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I cant believe couselors make their patients do stupid things…. and whats with the contracts? I may have only seem one counselor but that doesnt sound right… not sure what to do to help you… sorry

Talk to her again.. How many weeks of hockey is left?? Do you socialise with people at hockey??

Well that’s really a bit*ch. I would suggest talking to your parents, see if they can make her see she’s not thinking rationally.

It seems like she could rearrange the group that conflicts with your hobby or just cancel it until the season concludes. Are three sessions of therapy a week really necessary?

What are the consequences for breaching this contract?

Just tell her no. You’ve always done the hockey, and if anything, it is making you more socially involved then sitting talking to a bunch of people you’ve never met. Tell her that doing hockey is better for you because it’s going to keep you healthy, keep you active, build up confidence, meet new people, learn new skills, and help you work as a team….its enterpising and does you a whole lot more good than going to some club or something which you likely wont even enjoy…

Hey… well then explain to her that hockey is only for a few more weeks & you do socialise at hockey so you will do the other 2 groups & then pick up the third one when the hockey season closes… That should be a fair compromise.. If she doesn’t agree then I would speak to your parents and see if they will have a word with her….

Don’t worry - I’m sure she will agree to a happy compromise… :)

See if there’s another group on another night?

As Tears mentioned, it would seem apparent that your hockey games are more socially interactive and conducive to your therapy rather than a group session.

But is this negotiable with your counselor, or is she going to be extremely adamant about this?

Tell her she is an shortsighted counselor!

Puck You wrote:
No, she is adamant

Well then speak to your parents… It is not a counsellors job to make you do anything; encourage yes but make no… Maybe she was having a really off day & came across too strong… Maybe she thought you were using hockey as an excuse not to go to the group but either way she can’t make you… Go have a chat with your parents :)

When you signed the contract, doesn’t that secure her profit?

Does this counselor get money from you, your parents, or the government for these counseling sessions? And are they mandated by any court of law that you actually must attend?

Then the counselor is doing you more harm than good by making you give up hockey for the counseling sessions. Specially if you, yourself, after your hockey sessions. She should see your hockey sessions as part of your therapy for socializing. She sounds like a shortsighted counselor with very narrow minded ideas about counseling. I would go over her head or I would even talk to the insurance company and explain to them your situation. This counselor sounds like she/he needs a lesson in flexibility!

So you would lose that insurance if you did not attend?

Do you think this therapy is helping you? Sounds like from the way this counselor is behaving is doing you more harm than good. From your reading your post, sounds like you have been sweating this issue a lot. I would talk to your parents and have a good sit down with this “counselor” and see if she can improve her bedside manners to help you better.

If it were me, I would try to advocate the benefit of playing hockey and see if she will stipulate your hobby as being helpful to you, and perhaps consider your own desire for enjoyment. I think she would understand that you wouldn’t mind taking three classes if you had the convenience. She would’ve to be very apathetic in my opinion, to disregard your personal interests of a little recreation and demand that her terms be abided infallibly. However, if it contributes to her profit then she could very well be self-righteously unyeilding and not feel guilty for her stubbornness.

Puck You wrote:
Well, I have been seeing her for 5 years and she had helped me out a lot up until now. It’s this stupid contract!

you shouldn’t have signed it if you didn’t agree to it.

I was at somethign in school and they gave us all a contract to sign saying we’ll do this and we’ll do that and I disagreed with the lot of it.
I was the last on given it and i just sat there and read it through whilst everyone else signed it. When they all had and they asked me to I just said no I dont agree with it and I dont want too. They were a bit shocked at me for saying it but after i made it clear I wasn’t gunna sign it they just took it back and said alright then.

So she blackmailed you? Sounds like she needs counseling.

Puck You wrote:
I told her no and then she said that she would discharge me from therapy then.

Nice threat…but she seems to be playing the discharge card a bit tooooo often

Perhaps if she doesn’t wish to allow the continuation of your hockey games, then maybe you should inform her that coercion is a unlawful even if you do have a license to practice or at least think you do.

How difficult would it be for you to get appointed to a new counselor? Lets say if she decides to be relentless.

But the possibility of a different counselor being more verbally compromising and lenient is hopeless in that department?

I see, well nevertheless I wish you the best of luck in your attempt to dissuade her from insisting that you exclude your recreational activity.