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clingy, needy and annoying..
how do I stop??
About two months into a relationship I realised the guy wasn’t for me. Unfortunately, for the duration of our relationship we were waaay too close, meeting each other’s families, spending every waking minute together, getting involved in each other’s lives to the exclusion of all else… which I put down to my emotional state for the five years beforehand (very emotional, very fragile)
Anyway, when we were still going out, about two weeks after I realised we weren’t meant to be, I met another guy. This guy, looking at it logically, was perfect for me. Confident, outgoing, same interests, etc. and we hit it off almost immediately. The chemistry was amazing. Therefore, after another two weeks, I broke up with the first guy to go out with the second.
This second guy has been a player the last six years, and is only now attempting to reform and therefore we have decided not to have sex for three months. I agreed to this, knowing that I need to be able to step back from a relationship and be able to ‘take it slow’ so that I don’t make the same mistake I did the first time.. I don’t know about you guys, but I find this a mature approach on both our parts.
Unfortunately, I didn’t realise how DIFFICULT it would be. I’m having so much trouble just getting on with life - it’s only been a couple of weeks since I started going out with the second guy and I’m having trouble not contacting him.. I’m out of hobbies, I’m not interested in anything I was before I started going out with guy #1… so I’m very aware I’m just sitting around waiting for guy #2 to contact me… time passes really slowly and I can’t concentrate or do anything. I put this down to clingy-ness and effect of my relationship with guy #1 and I’ve been doing everything I can to avoid the same situation, but it’s slowly driving me crazy. Everything I try to distract myself with isn’t enough… and.. I really, really want this second relationship to work out. So badly.
So.. help? What can I do to help myself? I can’t.. ergh. I’m a mess right now.
Thanks in advance
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