friends help: Is it wrong to not care? - Help.com

My uncles died last september and i will say this… the matter in which they die makes the difference. My mother has barley any compassion now since he took his own life and we were all left to wonder WTF? Can you talk about it?

everyone deals with death differently
have you bean like this before?

I believe it’s irregular not to care, obviously and primarily because we as human beings have devised this emotional bond between people who we see most often, and those who teach us things. However wandering from this method of amiability and thus becoming impassive if you will, may cause us not to express the right emotions during unfortunate occurrences which would then isolate our character and classify our being as contemptible. To rephrase a question: Do we as human beings have a responsibility to administer consolation to those who require it or appear to be forlorn? I think the answer is yes, we do. And for those that don’t feel compelled to do so then they must be living a wretched life to which they’ve insisted upon. How else would a callous individual be able to explain rationally, why they are incapable of having compassion? But now I feel like a minister who is standing behind a pulpit and lecturing the congregation on moral behavior, when even myself questions this inherent peculiarity.

It’s very difficult for others to accept death. Do you think you’ll ever recover?

Sorry about the wordiness, I get carried away in these philosophies by various aurthors.

I suppose I could’ve, but I was hoping it would be somewhat enlightening.

I think the more we prepare ourselves for intimate death, the more distress we seem to endure when the time arrives. But of course, that can also be untrue for a multitude of people. They may find it easier to cope with death if it’s unforeseen.

I think you should cherish the few people you have left in your life that care for you. They need you more than the loved ones who have already perished. In the end, you’ll have someone dear to your heart to rely on in the midst of your own inconveniences.

Annyia D.B Hardwick wrote:
well she had cancer, and it wasnt sudden, the doc said she only had like a week to live anyway, so i dont kno why im like this, and it shouldnt last this long, i wasnt even that close to her..

I wasnt that close to my uncle. I had only met him a hand full of times and i started to get extremely depressed because of his death. I have his picture on my desk and its kind of my inspiration now.. to some degree. Death is hard and there is no limit to how long you will be mourning the loss…. but things will get better!