulsions,I feel these texts are compulsions.Does anyone know if my friends will be able to put up with this.If you had a friend who had OCD and needed help now and again what would you do,would you put up with it?
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Anonymous #
7 months, 2 weeks ago (4 hours, 51 minutes after post)

All depends on the friend… some would find it easy to support you and some would find it difficult plus it depends what is going on in their lives too…of course if you don’t feel supported because they don’t immediately respond or say the wrong thing then it feeds into your OCD… How about you lose your phone for the day…. Most people freak out at the thought of not having a mobile glued to their hands so i know this is a difficult one to do but i think if you can manage one day… or maybe build up from one morning to a whole day… it will help you loads… just forget to pick it up one day… go out without it… then you can’t text…you can’t worry because you didn’t get a response to the text you sent… you can’t spend ten minutes reading and re reading the text sent back wondering if they really mean it or are just saying it…. etc etc… Give it a go and see how well you cope.

~Shie~ 11 #
Gloversville, NY, US | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 15 hours after post)

big-eg wrote:
yeah im on 60mg of fluoxetine at the moment.Maybe I dont want to be insecure and am using my ocd as a cover for just being insecure I dont know.I just want to have a normal life but I cant.as you are aware you have to carry out compulsions,I feel these texts are compulsions.Does anyone know if my friends will be able to put up with this.If you had a friend who had OCD and needed help now and again what would you do,would you put up with it?
Thanks

i personally think you are using your ocd as a cover as you are saying… just by what you said in your post.
as for ocd, its a compulsion to do things over and over, such as counting, washing hands, myself… i have this thing where if i have money in my purse.. even though it is zipped… i have to keep looking inside my purse every couple of minutes to make sure it didnt jump out… lol.. absolutely annoying… but its something that i have to do… even though i know deep down, my money is there…
these are things that ocd is… repetitive things that you feel you have to keep doing… but in your post… you describe something that is reflecting your insecurities…
ocd is a disorder that you can not control… but insecurities are something that you can work on to fix.. maybe talk to your friends and ask them for a bit of help in that state of your life.. friends arent just to have fun with, they are there to help you in times of need as well.. best of luck.. hugs, shie.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (3 months, 1 week after post)

Hi big-eg. I also had/have an OCD problem with texting and had to go through a series of meds and cognitive-behavioral therapy three times a week. My texting focused on just one person up to 100xs a day sometimes. I would have long conversations without a response. Just as a lot of people here don’t really understand the behavior, you can’t expect many people to understand, even other people with OCD. i lost a lot of friends due to lack of understanding.
Group therapy helped with my self-esteem. Others who were suffering anxiety and depression were vital in recognizing that I wasn’t alone. I also had to completely cut off my texting feature and blocked it. I was able to re-add it after I got better. I just had to realize that if I wanted a better quality of life, I had to make that sacrifice.
Although you say that “you have to carry out compulsions” you will find that this does not have to be true when you seek out the right help.

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